The Kinds!

In modern societies we are taught to be vocal, out there, expressing our opinions.

For this, more often than not, determines whether you will be perceived as smart or not by the who’s who of the society. 

But have you ever wondered why the knowledgeable choose to remain silent most of times?

Few possibilities: 

They think they are are not knowledgeable enough,

They think the world wouldn’t understand not being on the same platform as they are,

They think it be a futile process to influence others,

Or

They are just too busy in their own world.

Whatever might be the reason behind their silence, 

Few might vouch for a fact that we need such men in the society to share their wisdom,

For world today is in dire need of people who could suggest sustainable plans for the well being of the society. 

While others who are focused on building some kind of a persona suiting their needs, might prefer to shut the kind described above.

Oh, and there is a 3rd kind who chooses to remain indifferent just because they think it’s not going to effect them in any manner what so ever. 

As a society and as human beings, which side you choose to behave like depends on the kind of vision you have for the society which by the way, in turn determines your well being as well. 

Food for thought!

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Being D!

The world is a market and companies and professionals are here to serve the much sought after consumer. Really?

Well majority might say so, but what about the few who don’t really agree to this line of thought?

They are the ones who score least in courses they take in their MBA batch. 

They are the ones who don’t get the coveted jobs after graduating.

They are the ones who are labelled philosophers or outliers.

They are the ones who don’t get the limelight.

Yet, they are the ones who work towards becoming the best version of them. 

They are the ones who slowly but surely crawl towards greatness.

They are the ones who find innovative and novel ways to attract the so called consumers (pulling them towards their offerings rather than pushing and forcing their offerings on them)

They are the ones who would be found in the much sought after Forbes 30 under 30 or 40 under 40.

The choice is yours.

Whether you want to grow up into becoming agreeable beings meeting the norms and benchmarks of the society. 

Or

You want to think and act different not for the sake of it, but because you see value in being different. 

Source for the Image: https://www.pexels.com/search/different/, https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/different-from-or-different-than

Life in Shorts!

Life, an interesting journey, where you get up everyday, do some chores, work to make some money and sleep at the end of the day to again get up the next day repeating the same.

And then there is this concept of life of how it should be or we would want it to be like.

Which has ingredients of partying, having some fun, going on tours etc etc.

Concept which gets its derivation from maybe looking at others and wishing for it.

What follows is whether one make efforts towards it or not depending on one’s beliefs in the attain ability of the desired scenario.

Even after making appropriate efforts, it maybe that one doesn’t end up getting the desired results because of let’s say destiny or it wasn’t meant to be.

If we get what we want we feel accomplished and get all the adulations from the society.

If we don’t get what we want we feel dejected, the expected respect from society doesn’t boost our egos.

Whatever the outcome or the result of the efforts, we tend to ponder a lot over things which might have no relation to us being feeling elated or not in the moment.

Life, of course is not black and white, yet its simple enough to be not made complicated.

A good start could be, before going to sleep, to look back at the moments which made one elated and happy during the course of the day.

And reflect upon why those moments were so precious to us.

Was it because of the accomplishments?

Was it the ego boosters derived from the respect you got from the society?

Was it because you were having some good meal in some nice restaurant?

Was it because you were spending some quality time with your friends or family?

Was it because of the work you did and felt happy cracking the Eureka code in your life?

Whatever it was, reflect and why not write about it every night!

Next morning, just a small reference you can make to decide for yourself the proportion of your time you would want to spend on what activity in life on a daily basis.

For time is limited for all of us. Why not use it to the fullest. What say!

Source for the Image: https://time.com/14047/what-10-things-should-you-do-every-day-to-improve-your-life/, https://fortune.com/2016/05/05/why-smart-successful-people-dont-value-happiness-enough/

2020 KFP

If you are wondering what this KFP could mean, it’s nothing but Ki Farak Painda (it’s like what’s the big deal or hardly matters)

Yes an year gone by,

Yes, not much happened for many of us professionally,

Yes, travel was at a minimal,

Yes, spouses fought,

Yes, EMIs got delayed,

Yes, all kinds of issues were there,

Yet, those who are reading this survived to see another beautiful sunrise!

