Still Deciphering!

Somehow the past couple of days flew by in a flash and here I am welcoming you all once again to what I would like to call a thought provoking but all time favourite topic that has and will continue to have an immense impact on not only me but the entire society of ours, whether we like it or not.

Philosophers have tried it, psychologists have also given their best to understand the behaviour and the emotions, but no one seems to have deciphered the practical application or predictability of the very form of emotion that we all tend to fall in love with.

Yes! I am talking about an emotion none other than love itself. Whenever I use this term or come across this 4 letter word, the first thing that seems to occupy my mind space is my very own brother who was named Lav a couple of decades back by my very dear grandparents, expecting that I will follow soon after ;).

But coming back to the romantic meaning of the term, I tend to get perplexed thinking about the whole process of falling (I wonder why not rising 🙂) in love.

It all starts on the day when you meet someone from the opposite sex and get physically attracted to her/him. It could be anything ranging from liking some of the personality traits or attributes that the person might be emitting in the form of a halo created right at the back of his/her head to liking the mannerisms that the person seem to demonstrate in a social gathering.

The question that arises here is: Why is it then that it is called pure/true love? This can happen to anyone in any social gathering what so ever.

To some extent, yes! It can. Then what is it that differentiates the feeling of love from the casual attraction that might have occured in a one-off gathering?

In all probabilities it is the committment that one makes after falling in love with another person that seems to create that divide between falling for someone and spending one’s entire life with the same person.

Some of my friends who have already got married seem to be very unhappy about the fact that their chances of staring and wooing another girl have gone down the drain after getting married. They seem to suggest that boredom has begun to capture their lives and they seem to be caught in a cobweb with no reprieve to be found anywhere.

Indeed, it can be a miserable situation for people who tend to develop this kind of a thinking. After all, who doesn’t want to be a free bird? Who would like to shoulder all the responsibility if it were not not for the social norms?

Somehow, I feel the entire concept of getting married is losing its charm. Thanks to the thinking that our youth seems to be developing, the institution will soon meet its end, if effective and corrective measures are not taken.

Imagine, how our lives would have been, if we were deserted by our parents? Would I even be writing on this platform as a liberated individual or for that matter would I even be knowing how to write?

It is all because I was provided an opportunity to evolve as an individual that I am able to do all this. And all the credit for this goes to the ever intact family system that our country takes much pride in projecting the world over.

Some of you might be thinking that it is a hell lot of a task to accomplish the feat that our parents managed to pull off so beautifully. Trust me, it takes only a word to be able to emulate or even improve upon what our parents did.

Some might call it compromise but I would like to put it as DISCIPLINE.

We all need to be disciplined in life if we want to make it big. Then why ignore this aspect in, what according to me, is the most significant of things to have ever crossed your life!

It is very natural for a guy to get attracted towards another girl or vice-versa, even after being involved in a relationship. But such instincts need to be curtailed and curbed affectively, in order to ensure that our societal structure remains intact and is saved from disintegration.

So. can I take the liberty of defining love in an extremely crude manner as: ” the discipline imposed on the alternative competitive instincts”. THINK ABOUT IT!

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