तेरी खातिर !

This is a humble tribute to the Indian Team, who performed so well during the World Cup and especially the man, who is fondly referred to as Mahi, our very own Mahendra Singh Dhoni (MSD).

I don’t remember seeing MSD the way when he left the field, for the last time in a World Cup match.

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Few lines to the emotions that he might have gone through walking back to the pavilion after getting run out:

ये वो लम्हा था, जब मैं खुद को रोक ना सका,
जानते हुए भी मैं तेरे लिए कुछ ना कर सका,

उस जस्बे को लिए, लगाई थी मैंने पूरी जान,
पर वो जस्बा भी मेरा आज कम पड़ गया .

दिल में थे अरमान, खुद पे था भरोसा,
हर मुश्किल को पार करने का था हौसला,

तेरे लिए आज फिर एक बार कुछ करने का था मौका,
माफ़ कर देना ऐ यार, जो आज मैं फिर से वो ना कर सका, 

ज़िन्दगी तो चलती रहेगी, बस एक गम रह जायेगा,
वो दो कदम का सफर, हर दिन कम रह जायेगा,

भरोसा करना बस, नियत में कोई कमी ना थी,
दिन आये गये लेकिन आँख में कभी ऐसी नमी ना थी. 

And there walked the man, who gave us fantastic moments in our lifetimes to be cherished for ever and ever. #RESPECT!

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सब बढ़िया है!

There are so many ifs and buts in our lives that I wonder how can one remain happy, calm and composed with things going on all the time in our minds.

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A humble tribute to the ifs and buts which constantly seem to nag us day-in-day-out:

सब बढ़िया है, जब तक बॉस ने डाटा ना हो,
सब बढ़िया है, जब तक बीवी ने आज लेट आने पे क्लास ना लगाई हो,

सब बढ़िया है, जब तक वो लोन की ई म आई टाइम पे ना गयी हो,
सब बढ़िया है, जब तक स्कूल के प्रिंसिपल ने पप्पू की कंप्लेंट करने ना बुलाया हो,

सब बढ़िया है, जब तक किसी फॅमिली मेमबर को डॉक्टर के यहाँ ना जाना पड़ा हो,
सब बढ़िया है, जब तक पड़ोसी ने गाडी गलत पार्क करने पर लड़ाई ना करी हो,

सब बढ़िया है, जब तक किसी काली बिल्ली ने रास्ता ना काटा हो,
सब बढ़िया है, जब तक रास्ते में ड्राइव करते समय ट्रैफिक ना मिला हो,

सब बढ़िया है, जब तक बिजली, पानी इत्यादि की कोई प्रॉब्लम ना हुई हो,
सब बढ़िया है, जब तक आगे करियर कहाँ जाएगा, इसका पता ना हो,

वैसे तो सब बढ़िया ही है, जब तक!

This जब तक  in our lives is screwing us big time.

The question, though, is are we all prepared to let go of this जब तक? for actually realizing the सब बढ़िया है!

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कभी भूले भटके!

Being caught up in the आपा धापी  of life, there are very few occasions when you end up feeling like what I did today,

or

To put it in other words, on very few occasions do we end up taking notice of the same.

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Sharing a few lines in my effort to express what it is:

कभी भूले भटके, ज़िन्दगी अपने से परे लगती है,
कभी भूले भटके, कायनात कुछ और हसीन लगती है,
कभी भूले भटके, चहचहाती चिड़ियाँ दिखती हैं,
कभी भूले भटके, ये हवा चेहरे को छूती है,

कभी भूले भटके, किसी और का ख्याल आता है,
कभी भूले भटके, इंसान इंसान नज़र आता है,
कभी भूले भटके, खुद का पता नहीं चलता,
कभी भूले भटके, इस मदहोशी का आलम आता है,

कभी भूले भटके, मन बेतहाशा सा हो जाता है,
कभी भूले भटके, वही मन कुछ गुनगुनाता है,
कभी भूले भटके, भटकना भी रास आता है,
कभी भूले भटके, उसी भटकने का अंदाज़ पसंद आता है.

