Crying Kid!

At times, when you are not doing something so called meaningful, meaningful things happen. 

Just noticed, that a kid has kept on crying for more than 10 minutes in a nearby apartment. 

Don’t really know the reason, but makes me wonder whether that’s how future is going to be for most of the kids with the kind of education system we have in place. 

An education system which kills all curiosity and an ability to question would surely lead our kids and thereby society in that direction. 

Not just kids, we adults are often found to be crying over one thing or the other,

Be it the boss screwing us up today with shit load of work,

Spouse quarrels, 

Traffic jams, 

Physical discomfort, 

What not!

Simply being unable to handle different challenging situations at different points of time in our lives, 

Which takes us back to the crying kid, 

What if:

The crying kid was catered to in a manner so that he/she would be able to manage his/her state of mind, 

Adult stakeholders (parents, relatives, teachers, siblings etc), 

Providing him/her the tools to be able to do so,

Giving him/her enough time and attention which was needed to just hear them out, 

Being that eternal friend, philosopher and guide that he/she might be craving for, 

And 

Most importantly, not imposing our own grown up expectations on the kid, 

Would the crying kid grow up to become the crying adult? 

Well, chances are less, though one can always argue on the pretext of one’s destiny. 

But wasn’t destiny about taking control of our own lives, I wonder!

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Blissful Ignorance!

They say, ignorance is bliss! 

Why don’t you just ignore him? Her best friend advised.

Why do you care? He was instructed by his colleague. 

Does it help? 

How do you feel when someone ignores you blatantly in a social gathering?

How can it be a bliss? 

After having spent so much time together, the last thing you would expect is to be ignored.

Wasn’t giving your presence an eye and an ear the basis of any society or civilisation?

What some refer to as:

Bond 

Love

Relationship

Friendship

Or 

Just being 

For the lack of vocabulary. 

Choosing to be ignored or ignoring,

One ends up in an emotional mess, 

Not finding a way out what so ever,

Not knowing how to react or respond,

Not finding a purpose so to say.

Wasn’t getting educated supposed to mean that we are able to handle situations in a mature manner?

Wasn’t being mature also means one is able to manage one’s emotions in a sensible manner?

Be it your ex,

Be it the boss you hate,

Be it your so called enemy, 

Or 

Just someone you don’t like for whatever reason,

Wouldn’t having the art to deal with such situations be a bliss instead? 

Still choosing to ignore or be ignored? 

Do it at your own risk, for that’s surely not going to bring you any happiness, if I may say so!

For avoidance or ignorance is certainly not the bliss one craves for. 

Opportunus!

We keep talking about this opportunity or that opportunity. 

Someone getting lucky because the roll of the dice was such.

Timing being right, right place at the right time. 

But have we ever wondered about this constant fascination and tendency of attributing everything to the RIGHT situations. 

Well, what are these opportunities and how they fall flat for some and not for others? 

Where do these come from?

What is the source?

Are they created or all laid down?

Are they destined to happen in a certain way for few individuals?

For the not so successful, it might be destiny 

And 

The ones who have made the cut might talk about the efforts they put in. 

Whatever be the version, there is nothing in the world that comes as a grant. 

It’s ultimately the result of the hard work one puts in.

Lets look at it this way:

Result is directly proportional to the effort one makes contingent upon the boundaries that one has created for themselves in their minds.

Is there a chance to expand those boundaries? 

Delta by delta, can we keep expanding our horizons?

No one learnt to walk the very day they were born,

Constant efforts along with some mentorship and support made it possible. 

Why not treat our life as a platform of opportunities to keep expanding each day!

The only opportunity one has by the way is to keep creating opportunities on a daily basis, be it personal or professional. 

The only question being, are we prepared to treat this life as an opportunity to accomplish things we would be remembered for. 

Source for the Image: http://ejmayers.blogspot.com/2014/03/the-origin-of-opportunity.html, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/opportunity

The Creators’ Creation!

One fine day, God must have thought, “enough is enough “

How long can I go on like this?

