At-Ti-Tu-Dine!

A disclaimer right away for this post:

Might have an inherent bias!

If you are wondering what am referring to,

Let me throw few names at you:

Ajeet Singh Kushwaha, Shweta Dasgupta, Saurabh Saxena, Anirudh Syal, Tushar Garg, Vivek Joshi, Jitendra Singh;

What do you think they have in common?

Successful in life, Yes!

Founders, VPs, Directors etc. Yes!

Worked hard at one point of time to become IITians, Yes!

Let me also throw few other names at you:

Ritu Ashar, Atul Satija, Sarita Raichura, Sangeeta Beri, Buta Singh, Parvati Matkate, Zaheer Adenwala, Rahul Varma,

Successful in life, Yes!

Founders, VPs, Directors etc. Yes!

IITians or not,

IIMians or not,

ISBians or not,

Harvardians or not,

Stanfordians or not,

or

Whatever IANS or not,

If you want to emulate the journey and derive inspiration,

or

Somewhat be like the folks similar to the ones mentioned above,

What matters in life is to have the right kind of ATTITUDE towards:

The very concept of success to begin with,

The near and dear ones in life,

A cause that draws you to put all in and work hard,

That routine that you follow day-in-day out to accomplish that very thing,

and

That dire need and responsibility to make a contribution in and give back to the society,

Which, by the way, has contributed immensely in making us who we are today!

Source for the image: https://forbesbooks.com/can-one-bad-attitude-destroy-your-team/, https://www.purewow.com/wellness/positive-mental-attitude

Waah Taj Waah!

Came across a social media post yesterday by thebetterindia,

Which spoke about how Taj group of hotels has been able to imbibe “atithi devo bhava” as one of its core value.

Must admit that I have had wonderful experiences while staying with Taj in different cities.

But my first impression was certainly a disaster.

Year 2003,

Us, a group of badminton team mates representing IIT Kanpur had gone to play inter IIT sports meet in IIT Bombay,

Most of us were visiting Mumbai for the first time in our lives,

And guess what, Gateway of India was on our list of places to visit,

Right opposite stood the Taj Mahal Palace, a beautiful architecture matching the grace that Gateway of India had to offer,

Afternoon, we all felt hungry and decided to have a rendezvous with The Taj.

Considering, it was a first for most of us who had been to a 5-star hotel,

We were really looking forward to it,

I still remember, it was 1:30 pm,

Having heard so much about the hotel from who’s who of society,

When the four of us decided to have a walk-in,

By the way, we were wearing casual sports t-shirts on the day,

Might have looked a bit shabby as well!

As we approached the entrance,

The big man, durbaan (doorman), a sardar ji,

Waved his hand,

As if ordering us to move aside and give way to a guy who had just stepped out of a beautiful BMW, to let him enter first,

In his same rude mannerism, he asked,

What’s the purpose of your visit?”

Oh, we are students and have heard so much about Taj that we thought we will give a visit”, one of my friends spoke in an excited tone.

You cannot enter like this”, he spoke back.

“How can we enter then if not like this?“, all of us wondered what kind of privilege would require us to enter the hotel.

Let me do my work, you cannot enter”, he seemed to have no reason for what so ever for not letting us enter.

We all thought there was no point arguing and we left.

They say, first impressions are the last impressions.

Well, not so, at least in my case,

Because every time I visited thereafter, I was impressed by the hospitality,

Though would certainly want to speak about few lessons that I learnt on the day,

Whether it’s a good thing or a bad one,

Limited in her ways, society perceives you by the way you dress on most occasions,

Some of us might say, that we don’t care,

It’s a choice, to each their own, how one wants to dress,

yet

Society will have her own means of developing her perception.

At the same time, don’t judge a book by its cover!

and

A customer never forgets his/her first experience.

Two,

I know Taj is extremely proud of its core values,

Yet, a failure to be able to percolate these same values to each and every employee results in such bad customer experiences,

Which surely affects brand loyalty to begin with,

and

A bad word of mouth for the concerned.

Hence, extremely important, how and what each and everyone in a company communicates to her stakeholders,

Which in turn means having a fantastic mechanism of hiring and acculturation.

Third,

Nothing is so called perfect in this world,

As a startup founder or as CEO of a big company, if one gets entangled in the fame and adulation,

One tends to drift away from his/her core purpose,

As, there is always scope for improvement.

Considering Taj and the likes of Marriott, Leela etc. are the go to hotels for who’s who of our society in any case,

The General Managers and the senior leaders of their properties may want to take a cue,

When it comes to ensuring wonderful experiences for their clients and customers.

Source for the image: https://www.tripadvisor.com/Hotel_Review-g304554-d302179-Reviews-The_Taj_Mahal_Palace-Mumbai_Maharashtra.html, https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/dont-judge-book-its-cover-eliot-clarke

Just Bow Down!

Every year I have this tendency to write a post on माँ (Mother), 

Not necessarily on Mother’s Day!

Why, you may ask? 

Why not I may answer!

