About kushsrivastava

A B.Tech from IIT Kanpur, I went on to do a Masters in Management from ESCP Europe in Paris and an MBA from AIT, Bangkok. With a flair for writing, I decided to pen down a few things. Soon, I realized that it could well be given a shape of a book/novel. I have published a book on Corporate Governance titled Motivation for Good Corporate Governance: A Peep into Thai Companies and a novel titled Three Cheers to Life. I am all set to publish my third one titled "Road to Bureaucracy".

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You get up, more often than not, you check your phone these days to see how many Whatsapp messages you might have received, or how many likes on your pic which you uploaded last night on Fb you have got, get happy seeing the likes or get depressed seeing no likes ;).

Reality strikes and you are made aware of the meeting that you have early morning, you start to rush around, trying to get ready asap, and grabbing a sandwich or so in your hand, you leave your house.

Sit in your car/cab, cursing the traffic which is bound to make you get late for the all important meeting which was supposed to get you a raise/promotion or whatever you value most in your professional life.

You reach the meeting, a little startled and unprepared, though you end up performing well, considering the hard work that you might have put in the night before, and only then are you able to bring your BP down to so called normal levels.

Assignment after assignment you try to somehow deal with all the frustration of sitting in the office day-in-day-out, until you are brought back to the horrible traffic in your car/cab, which at times takes an hour or so more for you to reach the place we all refer to as our home.

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Probably, the above is a reflection of the very life 90-95% of the folks are leading today.

Somehow, all the things that were inherently important, be it good health, fresh food, time spent with family, healthy conversation at work place, the famous Nike tagline of doing what you love, feeling joyful and happy when you accomplish a wonderful feat have gone into a background,

Being overtaken and haunted by the thought of how much I made this month, whether my bank balance increased by a certain X amount, whether I was able to buy my favorite car this quarter, what if I don’t buy my dream house in the next one year, what if my boss gives promotion to my enemy no. 1 in office, what if my wife doesn’t get that all important diamond ring from me which I promised to her like a year before.

As a consequence, you end up feeling tired, restless at the things you are trying to match the pace with on a daily basis, and more importantly begin to get affected by diseases or conditions, courtesy the degradation in your immune system, considering the kind of thought process and physical activity that you might have pushed yourself into in the past decade or so.

Don’t you think, it’s high time, you start to give importance to what really matters when it comes to leading a fulfilling life?

Don’t you think, it’s high time, you start to take it easy and give yourself the much needed relief from the fast pace of day-night match you seem to be playing with your life?

If not now, then when, if not today, then there might not be any tomorrow,

So stop wondering about how you might be able to become the who’s who, and start to wonder what if you couldn’t become the who and act accordingly! 🙂

Source for the Image: https://phys.org/news/2017-09-important-physics-gender-bias.html

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F.A.T. Syndrome!

For some it could mean a distorted Body Mass Index (BMI), for some it might mean a big fat wedding, but for the gentleman whom I happened to meet yesterday simply out of no where and who seemed to have mastered the Art of Living (not the one founded by Mr. Ravi Shankar) but the one which we seemed to live in as a society on a day-to-day basis, wants to define it as, F.A.T.=For All Time, and seems to suggest that we as a society have got affected by the ever so pervading For All Time sake Syndrome.

Wondering what it could mean, well, to start with, it means a fancy intuition about everything’s gonna last for ever and ever, and living your life according to the same belief.

Which might translate into:

Filling up our bank accounts like never before for your generations to follow,

Accumulating loads of assets which gives you so called materialistic happiness,

Loading up your bellies with more than required calories, which in a way also is suggestive of the fact that you are creating an imbalance between what your body demands and what you and your heart supplies to the same, leading to different kind of complications when it comes to your health and well being, 

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Working 20 hours a day for someone or something that you wouldn’t otherwise care about, if it was not offering you the kind of remuneration it does and as a consequence creating a whiff of negativity and chaos wherever you go to, just because you are kind of not happy with the life that you might be leading, 

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On the contrary, one could have a not so negative connotation of F.A.T. as well. It could mean for all time sake:

Taking a cue from the ancient past and looking at what we as a society used to value at some point of time in our histories, 

Looking at the role models of the previous as well as our own era, who have lived their lives with values and ethics which one would want to emulate, 

Getting inspired by those who are dedicating their lives to making this planet a better place to live in, 

Emulating the sustainable manner of living, which not only brings happiness and prosperity to our planet but would also allow our future generations to derive benefits from the same. 

