The need to Speak Up?

Imagine you are in a gathering full of people,

All kinds, 

Few you know,

Few acquaintances,

Few wanna be’s,

And then there is you, the quintessential introvert,

Who speak up when spoken to,

Who doesn’t brag about anything and everything in this world, 

Who don’t feel the constant need to be at the center of everything,

Yet

You are expected to, 

Participate,

People come to you every time they see you,

Asking:

Are you alright?

Are you enjoying yourself?

Why don’t you join us?

And then you start questioning the very persona that you are?

Begin to have doubts if something is seriously wrong with you, 

Feeling pressured into speaking something for the heck of it,

To feel accepted,

To demonstrate your existence,

And 

Then you choose to just leave, 

Wondering

Why can’t you be accepted as it is? 

Why the world expects you to behave in a certain manner?

For such, let me tell you, it’s alright to just be,

For the need to speak shouldn’t be the guiding force in your life, 

For acceptance is more beautiful than complying to some random norm, 

For being different is what makes life so beautiful and worth living. 

So be who you are,

For the world will come to cherish your being sooner or later. 

Source for the Image: https://www.success.com/3-ways-to-speak-up-and-be-heard/, https://hrdailyadvisor.blr.com/2019/03/21/understanding-the-importance-of-introverts-inside-the-workplace/

The Inevitable!

What do you do when you don’t get to do what you wanna do?

Well, most of us might have encountered such situations or are continuing to face on a daily basis, be it in person or profession. 

So there are things we know we are good at, based on the kind of training or experience we have had. 

And there are things that we might not be so good at but we would want to give it a shot. 

Things which inspire us to act differently,

Things which might want us to get out of our comfort zone,

Things which seem super exciting to delve into,

And 

Things which tend to bring us out of the boredom associated with accomplishment of daily feats. 

Few may ask, who’s stopping you from taking a deep dive?

Well, 

Call it insecurity,

Call it fear of the unknown,

Label it as the responsibility that comes along being born in a family or married to someone,

Or 

Just lack of courage,

Most of us end up doing something we don’t like most of our lives, 

Only to repent after what if we would have done otherwise.

The only thing to think possibly is,

Whether we would want to be a part of the inevitable group, who accepts it as their destiny to keep doing what they are supposedly good at, 

Or

Choose to break free from the same to explore the boundless nature of the possibilities at hand. 

Source for the Image: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BeDo6Epq6bs, https://dementia.livebetterwith.com/blogs/advice/is-memory-loss-inevitable

This Type that Kinds!

Have you ever wondered why there is this constant tendency in us to categorise people?

Oh , he is this kind!

Oh she is that kind! 

Possible reason and explanation could be:

Who has time to ponder over such things, why not label and make things easier for our brains to comprehend and respond to. 

One may ask what’s wrong in the above?

After all, life is about making things easy for the mental and physical self. 

True to a certain extent as it might look, one needs to ponder whether it is truly making life easier? 

The more we tend to label the more we keep falling in the prejudice trap, 

Unable to look at situations as they are,

Unable to give benefit of doubt,

In short

Unable to act and be humans.

For that’s what we supposedly all are, 

As believed emerging from the same source yet different in our own ways, 

Who would once again merge with the source when the time comes. 

So, be it this kind or that type, 

The thing to think is whether we are willing to give ourselves a chance, 

To take risks and not pass judgements,

To learn all through in this beautiful journey of life,

And most importantly 

Finding the being what we are supposed to be. 

Source for the Image: https://www.ted.com/playlists/9/all_kinds_of_minds, https://resources.workable.com/category-manager-job-description

Dilemma-Sure?

My grandmother used to tell me that you should take your time to decide.

Hear others, research and refer to relevant resources, 

And once you are sure take that plunge, have no doubts what so ever and stick by your decision. 

Ideal as it might sound, the reality at times is far fetched.

No matter what’s the decision we take, the thought of loosing upon the other side of the coin troubles our mind.

What if the option that I left was better than the one I chose? 

What if it would have made me more successful?