Creating, nurturing etc etc

I need to have my agents down there on planet Earth willing to,

Take up the role that I am so adept at,

He must have thought about all the qualities that those agents should have,

One:
emotional for without emotions there wouldn’t be any care,

Two:
strong, for without strength there wouldn’t be equilibrium,

Three:
forgiving, for men would act stupid at times,

Four:
nurturing, for that could only keep homo sapiens alive,

And the list would have gone on and on,

Till He must have realised that it would possibly be the most important creation that He would have ever done in His lifetime, if I may take the liberty of referring it as such,

So, to all hard working and wonderful beings whom we all refer to as women,

Here is wishing you a very happy women’s day!

May you grow in strength,

May you achieve your dreams,

And

May you keep making this planet the most beautiful dream human kind can ever wish about residing in.

Source for the Image: https://www.atheistalliance.org/thinking-out-loud/how-to-prove-creationism-is-true/, https://www.heartbeatservices.org/images/women.jpg

Happiness Overrated?

I wanna be happy! He uttered. 

What’s stopping you, she said. 

And then there was silence.

Well, happiness is so overrated, don’t you think so? 

Why do you say so? She exclaimed.

What is happiness for that matter? 

Nothing but a state of mind. 

He continued:

What if my mind has no bandwidth to think about this aspect of life?

What if I deep dive into something that doesn’t give me time to think about happiness altogether?

What if the very concept doesn’t occur to me?

What if there exist no such endeavour?

For you can choose to be or not depending on your mind’s willingness to do so.

And what is mind after all, a monkey sitting on your shoulders whom you are trying to take control of, all your lives.

After all it’s us the middle class who keep pondering over how to be happy.

The successful have no time neither energy to bother about such things. 

They are too involved and engaged doing something.

And 

As each day goes by, they progress and move towards their well thought out goals.

Only to be appreciated and recognised for their achievements.

A day comes when they depart leaving their legacy behind. 

So, what about happiness? 

She got her turn:

Yes, working day and night does keep you engaged,

Yes, engaging and rewarding as it might seem, 

Do they take a pause to admire the beautiful colours of the flora and fauna around?

Do they find a moment to breathe the fresh morning dew?

Do they smile for no reason, just feeling alive?

Do they cherish the life for no other reason?

And 

Yes, they do leave a legacy but what for and for whom, for they are already gone. 

He listened attentively, 

With

A drop of tear in his eyes, 

A thought haunting enough to make him sad. 

Maybe repenting,

Maybe contemplating what if? 

Was it too late? He wondered.

Time to be happy I guess! She smiled as she had the last word looking straight into his eyes. 

Source for the Image: https://uxdesign.cc/designing-happiness-ac9c56359df, https://www.dreamstime.com/photos-images/happiness.html

The need to Speak Up?

Imagine you are in a gathering full of people,

All kinds, 

Few you know,

Few acquaintances,

Few wanna be’s,

And then there is you, the quintessential introvert,

Who speak up when spoken to,

Who doesn’t brag about anything and everything in this world, 

Who don’t feel the constant need to be at the center of everything,

Yet

You are expected to, 

Participate,

People come to you every time they see you,

Asking:

Are you alright?

Are you enjoying yourself?

Why don’t you join us?

And then you start questioning the very persona that you are?

Begin to have doubts if something is seriously wrong with you, 

Feeling pressured into speaking something for the heck of it,

To feel accepted,

To demonstrate your existence,

And 

Then you choose to just leave, 

Wondering

Why can’t you be accepted as it is? 

Why the world expects you to behave in a certain manner?

For such, let me tell you, it’s alright to just be,

For the need to speak shouldn’t be the guiding force in your life, 

For acceptance is more beautiful than complying to some random norm, 

For being different is what makes life so beautiful and worth living. 

So be who you are,

For the world will come to cherish your being sooner or later. 

Source for the Image: https://www.success.com/3-ways-to-speak-up-and-be-heard/, https://hrdailyadvisor.blr.com/2019/03/21/understanding-the-importance-of-introverts-inside-the-workplace/

The Inevitable!

What do you do when you don’t get to do what you wanna do?

Well, most of us might have encountered such situations or are continuing to face on a daily basis, be it in person or profession. 