After all, for all time sake, isn’t it a good idea to leave this place a much better one than what you were given by your prior generation?

Source for the Image: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jF7TqzPP38A

“I Listen”!

In a colloquial conversation, in a public gathering, a teacher was once asked, “what do you do for a living?” 

He answered, “I listen!

Funny to the core as it might sound, it had a very deep trans formative meaning to the same.

Most of the teachers by any set of imagination, would go on talking on how well they teach, how well they are able to bring out the curiosity in the kid, how well they are able to communicate their learning, and so on.

But here, this gentleman was standing amidst the who’s who of education sector, answering the very fundamental of what you need to do in order to make sure that every kid on this planet gets an opportunity to learn, as per his/her needs, convenience and adaptability.

For if one doesn’t listen to what the kid has to say, how would one know, what he/she wants, what are the kind of challenges the kid might be going through in his/her life be it getting bullied by a set of rogues or failing to understand that one concept in science on which he was made to believe that his entire future would depend on.

This fantastic habit, which we all refer to as listening, goes well beyond what I have spoken above and is a mool mantra of sorts when it comes to our day-to-day life.

Be it professional, or personal, though everything is personal (another thought for another time ;)), yet for clarity and for discussion purposes, lets keep it separate.

Professionally, an organization is one big family, where in the father/mother or the so called CEO tries to make sure that each kid performs to the best of his/her ability, reaping proportionate awards for the same, at the same time, making this family a prosperous unit.

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Personally, father and mother, try to do everything possible for their kids, trying to make sure that every need is met with a suitable material/emotional support for the child to grow and become a productive and healthy individual.

But if the above forget to listen to what their kid has to offer in terms of advice, in terms of feedback, in terms of sharing his/her concern, in terms of discussing his/her problems, then no matter how good the HR policy is

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The home conduct rules and values are, the kid will end up suffering, because of the chaotic environment around him/her which doesn’t seem to offer that much needed ear, leading to multitude of problems, both physical and psychological, that our society needs to be caught in big time, at this very moment in our lives.

So, if you want to become a good father, a good mother, a good CEO, a good leader or whatever category of good, you need to imbibe this art of listening.

I wonder, how many are indeed listening ;)!

Source for the Image: http://www.clipartpanda.com/categories/free-clip-art-children-listening

Choti Si Soch!

You might have heard from all the so called business gurus  and the mentors, thriving and practically living by giving one advice, which seems to remain constant across, is to think big. 

Each one from such tribe, capable of putting on the gravest possible face on earth, would tell you, to chase your dreams, to believe in your imagination, to thrive on your ambition and the list goes on and on, can mention a dozen more such phrases but will save the effort and time, for it doesn’t matter, it refers to the same thing after all.

What if I were to tell you, that thinking big is nothing but a collection of thinking small things every day of your life.

It is taking one small step each day to come up with something that builds on a daily basis, which tends to give you more satisfaction and sense of accomplishment than being thinking constantly about that one big goal, that you seem to have formulated in your mind, and every now and then comparing your current state of affairs to that imagined wanna be state of affairs, dreaming about when it would be when you will reach the helm of your dream, makes you either sad or delighted, depending on the difference between the two.

Why I would say so is, at the end of the day, isn’t it about reaching the helm?

Well, to a certain extent it is, whatever that imagined helm, which by the way is perceived differently by most of us, though it’s one and the same, yet the essence of the very fact that you are living is not to reach some established goal but to enjoy every moment of the process.

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For, if you were just meant to be happy only if and when you reach your goal, don’t you think it would just be a waste of your time, effort and energy, and what if, you realize that reaching your goal was nothing more than being in possession of your favorite toy when you were young, in the process of which you missed some very important aspects of the very life which you thought were living.

And when such a thing happens, you don’t have any other option but to feel sorry for the way you conducted your life all through.

