Use and Throw!

A monologue from a learned philosopher and a professor by profession, just remembered:

People come into your life for a reason.

Nothing comes free or with a label of being unconditional.

Be it the person who comes to me for a PhD,

Be it the people who want to collaborate with me on a project,

or

Be it the love of my life whom I treat as a part of my extended self,

Few might comment that its all about using and throwing,

Well, that’s one perspective but surely has different ways of looking at it,

It could be perceived as give and take,

May be represented as a symbiotic existential relationship,

or

Spiritually speaking, just a payback of one’s own Karmas,

It’s how you judge or form an opinion about the interaction determines whether it makes you happy or not.

Whether you are annoyed and feel cheated,

or

Whether you take it in your stride as part of what’s meant to be.

After all, even Corona is trying to do use the human body for its existence,

Sooner or later, it’s bound to realize that living and letting live is a sustainable solution for both, though it’s still learning.

When the tiniest of entities may endeavor to learn this fundamental aspect of life,

Why can’t we as beings?”

Source for the image: https://www.webmd.com/lung/coronavirus, https://theconversation.com/3-philosophers-set-up-a-booth-on-a-street-corner-heres-what-people-asked-110866

Am-In?

They say one’s life is a direct consequence of the choices one makes.

L=f (choices) is what one would say as a mathematician.

More often than not one answers in the affirmative to the title of this post.

Be it joining a cool group as a teenager,

Be it replicating the Virat Kohli’s beard look or the Ronaldo’s hair cut,

Be it starting to smoke or drink with friends,

or

Be it buying products from the who’s who of brands be it Zara, Louis Vuitton etc.

virat kohli

Have you ever wondered what would life be if you were NOT IN?

You wouldn’t be too concerned about spending loads to match up to the fashion trends,

You wouldn’t get too affected by being an outlier from the smoking/drinking groups,

You wouldn’t be spending too much time and money trying to find where happiness lies,

Rather

Would start deriving happiness and satisfaction from the so called little things in life.

The only thing you need to figure out is whether you choose to be IN or NOT!

Source for the Image: https://www.searchenginejournal.com/trends-seo-content-marketing/309997/, https://in.pinterest.com/pin/583638432936401588/

TG-OIL!

Can’t believe it’s already been nearly 5 months since the lock down was imposed!

Has been great for few, in terms of:

retaining their jobs to begin with, 

spending quality time with family, 

working out on one’s health, 

giving importance to the much neglected hobbies and things one wished one had invested time in, 

At the same time not so good for some,

who have lost their jobs, 

who are having hard time living with their spouses, 

who think their idea of fun has been taken away from them,

Yet, if one is reading this, one needs to thank God that one is alive (TG-OIL),

to witness another beautiful sunrise, 

to be able to spending that one more moment with one’s loved ones, 

to hope that things would certainly improve in the near future, 

to be able to write one more blog 😉

Well, they say, all’s well that ends well,

A little change that I would want to bring in the above perspective is,

All’s well if one treads the path well! 

If one gets to live another day as if it was their last,

If one is able to bring that wonderful smile on one more person’s face,

If one aspires to light up this world with one’s acts of kindness and humble behavior,

For if one chooses not to or is unable to do the above, there is nothing to thank God in the first place, if not for the one, then surely for the others.

Source for the Image: https://torontodiamonddental.com/how-important-is-your-smile/

This and That!

He asked, what is it that you want?

I answered, this and that!

Then he asked, why is it that you want this and that?

I answered, just wanna feel good and happy about myself!

He couldn’t help asking, with the things that I gave, are you happy?

I answered, not really, but I guess, this one would certainly make me feel happy!

He smiled and didn’t say a word after.

I wondered!

And so is the wonder that we keep wondering,

We keep aspiring,

We keep making aims,

We keep having ambitions,

And

We continue to perspire for this and that!

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Then comes a reality check, when we all take a pause to ponder,

Over the things we all have so called achieved in life,

Over the assets that we all have accumulated over a period of time,

Over the relations that we all have forged during our lifetimes,

Yet

We don’t get that thing that we all look for,

What is it that we all look for?

And then we all come across a thought which resonates with something like this:

ख्वाइशों का आलम ऐसा था जनाब,
कि हम खुद को ही भुला बैठे!

What ensues is a trail of:

Not finding answers,

Not finding a purpose,

Not being able to come to terms with one’s current state of affairs and mind,

And

Getting lost in the ख्वाइश of this चमक and that धमक of this material world.

Without realizing what this and that did and continues to do with all of us.

Source for the image: https://www.calmdownmind.com/when-your-desire-feels-ordinary-its-on-the-verge-of-manifestation/

Shukran!