So there are things we know we are good at, based on the kind of training or experience we have had. 

And there are things that we might not be so good at but we would want to give it a shot. 

Things which inspire us to act differently,

Things which might want us to get out of our comfort zone,

Things which seem super exciting to delve into,

And 

Things which tend to bring us out of the boredom associated with accomplishment of daily feats. 

Few may ask, who’s stopping you from taking a deep dive?

Well, 

Call it insecurity,

Call it fear of the unknown,

Label it as the responsibility that comes along being born in a family or married to someone,

Or 

Just lack of courage,

Most of us end up doing something we don’t like most of our lives, 

Only to repent after what if we would have done otherwise.

The only thing to think possibly is,

Whether we would want to be a part of the inevitable group, who accepts it as their destiny to keep doing what they are supposedly good at, 

Or

Choose to break free from the same to explore the boundless nature of the possibilities at hand. 

Source for the Image: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BeDo6Epq6bs, https://dementia.livebetterwith.com/blogs/advice/is-memory-loss-inevitable

This Type that Kinds!

Have you ever wondered why there is this constant tendency in us to categorise people?

Oh , he is this kind!

Oh she is that kind! 

Possible reason and explanation could be:

Who has time to ponder over such things, why not label and make things easier for our brains to comprehend and respond to. 

One may ask what’s wrong in the above?

After all, life is about making things easy for the mental and physical self. 

True to a certain extent as it might look, one needs to ponder whether it is truly making life easier? 

The more we tend to label the more we keep falling in the prejudice trap, 

Unable to look at situations as they are,

Unable to give benefit of doubt,

In short

Unable to act and be humans.

For that’s what we supposedly all are, 

As believed emerging from the same source yet different in our own ways, 

Who would once again merge with the source when the time comes. 

So, be it this kind or that type, 

The thing to think is whether we are willing to give ourselves a chance, 

To take risks and not pass judgements,

To learn all through in this beautiful journey of life,

And most importantly 

Finding the being what we are supposed to be. 

Source for the Image: https://www.ted.com/playlists/9/all_kinds_of_minds, https://resources.workable.com/category-manager-job-description

Dilemma-Sure?

My grandmother used to tell me that you should take your time to decide.

Hear others, research and refer to relevant resources, 

And once you are sure take that plunge, have no doubts what so ever and stick by your decision. 

Ideal as it might sound, the reality at times is far fetched.

No matter what’s the decision we take, the thought of loosing upon the other side of the coin troubles our mind.

What if the option that I left was better than the one I chose? 

What if it would have made me more successful?

What if I would have got what I wanted by going for that other option?

Well, what if is something, which no one knows off,

No one can predict or decipher,

Then why think about it! 

For what if you never were born! Or what if you would die sooner than expected. 

But the question is how does one get this very monkey off our backs and minds?

Yes, one can try to focus on our actions and forget about the consequences, as illustrated in the Bhagavad Gita

Yet, is it so easy to do so?

If it were, as they say, why would souls invest lifetimes in figuring out what the truth is!

Well, wasn’t life all about exploration and finding answers to the questions that keep cropping up because of our curiosity influencing our very minds?

If it is, then what are we waiting for? 

Take the plunge and see for yourself what it is rather than being caught up in this dilemma of being sure or not.

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The Internal Lord!

Have you wondered about the My Lord or the Judge Sahab inside all of us!

Flaunting those long hair from the earlier era and a black gown with specs looking down upon the rest.

What he does is of course to pass judgements for that’s his job.

If someone doesn’t agree to what we say he judges them as not knowledgeable or stupid.

Or

If someone doesn’t love us the way we want to be loved, he would label them as cruel and emotionless.

By passing such judgements time and again he makes us perceive the world to be lying in a sorry state of affairs. 

By doing so we become more and more pessimistic about lot of things in life.

We become the unwanted and non desirable critics in the lives of many.

Basically we all become some sort of a pessimist who does nothing but crib about everything and anything in life.

Now, what kind of person you wanna become is a choice, though the choice seems obvious.

Don’t you think it’s high time we shut up this lord inside us and make him a slave to our sensibilities! 

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