Be conscious of the fact, that this choti si soch each day of your lives,

be it spending some time with your mom or dad,

be it using some part of your available time to take your dog for a walk,

be it spending some time with your kids talking about what they did the very day,

be it reading at least 10-15 pages of the book that you might have wanted to read for a long time,

be it taking out time for your own self in the form of some exercise, Yoga or meditation,

be it dedicating yourself to a social cause,

is bound to make that difference in your life, which you might have been looking for, all through and not finding which you feel stressed out to the core.

So, if you wanna make sense out of this piece of this very life that you have been lucky to be bestowed with, would want to give you the mool mantra of:

“think chota and live bada!”

Source for the Image: http://www.orionmalls.com/location/Orion%20Mall%20at%20Brigade%20Gateway/stores/fashion/SOCH

LOL Belief!

No one needs to tell the modern tech savvy folks as to what LOL means, a light word representing a reaction on something you find really funny.

Surely, belief is a much more serious word, indicating that all of us have a tendency to accept the existence of some aspect of our life, which doesn’t seem to come into our experience or we are not able to comprehend and we end up believing the same.

The most talked about since times immemorial is the creator or God himself/herself or any other name that you want to refer to as, either way whether you accept or don’t accept his/her existence, you end up believing the same.

On one hand, where not being able to provide an observable and repeatable proof of some kind through randomized control trial experiments (guess that’s what modern science is all about) leads people to believing that something doesn’t exist, not realizing the possibility of such a thing to be discovered in the near future.

On the other hand, those who strongly believe in something gives them a tool to say anything and everything on the basis of the same, which can lead to exploitation or all the senseless activities that might be nothing but a consequence of exploitation of such a belief.

After all, the very fundamentals of the society were built on some kind of an imagined reality, very different from let’s say the physical reality.

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If you are wondering, what I might be referring to, take for example, a corporation (derived from the word corpus=body and referred to as a limited liability company in US), it’s very ironical that though not a physical entity, yet has an identity of it’s own, with ever lasting existence till it’s brought to a close by another concept of sorts, socio-economic-legal-political system that seems to exist since homo sapiens started dwelling together.

What is scary though, is that belief has led to wars and all kinds of destructive activities that our breed has taken all the credit for.

Being the so called educated and conditioned folks that we all claim to be and have become respectively, don’t you think, it’s after all not a bad idea to delve into skepticism, just a touch bit, to allow yourself that chance of being able to get out of the vicious circle of believing and not believing, rather seeing for yourself whether such a think exists or not, which seems to be the correct scientific approach.

The question though is, whether one can become flexible enough to different point of views and stop believing for the sake of life itself!

Source of the Image: http://www.canstockphoto.com/images-photos/belief.html

Doc! Is it time?

An extremely moving conversation that I had with one of the most renowned doctors in the country and a part of which I would definitely want to share with all (for I believe it’s one of the most important food for thoughts you might want to delve deep into) about what happens when a patient is courageous enough to ask whether it’s time.

You see, the word doctor in itself is derived from something which means ‘to teach’. Often people think, it’s very convenient for a doctor to witness someone dying in front of their eyes.”

Trust me, it’s the most difficult and the most moving of things, no matter how habitual we become of the same, feeling utterly disgusted with the lack of capabilities we docs seem to possess coupled with the plethora of agony and emotions that we get to witness on a daily basis

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And when a patient is courageous enough to ask, whether it’s time, it leaves us no scope and puts us under a situation which is dreaded by every doc worldwide, no matter how logical and practical it might sound to be.”

On the basis of the little knowledge that we docs seem to have, we do have a probable guess about the chances, yet who are we to deny that miracles don’t happen.”

On one hand, by letting the patient and the family know about the probables, gives them time to spend the same in the most meaningful of manners in which they can; on the other hand, what if we are wrong about the probables, what if miracle was supposed to happen but didn’t, what if the patient wanted to undergo the treatment, yet we deprived him/her of the same, and many such questions tend to haunt us day-in-day-out

At the end of the day, it comes down to a very basic question, what are docs there for?Are they there for relieving one of their suffering, do they exist because one day, they might be able to become capable of creating miracles? Or there existence in turn enables them ‘to teach’ one how to die in the most joyful manner and to facilitate the same.”