और अगर, आपको ये अहसास कभी ना हुआ हो, तो कभी भटक कर तो देखिये,

भूले भटके ही सही, आप उस राह पहुंच ही जायेंगे,
जहाँ भटकना ही शायद इस जीवन का आगाज़  कराता है.

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Cookie-ing!

An interesting conversation which I had today with a very dear friend, who claims to be an activist researcher 😉

When it comes to making people aware of the implications of what could be happening with your data, which one shares, knowingly or unknowingly on the Internet,

While browsing through different websites

or

While filling up the forms which a website might ask you to fill.

And with the likes of Fb and Google being questioned over the intended or unintended usage of the data that they collect,

Keeping in mind that their revenue model is focused upon using the data, be it personal or impersonal that they collect from their subscriber base,

With GDPR (General Data Protection Regulation) becoming the talk of the town and India planning to have its own data regulation regime incorporating the fundamentals of privacy and explicit consent;

Let us look at the life-cycle of search and few implications of the same.

Looking for some info?

First thing one does is to search it on Google, which provides several options in the form of suggestions to explore.

Once one chooses to visit the website of choice, a message displaying the Cookie policy is displayed,

Which, without giving much thought to the implications of acceptance of the same, one tends to agree to,

In lieu of getting access to the most coveted information that one might be looking for, at that point of time.

Though, if you have enough free time to go through the policy, it gives you an option and suggested methodology on how one can choose not to agree to implementing certain irrelevant cookies,

But seldom, do we, consider it important enough to go through and make an informed choice.

The question that arises is, whose responsibility is it to make people aware of the implications?

The likes of the category, who would concur with my friend has a take that the respective companies who own the website, should be held responsible for providing information in the most easy of formats, when it comes to readability and accessibility,

In order to ensure that people make an informed choice.

On the other hand the companies tend to cite the legal angle, where they adhere to the laws, by providing information if one chooses to take pain and go through.

Whatever said and done, though, on the face value, it doesn’t seem to be a matter of life and death,

Yet, the implications of such an act is unclear to most of us, who happen to be reaping perceived benefits from the digital age.

Would be interesting to look at the implications and how this Cookie-ing could play a role in our lives, if at all!

Food for thought for the researchers, who aspire to explore the unknown! 🙂

Source for the Image: https://pixabay.com/images/search/privacy%20policy/

Hospital-ity!

Let me treat the word “hospitality” as two:hospital and fatality.

Without getting into the definitions of each, what one tends to attribute to the former is the latter.

Though, a hospital apart from taking care of the cases of fatality, also has a very beautiful aspect to it, which is bringing new lives into this world.

On one hand, where one can observe blood spilling all over either due to the accidents or a calamity,

On the other hand, one can witness the same blood unfolding magic of life which can be seen happening right in front of one’s eyes.

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This makes me wonder, what we call contradictions, are nothing but the 2 sides of the same coin.

For death is no different in space and time as the birth, happening every moment of our experiential lives,

Scientifically and at an individual level which might be represented in the dynamics of the trillions of cells which constitute our body.

What differs though is our perceptions in terms of which side of the coin we have a tendency to look at.

Why am I calling it a tendency is because most of us go by the same, though each and every aspect is under our control if we choose to take control.

Whatever it might be, whether you take control or not, this game of hospital-ity or the game of life & death happens day-in-day-out.

Better to take at least some control, though, if you want to enjoy this game,

For if the shuttle or the ball (depends on which sports you play), doesn’t go where you want it to,

Why the hell one is playing this game for? 😉

Source for the Image: https://www.talenthive.co.uk/blog/different-sectors-hospitality-industry

Generation F-Up!

We have heard various generations, be it X, Y, Z, ABCD or whatever.

But have we realized that we are a generation of constant follow-ups (F-Ups)?

Be it getting that piece of furniture that you might have ordered from the likes of Hometown etc. assembled,

or

The internet connection when you move to a new house installed,

or

Any other thing that you tend to live upon on a daily basis.