What if I would have got what I wanted by going for that other option?

Well, what if is something, which no one knows off,

No one can predict or decipher,

Then why think about it! 

For what if you never were born! Or what if you would die sooner than expected. 

But the question is how does one get this very monkey off our backs and minds?

Yes, one can try to focus on our actions and forget about the consequences, as illustrated in the Bhagavad Gita

Yet, is it so easy to do so?

If it were, as they say, why would souls invest lifetimes in figuring out what the truth is!

Well, wasn’t life all about exploration and finding answers to the questions that keep cropping up because of our curiosity influencing our very minds?

If it is, then what are we waiting for? 

Take the plunge and see for yourself what it is rather than being caught up in this dilemma of being sure or not.

Source for the Image: https://depositphotos.com/stock-photos/dilemma.html, https://www.pureexploration.nz/

The Internal Lord!

Have you wondered about the My Lord or the Judge Sahab inside all of us!

Flaunting those long hair from the earlier era and a black gown with specs looking down upon the rest.

What he does is of course to pass judgements for that’s his job.

If someone doesn’t agree to what we say he judges them as not knowledgeable or stupid.

Or

If someone doesn’t love us the way we want to be loved, he would label them as cruel and emotionless.

By passing such judgements time and again he makes us perceive the world to be lying in a sorry state of affairs. 

By doing so we become more and more pessimistic about lot of things in life.

We become the unwanted and non desirable critics in the lives of many.

Basically we all become some sort of a pessimist who does nothing but crib about everything and anything in life.

Now, what kind of person you wanna become is a choice, though the choice seems obvious.

Don’t you think it’s high time we shut up this lord inside us and make him a slave to our sensibilities! 

Source for the Image: https://soundcloud.com/yes-my-lord-publishing, https://www.orlandoshakes.org/show/my-lord-what-a-night/

The Kinds!

In modern societies we are taught to be vocal, out there, expressing our opinions.

For this, more often than not, determines whether you will be perceived as smart or not by the who’s who of the society. 

But have you ever wondered why the knowledgeable choose to remain silent most of times?

Few possibilities: 

They think they are are not knowledgeable enough,

They think the world wouldn’t understand not being on the same platform as they are,

They think it be a futile process to influence others,

Or

They are just too busy in their own world.

Whatever might be the reason behind their silence, 

Few might vouch for a fact that we need such men in the society to share their wisdom,

For world today is in dire need of people who could suggest sustainable plans for the well being of the society. 

While others who are focused on building some kind of a persona suiting their needs, might prefer to shut the kind described above.

Oh, and there is a 3rd kind who chooses to remain indifferent just because they think it’s not going to effect them in any manner what so ever. 

As a society and as human beings, which side you choose to behave like depends on the kind of vision you have for the society which by the way, in turn determines your well being as well. 

Food for thought!

Source for the Image: https://www.dreamstime.com/photos-images/knowledge.html, https://www.dictionary.com/e/wisdom-vs-knowledge/

Being D!

The world is a market and companies and professionals are here to serve the much sought after consumer. Really?

Well majority might say so, but what about the few who don’t really agree to this line of thought?

They are the ones who score least in courses they take in their MBA batch. 

They are the ones who don’t get the coveted jobs after graduating.

They are the ones who are labelled philosophers or outliers.

They are the ones who don’t get the limelight.

Yet, they are the ones who work towards becoming the best version of them. 

They are the ones who slowly but surely crawl towards greatness.

They are the ones who find innovative and novel ways to attract the so called consumers (pulling them towards their offerings rather than pushing and forcing their offerings on them)

They are the ones who would be found in the much sought after Forbes 30 under 30 or 40 under 40.

The choice is yours.

Whether you want to grow up into becoming agreeable beings meeting the norms and benchmarks of the society. 

Or

You want to think and act different not for the sake of it, but because you see value in being different. 

Source for the Image: https://www.pexels.com/search/different/, https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/different-from-or-different-than

Life in Shorts!

Life, an interesting journey, where you get up everyday, do some chores, work to make some money and sleep at the end of the day to again get up the next day repeating the same.