After all, the only certainty in our lives is death itself. For patients, ‘letting go’ might be the toughest of tasks they have ever done, but for doctors, may be they were meant to become a friend, philosopher and guide in the last stages of the bliss, very fondly referred to as life, bestowed upon every individual by the creator himself/herself.”

Source for the Image: https://pixabay.com/en/photos/doctor/

Clear Logbook_Bit by Bit!

Quite interesting, if you look at how kids are brought up. As a being feeling extremely excited to see themselves happening on this planet, I assume, a kid wouldn’t have any words to express the kind of ecstasy he or she might be going through.

As they become more aware of their habitat and become so called more intellect and educated, they have an entire logbook created for themselves by themselves, with contributions coming from different stakeholders in his/her life, be it parents, teachers, friends, relatives etc etc. , primarily aimed at making them all economically or financially successful, wonder whether this could come anywhere close to the definition of success, for success leads to misery on most occasions in our society these days.

What results is a logbook of do’s and don’ts, of what is possible and what’s impossible, achievable or cannot be achieved, the idea about what’s right or wrong, the conceptualization of morality and ethics, putting one inside a cage of sorts with a plethora of restrictions and boundation hanging right over one’s head.

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With no means at hand to escape from the obvious stress and displeasure, one seeks a help, be it medical, social etc., not getting which one might get prone to taking the disastrous step of ending one’s own physical self.

What becomes most important in such situations is a tool which can help them clear the logbook that they have created over a period of time, which has actually handicapped them of their abilities to live life to its full potential.

What might also become a thing of priority is to find that all important person, who can enable this clearance of the logbook. Even if not, one can explore doing the same through a customized approach, fitting in best with one’s natural self, as to who best other than oneself can understand one.

Admitting that it cannot be done by a single stroke of luck, one needs to work upon it in a conscious manner over a period of time, removing and clearing the annoying bits over a period of sustained strive and determination.

The only question is whether you want to give it a shot, which could be your last chance, by the way 😉 , to give yourself another opportunity to live life to the fullest?

Source of the Image: https://logbook.readthedocs.io/en/stable/

Mission ADAM!

ADAM, a term mostly associated with you know whom (EVE), can have a different connotation for some, for me it’s ANOTHER DAY ANOTHER MORNING!

If you are wondering why I am going crazy about ADAM, you are right, it’s inspired and in fact dedicated to a person with whom I have had a chance to converse in the past month or so which has resulted in ringing the bells, as is always the case, when you happen to come across some kind of an eye opener.

Alright, let me ask you a question, when was the last time you happen to write a letter to someone? Or let’s say, an email? to some near or dear one or a friend, or your girlfriend/boyfriend, or your wife/husband, or your parents, who by the way, are well equipped with all the technology tools and big kudos to them for their fantastic efforts.

If not, why not write one today. I have always believed and wondered at the same time, how simple words written on a piece of paper/email, coming straight from the heart, can have such a wonderful impact on the person whom it’s addressed to.

Trust me, it doesn’t take much time, possibly 15-20 minutes of your day, if you are thinking too hard, or it could be as less as 5 minutes, if you are in the flow.

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It could be anything that you can pen down, an apology which you might have not said for fighting with your parents, lets say, on the previous night; it could be a love letter, am sure all the youngsters are pretty good at that, if not can become one ;); it could be a simple how was your day? kind of a letter which makes you more connected with the world around you; it could be about a trip whose experience you might want to share with your friends/family or for that matter anything random that’s coming to you on a particular day/time.

This wonderful art of expression, which used to be the only means of communicating when there were no phones/pagers, seem to be disappearing day by day.

There is where ADAM pitches in. It helps you keep track of the life that many of us seem to be floundering without being conscious about the same. It helps keep you grounded and enables you to keep a check on the mindless consumerism that you might have got into. It surely has a therapeutic impact, for it’s always good to take it out of your system, rather than feeding those cancerous cells inside your body with the thoughts.

You know the best thing to do is to not listen to someone, but try for yourself, every morning, for 15 minutes, that you can of course take out from your busy schedules, adhere to Mission ADAM and see it transform your lives in a huge way.

If not for yourself, then do it for your loved ones, for sharing is caring and what best you can share other than your time and thoughts.