Taking a cue from a very dear friend who has this wonderful habit of saying shukran (Arabic word meaning thank you) every now and then,

And why not,

Especially in these precarious times,

Where one never knows how long one is going to live,

Not just because of Corona but the very manner in which our generation has been consuming pretty much everything on this planet,

Its never enough no matter how many times one says shukran to the people one comes across in one’s life time,

thank you

Be it the parents to start with, who brought us here, nurtured us to become who we are today,

Be it our spouses/siblings/cousins/friends who made this life worth living,

Be it the teachers who acted as friends, philosophers and guides in this journey of acquiring knowledge,

or

Be it the mentors and seniors who pretty much laid the path for us to grow professionally,

We often take it for granted what people have done for us,

We often are drawn into the illusion of having achieved everything unilaterally,

and

We often ignore all the contributions/sacrifices our near and dear ones make for us,

Just to see us happy achieving our dreams and fulfilling our aspirations,

Now,

With no more excuses of being busy or not having enough time,

Why not just say it loud,

Give some form and shape to the gratitude that we all feel,

And take that first step to bringing one’s near-dear ones even closer,

Up for it, are you?

SHUKRAN 🙂

Source for the Image: https://www.multibhashi.com/gratitude-meaning-in-tamil/

Zoomiyana

Quite a world,

Quite a life,

Quite a scenario,

Quite a tribe,

Yes, these are the times, when everything goes for a toss,

And it doesn’t matter whether it’s a heads or a tails,

As long as one is surviving,

fun

The one and only key to all happiness that each one of us is bound to get in the future.

Well, things are opening up, for good, supposedly,

And if we look back at how it panned out, this lockdown that is,

Zoomiyana, or the art of finding happiness in something, the way i choose to define it as, became a norm,

With people dating on Zoom Ishq, 

Proposing online in the hope of getting married on Zoom Shaadi, 

Performing rituals via Zoom Puja, 

And pretty much Zooming In on anything and everything concerning humanity,

Now that we have had enough time to break the habit and do some good (#Sutta4G)

and

The new normal in the state of being adapted,

Another opportunity to live it all over again,

But

With certain sense of responsibility,

With certain consideration for others,

With going beyond just thinking about self,

and

With adhering to all guidelines,

So,

ज़ूमियाये (zoomiyaye) मगर ज़िम्मेदारी से !

Source for the image: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fun

Adios!

“Uncertainty is the only certainty”, he observed.

I suppose in the end the whole of life becomes an act of letting go. But what always hurts the most…is not taking a moment to say goodbye”—Hope he did.

I was travelling on a speedy train ride, had dreams, plans, goals, was fully engaged in them. And suddenly someone taps on my shoulder. It’s the TC. Your destination is about to come. Please get down.” —Finally he surrendered,

Few lines dedicated to the one and only Irrfan Khan

The man who brought so much joy to the lives of people through his art par excellence.

Irffan Khan

क्यों रोती है ये धरती
क्यों रोता है ये आसमान
क्यों रोते हैं ये लोग
क्यों रोता है ये जहाँ

फिर मिलेंगे कभी कहीं किसी रोज़
कुछ पल हसने खेलने के लिए
फिर एक बार तेरा हाँथ थाम
मुस्कराने, ऐ ज़िन्दगी!

After All!

Considering the kind of busy lives we have got habituated into spending,

Not often does one get a chance to move out in the wilderness,

And once one does, the kind of activities we get to do, any guesses?

Trekking,

Rafting,

Mountaineering,

Wildlife Safari,

Para-sailing etc etc

Have you ever wondered, how many times have you ended up doing nothing?

Just being there,

Relaxing,

Seizing the moment,

Whatever comes to your mind in that moment, you do,

Letting go of any thought that comes to your mind,

Freeing yourself from all worries that tend to haunt you on a daily basis,

Bereft of what the boss tells you,

Not caring about how many questions your parents would keep asking you,

Without giving a consideration to your spouses’ expectations at home,

And then if you get into knowing such a beautiful description of what life means to a few over a bonfire, you might as well write about it 🙂

life

To me, if i were to tell you, 

Life is nothing more than getting up in the morning, 

Asking myself a question, in what mood would i want to be today, 

And say, well…not many reasons to get upset about, 

So many wonderful things happening to me, 

as well choose to smile rather than frown, 

not a bad beginning, eh!

regular chores happen, 

my boyfriend calls right after i come out of the shower and take my first bite, 

well, can get too much at times, but how many would actually do so, 

by the time am about to finish getting ready and he getting into a cab for office, 

we get on a call again, saying good morning again,

the cab guy, i have stopped quarrel with, 

after all everyone is frustrated because of something or the other, 

so why argue!