And then there is this concept of life of how it should be or we would want it to be like.

Which has ingredients of partying, having some fun, going on tours etc etc.

Concept which gets its derivation from maybe looking at others and wishing for it.

What follows is whether one make efforts towards it or not depending on one’s beliefs in the attain ability of the desired scenario.

Even after making appropriate efforts, it maybe that one doesn’t end up getting the desired results because of let’s say destiny or it wasn’t meant to be.

If we get what we want we feel accomplished and get all the adulations from the society.

If we don’t get what we want we feel dejected, the expected respect from society doesn’t boost our egos.

Whatever the outcome or the result of the efforts, we tend to ponder a lot over things which might have no relation to us being feeling elated or not in the moment.

Life, of course is not black and white, yet its simple enough to be not made complicated.

A good start could be, before going to sleep, to look back at the moments which made one elated and happy during the course of the day.

And reflect upon why those moments were so precious to us.

Was it because of the accomplishments?

Was it the ego boosters derived from the respect you got from the society?

Was it because you were having some good meal in some nice restaurant?

Was it because you were spending some quality time with your friends or family?

Was it because of the work you did and felt happy cracking the Eureka code in your life?

Whatever it was, reflect and why not write about it every night!

Next morning, just a small reference you can make to decide for yourself the proportion of your time you would want to spend on what activity in life on a daily basis.

For time is limited for all of us. Why not use it to the fullest. What say!

Source for the Image: https://time.com/14047/what-10-things-should-you-do-every-day-to-improve-your-life/, https://fortune.com/2016/05/05/why-smart-successful-people-dont-value-happiness-enough/

2020 KFP

If you are wondering what this KFP could mean, it’s nothing but Ki Farak Painda (it’s like what’s the big deal or hardly matters)

Yes an year gone by,

Yes, not much happened for many of us professionally,

Yes, travel was at a minimal,

Yes, spouses fought,

Yes, EMIs got delayed,

Yes, all kinds of issues were there,

Yet, those who are reading this survived to see another beautiful sunrise!

A reality check for sure,

The way we were living our lives consumed by the lure of materialism,

Not bad, haan!

At least we got to know certain useless aspects of our lives,

Such as filling our cupboards with overpriced brands,

Spending meaninglessly on unhealthy items,

Instead of some quality time with folks who matter,

Of course the economy will bounce back in due course of time,

Of course we will all forget these times and move on,

Though what will remain is this beautiful realization:

Life is too short to not realize that nothing is serious enough to get serious

As long as we are alive that is! 🙂

Source for the image: https://www.redbubble.com/i/photographic-print/Funny-KI-FARAK-PAINDA-by-eufouria/45763555.6Q0TX, https://www.alustforlife.com/tools/mental-health/16-ways-to-feel-insanely-energetic-happy-and-carefree/

Use and Throw!

A monologue from a learned philosopher and a professor by profession, just remembered:

People come into your life for a reason.

Nothing comes free or with a label of being unconditional.

Be it the person who comes to me for a PhD,

Be it the people who want to collaborate with me on a project,

or

Be it the love of my life whom I treat as a part of my extended self,

Few might comment that its all about using and throwing,

Well, that’s one perspective but surely has different ways of looking at it,

It could be perceived as give and take,

May be represented as a symbiotic existential relationship,

or

Spiritually speaking, just a payback of one’s own Karmas,

It’s how you judge or form an opinion about the interaction determines whether it makes you happy or not.

Whether you are annoyed and feel cheated,

or

Whether you take it in your stride as part of what’s meant to be.

After all, even Corona is trying to do use the human body for its existence,

Sooner or later, it’s bound to realize that living and letting live is a sustainable solution for both, though it’s still learning.

When the tiniest of entities may endeavor to learn this fundamental aspect of life,

Why can’t we as beings?”

Source for the image: https://www.webmd.com/lung/coronavirus, https://theconversation.com/3-philosophers-set-up-a-booth-on-a-street-corner-heres-what-people-asked-110866