A reality check for sure,

The way we were living our lives consumed by the lure of materialism,

Not bad, haan!

At least we got to know certain useless aspects of our lives,

Such as filling our cupboards with overpriced brands,

Spending meaninglessly on unhealthy items,

Instead of some quality time with folks who matter,

Of course the economy will bounce back in due course of time,

Of course we will all forget these times and move on,

Though what will remain is this beautiful realization:

Life is too short to not realize that nothing is serious enough to get serious

As long as we are alive that is! 🙂

Source for the image: https://www.redbubble.com/i/photographic-print/Funny-KI-FARAK-PAINDA-by-eufouria/45763555.6Q0TX, https://www.alustforlife.com/tools/mental-health/16-ways-to-feel-insanely-energetic-happy-and-carefree/

Use and Throw!

A monologue from a learned philosopher and a professor by profession, just remembered:

People come into your life for a reason.

Nothing comes free or with a label of being unconditional.

Be it the person who comes to me for a PhD,

Be it the people who want to collaborate with me on a project,

or

Be it the love of my life whom I treat as a part of my extended self,

Few might comment that its all about using and throwing,

Well, that’s one perspective but surely has different ways of looking at it,

It could be perceived as give and take,

May be represented as a symbiotic existential relationship,

or

Spiritually speaking, just a payback of one’s own Karmas,

It’s how you judge or form an opinion about the interaction determines whether it makes you happy or not.

Whether you are annoyed and feel cheated,

or

Whether you take it in your stride as part of what’s meant to be.

After all, even Corona is trying to do use the human body for its existence,

Sooner or later, it’s bound to realize that living and letting live is a sustainable solution for both, though it’s still learning.

When the tiniest of entities may endeavor to learn this fundamental aspect of life,

Why can’t we as beings?”

Source for the image: https://www.webmd.com/lung/coronavirus, https://theconversation.com/3-philosophers-set-up-a-booth-on-a-street-corner-heres-what-people-asked-110866

Am-In?

They say one’s life is a direct consequence of the choices one makes.

L=f (choices) is what one would say as a mathematician.

More often than not one answers in the affirmative to the title of this post.

Be it joining a cool group as a teenager,

Be it replicating the Virat Kohli’s beard look or the Ronaldo’s hair cut,

Be it starting to smoke or drink with friends,

or

Be it buying products from the who’s who of brands be it Zara, Louis Vuitton etc.

virat kohli

Have you ever wondered what would life be if you were NOT IN?

You wouldn’t be too concerned about spending loads to match up to the fashion trends,

You wouldn’t get too affected by being an outlier from the smoking/drinking groups,

You wouldn’t be spending too much time and money trying to find where happiness lies,

Rather

Would start deriving happiness and satisfaction from the so called little things in life.

The only thing you need to figure out is whether you choose to be IN or NOT!

Source for the Image: https://www.searchenginejournal.com/trends-seo-content-marketing/309997/, https://in.pinterest.com/pin/583638432936401588/

Par-Dharma!

Where is this all heading?

Well being or a disaster?

Many psychological scientific studies tell us that kids learn what they observe.

No matter how much one preaches, they learn by observing what’s happening around them.

The question is are they being exposed to the right kind of environment that they should be?

Considering,

The tv shows, and movies depicting all kinds of violence,

The fights that happen in the family,

The never ending effort of trying to fulfill the pleasures of life becoming a benchmark from such a young age,

As a parent, does that mean keeping one’s kids in a protective environment,

Making them go to schools, which demonstrate the right set of values,

Yes and no!

elearning

For they would surely be exposed to the practicalities of this society, the existing situations,

Which they would need to face and make a choice for themselves,

Does it mean giving them the right tools to be able to make that all important choice?

That’s where charitra nirmaan (building one’s character) becomes the key to their well being and in turn that of the society.

One may ask how can this be done?

Well, to each their own, few may say,

The fundamentals of it though, for parents remain the same,

Be it treating your kids as adults and spending with them as much time that one can, discussing the intricacies of why the kids consider something as right or wrong,

Be it leading by example, and becoming role models for your kids to emulate,

Be it inculcating a critical feeling of inclusiveness in them, for their well being lies in the well being of others and the society,

No matter whether your parents did it with you!