Surely, not because my mother forces me to do so 🙂

But for no other reason that I can confidently state, 

Just feel like doing so, 

After all, would I even be writing this, if it was not for her, 

and 

Of course my father, not to take any credit away from him 🙂

If she would have not taken care and nurtured me for the critical nine months to begin with,

and 

If she wouldn’t have taken care of me thereafter, all these years. 

I always seem to run out of words when it comes to Her, 

What can I possibly say or do which could do justice to the very Being!

For it’s beyond comprehension, 

Why and how a mother does what she does and keeps doing all Her life!

The only gesture possibly is to bow down to the very nature that She represents. 

Wonder, where She gets this devotion, 

This strength to go beyond Her emotions, 

This compassion to be able to include someone in Her life and make him Her priority, 

Amazed I am every time to witness this amazing phenomenon of Motherhood!

Bewildered I am to even come up with a synonym for the very Word, 

and

Small and Belittled I am to understand the very creation whom we all refer to as our Mother, 

If only everyone could move towards imbibing the kind of love and inclusiveness a Mother has towards Her kid, 

The world would become a much better place to reside in. 

The only thing I can possibly say to conclude:

Lucky are those who have Mothers, 

for 

We are what we are because She is what She is!

Source for the Image: https://kencarlson.org/bible/worship/we-bow-down-2/https://www.amazon.in/Voorkoms-Temporary-Waterproof-Beautiful-Transfer/dp/B07WCYDR6R, https://www.dreamstime.com/illustration/bow-down-worship.html

G for!

For those who are reading this: 

Most of us might have felt at some point of time in our lives that we could have been or could be doing much more

Might have felt that the true potential has not been realized. 

Might have had been haunted by thoughts and questions: what if I would have taken some other course

But 

A thing that we don’t realize is: 

After all, whatever we have achieved is nothing short of a feat. 

What we have in our possession is not that everyone has a privilege of claiming. 

Be it the:

Job,

Family,

Friends, 

Or

Other material possessions, 

Why then:

This feeling of disappointment,

This frustration, 

This temperament, 

This constant need to prove to the world

And

This inability of being able to appreciate and praise others for so called small things in life. 

Does it even register: 

Just few words of genuine praise can change or even save someone’s life

Just few words of courtesy can make someone’s day, 

Jadoo ki jhappi (an affectionate hug) of Munna Bhai does work, 

Considering we are maintaining social distancing in these times, 

And 

Considering people are getting depressed for so many reasons, 

What’s stopping us from offering something that doesn’t take a lot of effort and could indeed impact lives in the real sense! 

So, my dear friends, please don’t stop yourself from offering this genuine praise, 

to 

Whosoever comes in contact with you in these challenging times

Might even act as a life saving fresh breath of air to the affected and the depressed. 

Wondering what this G is for?

Grateful for:

To begin with alive in these times,

Getting those all important meals,

The health of our loved ones, family and friends,

There is still hope,

Enabling us to take a break from mindless and senseless lives,

and

Being able to connect and communicate, courtesy social medial platforms and calling apps,

If these are not enough for one to be grateful,

I wonder what will be!

Source for the Image: https://leadx.org/articles/we-know-we-ought-to-be-grateful-but/, https://steemit.com/writing/@doitvoluntarily/the-pursuit-of-wanting-more, https://www.amazon.in/initial-Alphabet-Monograme-Notebook-monogramend/dp/B083XVYVY3

Old Engagement!

One thing which has happened in recent past is that: 

Socializing and meeting people one on one has become quite difficult, 

Especially for senior citizens and people in their old age, 

One welcoming step from their end is that,

Many have learnt the art of interacting on social media platforms

And

Are even creating wonderful content.  

Considering that many don’t have hobbies of sorts like reading etc., 

and

Considering that there is not much for them to look forward to e.g. waiting for their children to visit them, 

This incredible phenomena and innovation termed social media, 

Is saving many from getting depressed and in turn saving lives, 

In turn reinforcing the point that:

Nothing is good or bad in itself, 

Just a matter of how it’s utilized. 

So is the case with social media platforms, 

Which might just be saving people from getting into depression in these challenging times

Source for the Image: https://www.goodreturns.in/personal-finance/spending/2018/07/various-benefits-senior-citizens-india-save-money-728569.html, https://www.onlymyhealth.com/healthcare-advice-for-senior-citizens-amid-the-covid-19-outbreak-1586249777

L-aaj-kal!

Oh! the boys in our house don’t really cook!”

You must have heard this somewhere around you,

May be in movies

or

Some tv soap opera depicting the kind of Indian society we live in,

What if the household work was taught to each and every kid,

Be it a son or a daughter,

As if it were a part of daily life,

Similar to let’s say brushing your teeth,

If it were to happen,

Don’t you think the very issue about who does what in a household would be sorted?

After all, relationships have come down to give and take,

Don’t you think it would take care of the give and take?

and

Maybe one could go beyond this and focus upon other aspects of what a relation could end up meaning!

Whether it was done for our generation or not is a topic for another day,

But what we can do, we should do,

And someone once told me:

Everyday is a good day to start! So what are you waiting for? Oh, by the way if you are wondering what that L represents, it’s love!