So guys, are you ready to see Mission ADAM transform all your lives in a fantastic manner? 🙂

Source for Image: https://www.lds.org/manual/old-testament-stories/chapter-3-adam-and-eve?lang=eng

Think Beyond till you have a Chance to!

I still cannot believe when I heard it for the first time,

Is it true? How did it happen? Are you sure? But he was perfectly alright! How could something happen to him of all people?”

I was shocked to the core to hear of the demise of a person, whom I had known since I first stepped into my hostel room in college, for he was a bhai not the brother from the same mother, not the dons with whom the word has found some sort of resonance, but one among a group of 5 freshers kept under the same student guide supposed to make our lives easy in college.

A gem of a person that he was, we were ragged on several occasions together, courtesy our student counselor. On numerous occasions, I remember having borrowed his notes to study overnight before the exams.

Though we didn’t keep much in touch, we took our own respective paths after college, yet it never occurred that it could end so soon for him, for death is the last thing a youngster tends to worry about, having graduated from the best of the best institutes in India looking with beaming eyes at a much desired career path.

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And then, you cannot help but realize a very simple fact of life, that you are just a speck and that too a very small one in this cosmos, a thing which appeared by chance from somewhere, and one day, is bound to vaporize as if you weren’t there at all, taking away all the I’s and the Me’s and the ego that comes along with the same, with you.

Don’t you think we start to give too much of importance to this little self of ours? Don’t you think, we start taking the Me’s too seriously and making it the basis of all our actions? Don’t you think, all the accumulations be it the physical or the materialist ones that we have got so busy with, will not matter at all when the time comes?

Sometimes I wonder, the one chance that has been bestowed to all of us, as homo sapiens, why not live our lives as if there was no tomorrow, live it in the most compassionate and enthusiastic way that we can, be it doing good for others or committing towards that one thing that you really care about and which if implemented can do good not only for you but for every being on this planet.

For seriously guys, have seen it unfold in front of my eyes to a very talented and wonderful human being, kal ho na ho! 

Make full use of this opportunity and think beyond, for if you don’t, and when the time comes, which might be as soon as the next moment for how do you know that you are getting up next morning, it would be too late to do anything about the same.

So give it a thought and do your best!

Source for the Image: http://www.canyouthinkbeyond.com/

The Secret Formula: If you wanna be happy!

Let me begin by asking all a very simple question, “how many got up today and were happy or excited to go for work?”

You don’t have to answer, everyone know what I am referring to, and the answer to this in the affirmative, would be, not many of us.

Have you ever wondered, why this is so? Have you ever thought about the life that we are leading or for some, end up leading, what this entire activity is all about? For those who like the scientific way of dealing with things, what the cells in our body, which by the way we have more cancerous cells than normal in our body, end up behaving the way they do?

Without getting into the complexities of the unknown and not getting into what is right and what is wrong, and not even sullying it with my opinions, just sharing few things, which have worked for those who have tried, might work for us as well, and for those who don’t really believe in the world of swami or sadhu, let me tell you the source of the same is none other but a well trained scientific doctor:

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  1. First thing first, accept who you are, don’t try to create a mask, helps you get rid of the wannabe’s syndrome and several bindings that come along with it as a consequence
  2. Eat consciously, sit consciously and think consciously: being conscious of how one was meant to do the activities and not how one would want to do the same can do wonders
  3. Even if you are not able to get over the “I” syndrome, and even if you were to say that you love yourself the most, then it should be a given that you work on your immune system to cure yourself by doing at least 10-15 minutes of yoga or any form of exercise in the right manner every day
  4. On a personal and professional front both, don’t react to a situation, instead think and respond to it in a manner taking all considerations in mind, without being too emotional about the same, at the end of the day, it is just a situation that needs to taken care of, and nothing is serious enough to be taken seriously, after all you are still living and not dead
  5. On a more moral note:), hate and anger do more harm to you than others, so avoid doing the same

And then he goes on to say, that if you live your life in a simple and conscious way, you will see the symptoms which are making you uncomfortable seem to be disappearing and finding a new expression in the form of ever so craved peace of mind.

Try for yourself and see the difference 🙂

Source for the Image: http://artificialbrain.xyz/brain-consciousness/