No matter whether you had to learn it the hard way!

No matter there was no friend, philosopher or guide holding your hands at every step!

May be the time has come for all parents/elders to do all that what their dharma of being in the capacity tells them to.

Source for the Image: https://www.vectorstock.com/royalty-free-vector/kids-learning-vector-7708997

TG-OIL!

Can’t believe it’s already been nearly 5 months since the lock down was imposed!

Has been great for few, in terms of:

retaining their jobs to begin with, 

spending quality time with family, 

working out on one’s health, 

giving importance to the much neglected hobbies and things one wished one had invested time in, 

At the same time not so good for some,

who have lost their jobs, 

who are having hard time living with their spouses, 

who think their idea of fun has been taken away from them,

Yet, if one is reading this, one needs to thank God that one is alive (TG-OIL),

to witness another beautiful sunrise, 

to be able to spending that one more moment with one’s loved ones, 

to hope that things would certainly improve in the near future, 

to be able to write one more blog 😉

Well, they say, all’s well that ends well,

A little change that I would want to bring in the above perspective is,

All’s well if one treads the path well! 

If one gets to live another day as if it was their last,

If one is able to bring that wonderful smile on one more person’s face,

If one aspires to light up this world with one’s acts of kindness and humble behavior,

For if one chooses not to or is unable to do the above, there is nothing to thank God in the first place, if not for the one, then surely for the others.

Source for the Image: https://torontodiamonddental.com/how-important-is-your-smile/

This and That!

He asked, what is it that you want?

I answered, this and that!

Then he asked, why is it that you want this and that?

I answered, just wanna feel good and happy about myself!

He couldn’t help asking, with the things that I gave, are you happy?

I answered, not really, but I guess, this one would certainly make me feel happy!

He smiled and didn’t say a word after.

I wondered!

And so is the wonder that we keep wondering,

We keep aspiring,

We keep making aims,

We keep having ambitions,

And

We continue to perspire for this and that!

hand-towards-rising-sun

Then comes a reality check, when we all take a pause to ponder,

Over the things we all have so called achieved in life,

Over the assets that we all have accumulated over a period of time,

Over the relations that we all have forged during our lifetimes,

Yet

We don’t get that thing that we all look for,

What is it that we all look for?

And then we all come across a thought which resonates with something like this:

ख्वाइशों का आलम ऐसा था जनाब,
कि हम खुद को ही भुला बैठे!

What ensues is a trail of:

Not finding answers,

Not finding a purpose,

Not being able to come to terms with one’s current state of affairs and mind,

And

Getting lost in the ख्वाइश of this चमक and that धमक of this material world.

Without realizing what this and that did and continues to do with all of us.

Source for the image: https://www.calmdownmind.com/when-your-desire-feels-ordinary-its-on-the-verge-of-manifestation/

Shukran!

Taking a cue from a very dear friend who has this wonderful habit of saying shukran (Arabic word meaning thank you) every now and then,

And why not,

Especially in these precarious times,

Where one never knows how long one is going to live,

Not just because of Corona but the very manner in which our generation has been consuming pretty much everything on this planet,

Its never enough no matter how many times one says shukran to the people one comes across in one’s life time,

thank you

Be it the parents to start with, who brought us here, nurtured us to become who we are today,

Be it our spouses/siblings/cousins/friends who made this life worth living,

Be it the teachers who acted as friends, philosophers and guides in this journey of acquiring knowledge,

or

Be it the mentors and seniors who pretty much laid the path for us to grow professionally,

We often take it for granted what people have done for us,

We often are drawn into the illusion of having achieved everything unilaterally,

and

We often ignore all the contributions/sacrifices our near and dear ones make for us,

Just to see us happy achieving our dreams and fulfilling our aspirations,

Now,

With no more excuses of being busy or not having enough time,

Why not just say it loud,

Give some form and shape to the gratitude that we all feel,

And take that first step to bringing one’s near-dear ones even closer,

Up for it, are you?

SHUKRAN 🙂

Source for the Image: https://www.multibhashi.com/gratitude-meaning-in-tamil/