Source for the Image: https://faithx.net/give-take-practical-real-world-experiment-youre-invited/, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFAbImK4QQs

Willing Chance!

Have you ever wondered what’s it’s come down to? 

Expecting from others to behave in a certain manner, contingent to our own limited liking, 

Be it: 

Colleagues, 

Relatives, 

Friends, 

Kids, 

Servants, 

Or 

Any Passerby, 

And what purpose does it serve apart from making us more:

Angry,

Emotional, 

Depressed,

Hateful, 

Primarily unstable, 

Possibly making us a member of a tribe which is lost but never to be found. 

Eventually ending up all lonely,

for:

None would want to be in our company, 

None would aspire to keep arguing till eternity, 

And 

More importantly, all would expect the unexpected

Choice is ours to be a party to the much-much group or be a worthy member of the much expected tribe: 

One who puts himself/herself in other’s shoes before judging or criticizing,

And 

One who provides that all important ear to listen and not comment when it matters the most,

 

At such challenging times , why not bring a little change in the way we:

Observe,

Perceive,

Comment

and

Behave

Only question being: 

Are we ready to give this transformation a willing chance? 

Source for the Image: https://www.business2community.com/strategy/change-to-have-a-chance-02283260, https://www.earth.com/news/right-ear-listening-ability/

haha-Wrong!

How many times we would have made fun of someone blabbering something we considered wrong

In numerous I guess! 

And each time we might have derived pleasure and might have felt how knowledgeable and accomplished we are! 

Not to mention that the same Mr./miss know it all that we think we are, fall in the above category similar to any other person. 

Erring every now and then, 

Forgetting lets say birthdays of who’s who of our lives, 

Breaking rules, traffic or otherwise at times, 

And in such times, seldom accepting our faults and conveying the much required apology. 

Going to an extent of defending ourselves to our last breath so to say, 

Which might have resulted in a quarrel or worst a fist fight, 

Anybody’s guess on what the consequences of such would have been! 

What do you think would have happen if: 

We would have just apologised the moment that apology was supposed to be rendered,

Probably would have cooled down things to begin with,

Possibly wouldn’t have turned into an angry blame game

And 

More often than not, would have resulted in haha and hihi for the parties involved on reflection of the situation at hand. 

Heard a wise man saying once:

My dear friend and perceived foe, life is too short for a quarrel or an argument.

Guess its time we listened to him for a change and became a bit wiser!

Source for the Image: https://www.wikihow.com/Make-Fun-of-Others, https://www.tekportal.net/quarrel/

I-Good-U

Wondering what this funny looking ridiculous title might be? 

Not a proposal for sure, 

Not related to any pun intended or unintended what so ever, 

Just a simple representation of what many of us choose not to live by, intentionally or unintentionally. 

Let me ask you a very simple question to bring to context what this is all about. 

When was the last time we complimented someone? 

And since its becoming a bit difficult to remember, let me also give you few options: 

Spouse/gf/bf for how beautiful/handsome they might be looking on the day, 

Employees for having achieved that all important little feat which causes one’s company to grow that delta bit, 

Or 

Let’s say house helps for serving us in such a wonderful manner. 

Ya, understandable that we all have our own things to deal with, 

Totally comprehensible we are not always in a good mood so to say, 

Yet, don’t you think we have become too critically oriented to be ignoring the enormous good that surrounds us on a daily basis? 

Be it that simple meal which we are served on a daily basis, 

to 

The very breath that we take for granted every moment of our lives, especially in these times that we are living in, 

It’s high time we realise that: 

Being grateful is not a virtue but a fact of life which must be recognized and appreciated.

And

Before it gets too late, on this wonderful day where we celebrate Yoga,

How about being a part of a journey where one begins to start seeing good in U (the other) and doing good to U—> I-Good-U!

Source for the Image: https://www.grammarly.com/blog/compliments-for-any-person/, https://fcw.com/Blogs/Lectern/2013/08/smiley-ratings.aspx

HRs!

Well, let me put a disclaimer right away, it’s not a take on human resources departments around the world, 

For those who don’t believe me, wouldn’t take that chance ever, for my dear wife is herself an HR, dangerous territory to tread upon.

Jokes apart, 

Simply put its the Horse Sense that am referring to, going by the famous folklore that seems to have inspired generations

Paraphrasing what it is: 

Few centuries back, there was this horse who had this sense, 

Come on, it cannot be as lame as this! 

So, the master wanted to take the horse to the field, 

Though the horse which loved to graze, wasn’t up for the same, even after being pulled from all sides.

A maid in the household who happened to be watching this, came up to the horse, put her maternal finger in its mouth and slowly took it to the place where the master wanted it to be, 

As always, moral of the story: if you want someone to do something you got to make that someone want to do that something! 

Coming back to the human resource departments around the world, they say the biggest challenge is to keep the employees engaged and bring out the best in them.

Why, what and how, guess you are smart enough to figure out how to arouse that eager want and motivation to accomplish that very something!

Source for the Image: https://thehorse.com/112472/too-much-pasture-can-lead-to-laminitis/, https://www.lucidchart.com/blog/what-does-hr-do