having a flirtatious conversation with my boyfriend just brightens up my day, 

then comes office, 

bosses will always be bosses, they are also learning

so why not give them a benefit of doubt?

sorted, haan!

lunch is always of my choice, not too heavy yet good and light, 

meantime, he keeps texting, sending sweet messages, i feel loved, 

comes the evening and he is right there waiting to pick me up, 

after we go for a long drive, 

do random chats, 

sit in a coffee shop, 

or 

just be there in the moment, 

sometimes we kiss as well, make love, good for hormones you see, 

he drops me back, in the comfort of my house, 

late evening is mine, 

where i would read some book, watch some movie, 

Ya, spend time with parents, after all they brought me into this world,

night..back to hormones, be it a movie, books or him again,

on second thoughts, he really loves me 😉

one might wonder, what’s the future plans?

well, who knows there is a future, what if there is none, 

and i went in my sleep!

at least it would be worth it, 

see, it’s not also about the bf, 

even if he wasn’t there to share my time, i would seize the moment, 

What is after all life but a collection of beautiful moments!

Source for the Image: https://unsplash.com/images/people/life

L-After

The conversation started by remembering the famous dialogue from the movie, Om Shanti Om: “yanna rascala mind it

When the experienced and the knowledgeable started contemplating the very fundamentals of:

what’s to be mind

or

what’s not to be.

What’s to be given the heed required,

What’s to be taken seriously,

What’s to be considered important,

What’s relevant,

Though it all came down to,

nothing in life is serious enough to be taken seriously

And then he went on to narrate what I feel like taking the liberty of calling it the essence of life.

you know, am 70 now, 7 decades you see, 

lot of people look at my wealth, comforts that I have,

Call me successful, and what not, 

but if you were to ask me whether all these compliments matter,

Not really! 

When I close my eyes to sit down for my me time, 

the only thing that comes to me is (and then he pauses for a moment)

the moments that I was fortunate enough to spend with beautiful people in my lifetime, 

I can still feel that touch, the spurt in energy, the emotions that flowed with it, 

its only these scenes that i vividly remember,

though they say that am loosing my memory (pauses for a while, smiles),

yet no one can take it away from me, 

the time that I have lived has passed in a flash, 

little time, though we think we have plenty, 

every day when I get up, 

the first thing that I experience today is mortality, 

I am alive for one more day to choose to experience so much more, 

Wish I had the same perspective when I was your age or even before, 

Having said that, it’s never too late to start (pauses and smiles again as if he just remembered some familiar face)

life

Goes into some deep silence,

A nurse walks in, “you shouldn’t disturb him any more“.

And then he speaks for the final time, before I left

what is life after all if not gotten disturbed,

what is life after all without involvement, 

what is life after all without compassion, 

what is life after all without desires, 

what is life after all without beautiful moments, 

what is life after all!

Smiles and shuts his eyes.

Source for the Image: https://unsplash.com/images/people/life

The Ever Last-ing

20 missed calls…yet no reply….make it 40..result the same…
what is the matter?
what could have happened?
it was just a fight!
how could she?
it doesn’t happen like that?
well…sometimes it does!
but she calls back every time.
Alright! no more talking to her ever again!
or let me see…should i give her another chance?
but why me every time?
this is truly unfair!
The phone got picked up on the 41st:
Hey what’s the matter with you? Why are you not picking my calls?”
Who’s this?“, a guy spoke from the other side.
Who are you? Where is Sanjana? Give her the phone.”
You should come to the Apollo immediately in case you know her”, and the guy disconnected.
Apollo? How come?
I hope it’s not that bad!
How stupid I was to think like that!
Alright, I will not fight with you….I promise.
Thoughts kept pouring off his mind as he drove his bike at full throttle.
Where is she, I mean Sanjana!”
Are you the guy who just called, she is in ward no. 13″, the nurse at the reception directed him to proceed in the all important direction.
There she was….Sanjana….lying unconscious….
how did that happen?
It’s an accident case. She was brought an hour back”, the doc in attendance spoke.
1 hour? Are you guys crazy? Why you didn’t inform?
Is she alright, doc?”
Lot of blood has been lost, it’s a bit critical, we will try our best”
You gotta try better. What the hell are you talking?
Time passed…an hour later
For the last and final time she opened her eyes and looked at me:
where do you keep wandering around…
 
in the dreams…or for real…
 
in both cases the world travels with you….
 
some where some day it has to be…
 
some day some where it will be…
 
and then the calm and darkness will prevail…
 
leading to the light that you always craved for!
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