There is a constant need to follow up with the service providers,

Be it the government

or

the private sector.

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Makes me wonder, when as a society, we would become professional enough to meet what we say or promise.

Words have become such a loose commodity.

Whether it be reporting or reaching on time, as promised,

or

Meeting the T&C of a contract,

No matter be it on a legal piece of paper or not,

We tend to violate the trust code,

Without realising that it’s the basis of any association or communication in the society we choose to live in.

And when people start taking this code lightly, credibility is bound to go down.

Be it at a personal level, let’s say when you commit to someone for marriage,

or

As a country, where the intention is to attract investments from different quarters, which gets reflected in the indicators such as ease of doing business in a country.

The gap also represents an opportunity, in a society like ours, where doing what’s promised, becomes a key differentiator of sorts.

Wonder, when all of us will do as we say we would! 🙂

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Let Go!

This morning, when I got up,

There was something on my mind which I hadn’t resolved the previous day.

Naturally, wasn’t feeling too good about the same.

Then realised, how beautiful the weather was.

Stepped in the balcony, where fresh cool breeze ran past my face.

Not a bad day, I thought 😉

Somehow, it struck, how random we are living our lives, without realising that one day, it’s all gonna end.

And because of this randomness, every random situation that we come across, we tend to take it super seriously.

Be it our work and what the boss says,

Be it our relationships and its dynamics,

Be it our possessions,

Be it our aspirations,

Be it our conversations and the constant endeavour to prove that what we say or believe in as the only truth that there is,

Be it the straight face that we tend to show to all the strangers or the known who pass by,

Be it the anger we tend to take out on those who are not, so called, as powerful, as we think we are,

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Without realising that it won’t really matter.

In fact, the very thing we want to achieve or aspire for becomes easily attainable,

If we don’t give too much importance to the results of the same, rather than focus on the very process needed to achieve it.

From today, I choose to let go of my seriousness,

What about you? 😉

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Chalo Foreign!

There was a time, I remember, when most of the guys from my batch during graduation wanted to go to some foreign land, be it Europe, US etc. in search of a better life.

Don’t know whether it exists today as well, among the age group,

Though one thing that has continued to occupy the conversations among friends is to decide whether one wants to live in India or go abroad and settle down.

Somehow, the opinion seems to be divided, with those in favour suggesting:

Better infrastructure,

Better service standards,

Better governance,

Good money, as the pros of living abroad.

Those against suggest:

2nd grade citizen label,

Lack of emotional connect,

Difficult for parents to adjust, as cons among many others.

When in Rome, be a Roman, suggested some man, who found the wisdom in the saying, which doesn’t seem to work always.

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As belonging to a nation or region, there is an ever pervading hangover associated with the interaction that one might have had with the person of the respective origin.

So strong at times are our biases, that it becomes very difficult to go beyond the generalisation and focus on the very person with whom we find ourselves interacting with.

It’s either religion or caste,

Either nationality or regionalism,

Either Asian or African looks, which tend to restrict our sensibilities.

In such an atmosphere, though preaching spirituality and the concept of vasudhaiva kutumbakam makes sense at a certain level, but might not be the immediate solution to the pervading issue.

In such a situation, does one really want to venture abroad and at what cost?

Leaving your loved ones behind, even if you take them with you, somehow becomes a pseudo life of sorts for them.

After all, what you need in life is probably:

Social companionship, in terms of your family and friends,

Few pieces of bread that one needs to earn for your loved ones,

A roof, for which one needs to pay rent or EMI for,

May be a good car, if you are too ambitious and are extremely passionate about driving in traffic, considering that there are enough Uber and Ola cabs on the roads.

Am sure, most of us, would be able to afford this.

It’s another discussion altogether if you or your wife are bent upon buying 2 dresses of Zara or such each every month :).

The only question that one needs to ponder over,

How much and why?

On a funny note, not a bad idea to conquer the entire world with your population and this might make the world one ;).

Source for the image: https://thecsspoint.com/reasons-for-foreign-policy-failures-by-mohammad-jamil/

Minding Happiness!

Many a times we tend to ask or think in our lives, as to why things are not going our way, the way we want them to happen!

Reminds me, this very morning I had my mind questioning, more so feeling annoyed, as to why the water supply was cut in my apartment.

And when you need to attend a so called very important meeting, then you feel like getting the hell out of the person who might be responsible for the same,

Be it the watchman in the apartment

or

The random tanker guy, who didn’t turn up on time, sheerly because he might have overslept.

Which reminds me of the grave water situation in our country, for which I will need a another blogpost to do justice to.

For now, will stick to me being happy or unhappy 😉

There are so many reasons one could be unhappy about,

Be it the failure I encountered in an exam,

Be it the meeting that I screwed up big time,

Be it the fight I had with my wife,

or

Be it any other random traffic situation I had to encounter this morning in my city.

Sometimes, it feels like the world is a big shit hole where one tends to spend sometime.

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Having said that, being happy is as simple as countering the negative thoughts that tend to haunt one on a daily basis with an equally if not more, positive thought, which could be anything, ranging from:

The feeling of extreme joy that I felt,

let’s say when I qualified the IIT JEE exam,

to

Getting a chance of counting my heartbeats when I proposed my then girlfriend and now wife,

From,

Feeling I was on cloud nine or ten or whatever, when I got that coveted job that I had been craving for day-in-day out,

to

Feeling relaxed while spending a holiday in a place of my choice,

Somehow, the very act of being aware and conscious of what’s going in your mind

and

Making sure that the mind focuses upon the brighter side of life rather than the not so bright a side,

Seals the deal for most of us.

Why I say most, is because for those who don’t get a complete meal in a day, there are different issues that need to be taken care of,

But for most of us who are either reading this blog or might come across this write-up sometime, the above is definitely applicable.

It’s just a matter of how disciplined we are when it comes to training our mind,

How aware we are of the lifestyle we are leading,

How cognisant we are of the very nature of our so called monkey mind and the games it plays with us,

And if we just become a little more aware of the same, imagine, what miracle it might do to our lives.

So, what are you waiting for,

Possibly another water situation in your own apartment, before you actually start to work on your mind! 😉

Source for the Image: http://fortune.com/2016/05/05/why-smart-successful-people-dont-value-happiness-enough/

Partner Mania!

Thought of and taking the liberty to share the gist of conversation that I had with a very dear friend, who is on the verge of getting married.

Courtesy the advice that seems to come one’s way,

Be it the parents,

or

Who’s who among the near and dear ones,

One ends up thinking about having a partner in the so called long life that one is going to spend from here on.

What starts in turn is the search of that one and only partner (supposedly) who would go on to fulfil every aspiration that the family cares about.

Be it the likes of shaadi.com 

or

A recommendation given by family friends,

One ends up meeting different girls or guys depending on who one is looking for.

And then the big question arises,

To do or not to?

A set of criteria is laid down that one’s supposed to meet,

If not, the search goes on until,

One realises that there is nothing like the right one,

or

One is fed up of the entire process.

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This, more often leads to one succumbing to the pressures of the immediate society on the consideration that it’s high time.

And the day beckons the groom’s arrival, giving the couple cold feet.

With so much going through their mind, the one and I think the most important aspect of it, one tends to ignore, which is,

It takes 2 to clap hands,

Similarly, it takes 2 to make it work, the reason for the same being anything,

Ranging from the love and respect one has for the other party,

To believing in the very notion, that it’s worth making efforts for the very concept of marriage, living together and spending the rest of your life both physically and mentally with the same person.

With the likes of tinder and other dating apps freely and easily accessible to all,

With the privilege of interacting with beautiful girls and guys on a daily basis, be it the parties or in one’s profession,

There are loads of distractions working against the very institution of marriage that one chooses to enter.

No matter what the reason one gives, there is only one to abide by the vows and so many not to.

The choice is simple,

Are you ready to work towards making it a success?

or

Get guided by your hormones and end up screwing not only yours but others’ lives as well?

Food for thought!

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