Opportunus!

We keep talking about this opportunity or that opportunity. 

Someone getting lucky because the roll of the dice was such.

Timing being right, right place at the right time. 

But have we ever wondered about this constant fascination and tendency of attributing everything to the RIGHT situations. 

Well, what are these opportunities and how they fall flat for some and not for others? 

Where do these come from?

What is the source?

Are they created or all laid down?

Are they destined to happen in a certain way for few individuals?

For the not so successful, it might be destiny 

And 

The ones who have made the cut might talk about the efforts they put in. 

Whatever be the version, there is nothing in the world that comes as a grant. 

It’s ultimately the result of the hard work one puts in.

Lets look at it this way:

Result is directly proportional to the effort one makes contingent upon the boundaries that one has created for themselves in their minds.

Is there a chance to expand those boundaries? 

Delta by delta, can we keep expanding our horizons?

No one learnt to walk the very day they were born,

Constant efforts along with some mentorship and support made it possible. 

Why not treat our life as a platform of opportunities to keep expanding each day!

The only opportunity one has by the way is to keep creating opportunities on a daily basis, be it personal or professional. 

The only question being, are we prepared to treat this life as an opportunity to accomplish things we would be remembered for. 

Source for the Image: http://ejmayers.blogspot.com/2014/03/the-origin-of-opportunity.html, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/opportunity

The Inevitable!

What do you do when you don’t get to do what you wanna do?

Well, most of us might have encountered such situations or are continuing to face on a daily basis, be it in person or profession. 

So there are things we know we are good at, based on the kind of training or experience we have had. 

And there are things that we might not be so good at but we would want to give it a shot. 

Things which inspire us to act differently,

Things which might want us to get out of our comfort zone,

Things which seem super exciting to delve into,

And 

Things which tend to bring us out of the boredom associated with accomplishment of daily feats. 

Few may ask, who’s stopping you from taking a deep dive?

Well, 

Call it insecurity,

Call it fear of the unknown,

Label it as the responsibility that comes along being born in a family or married to someone,

Or 

Just lack of courage,

Most of us end up doing something we don’t like most of our lives, 

Only to repent after what if we would have done otherwise.

The only thing to think possibly is,

Whether we would want to be a part of the inevitable group, who accepts it as their destiny to keep doing what they are supposedly good at, 

Or

Choose to break free from the same to explore the boundless nature of the possibilities at hand. 

Source for the Image: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BeDo6Epq6bs, https://dementia.livebetterwith.com/blogs/advice/is-memory-loss-inevitable

Dilemma-Sure?

My grandmother used to tell me that you should take your time to decide.

Hear others, research and refer to relevant resources, 

And once you are sure take that plunge, have no doubts what so ever and stick by your decision. 

Ideal as it might sound, the reality at times is far fetched.

No matter what’s the decision we take, the thought of loosing upon the other side of the coin troubles our mind.

What if the option that I left was better than the one I chose? 

What if it would have made me more successful?

What if I would have got what I wanted by going for that other option?

Well, what if is something, which no one knows off,

No one can predict or decipher,

Then why think about it! 

For what if you never were born! Or what if you would die sooner than expected. 

But the question is how does one get this very monkey off our backs and minds?

Yes, one can try to focus on our actions and forget about the consequences, as illustrated in the Bhagavad Gita

Yet, is it so easy to do so?

If it were, as they say, why would souls invest lifetimes in figuring out what the truth is!

Well, wasn’t life all about exploration and finding answers to the questions that keep cropping up because of our curiosity influencing our very minds?

If it is, then what are we waiting for? 

Take the plunge and see for yourself what it is rather than being caught up in this dilemma of being sure or not.

Source for the Image: https://depositphotos.com/stock-photos/dilemma.html, https://www.pureexploration.nz/

The Internal Lord!

Have you wondered about the My Lord or the Judge Sahab inside all of us!

Flaunting those long hair from the earlier era and a black gown with specs looking down upon the rest.

What he does is of course to pass judgements for that’s his job.

If someone doesn’t agree to what we say he judges them as not knowledgeable or stupid.

Or

If someone doesn’t love us the way we want to be loved, he would label them as cruel and emotionless.

By passing such judgements time and again he makes us perceive the world to be lying in a sorry state of affairs. 

By doing so we become more and more pessimistic about lot of things in life.

We become the unwanted and non desirable critics in the lives of many.

Basically we all become some sort of a pessimist who does nothing but crib about everything and anything in life.

Now, what kind of person you wanna become is a choice, though the choice seems obvious.

Don’t you think it’s high time we shut up this lord inside us and make him a slave to our sensibilities! 

Source for the Image: https://soundcloud.com/yes-my-lord-publishing, https://www.orlandoshakes.org/show/my-lord-what-a-night/

Life in Shorts!

Life, an interesting journey, where you get up everyday, do some chores, work to make some money and sleep at the end of the day to again get up the next day repeating the same.

And then there is this concept of life of how it should be or we would want it to be like.

Which has ingredients of partying, having some fun, going on tours etc etc.

Concept which gets its derivation from maybe looking at others and wishing for it.

What follows is whether one make efforts towards it or not depending on one’s beliefs in the attain ability of the desired scenario.

Even after making appropriate efforts, it maybe that one doesn’t end up getting the desired results because of let’s say destiny or it wasn’t meant to be.

If we get what we want we feel accomplished and get all the adulations from the society.

If we don’t get what we want we feel dejected, the expected respect from society doesn’t boost our egos.

Whatever the outcome or the result of the efforts, we tend to ponder a lot over things which might have no relation to us being feeling elated or not in the moment.

Life, of course is not black and white, yet its simple enough to be not made complicated.

A good start could be, before going to sleep, to look back at the moments which made one elated and happy during the course of the day.

And reflect upon why those moments were so precious to us.

Was it because of the accomplishments?

Was it the ego boosters derived from the respect you got from the society?

Was it because you were having some good meal in some nice restaurant?

Was it because you were spending some quality time with your friends or family?

Was it because of the work you did and felt happy cracking the Eureka code in your life?

Whatever it was, reflect and why not write about it every night!

Next morning, just a small reference you can make to decide for yourself the proportion of your time you would want to spend on what activity in life on a daily basis.

For time is limited for all of us. Why not use it to the fullest. What say!

Source for the Image: https://time.com/14047/what-10-things-should-you-do-every-day-to-improve-your-life/, https://fortune.com/2016/05/05/why-smart-successful-people-dont-value-happiness-enough/

2020 KFP

If you are wondering what this KFP could mean, it’s nothing but Ki Farak Painda (it’s like what’s the big deal or hardly matters)

Yes an year gone by,

Yes, not much happened for many of us professionally,

Yes, travel was at a minimal,

Yes, spouses fought,

Yes, EMIs got delayed,

Yes, all kinds of issues were there,

Yet, those who are reading this survived to see another beautiful sunrise!

A reality check for sure,

The way we were living our lives consumed by the lure of materialism,

Not bad, haan!

At least we got to know certain useless aspects of our lives,

Such as filling our cupboards with overpriced brands,

Spending meaninglessly on unhealthy items,

Instead of some quality time with folks who matter,

Of course the economy will bounce back in due course of time,

Of course we will all forget these times and move on,

Though what will remain is this beautiful realization:

Life is too short to not realize that nothing is serious enough to get serious

As long as we are alive that is! 🙂

Source for the image: https://www.redbubble.com/i/photographic-print/Funny-KI-FARAK-PAINDA-by-eufouria/45763555.6Q0TX, https://www.alustforlife.com/tools/mental-health/16-ways-to-feel-insanely-energetic-happy-and-carefree/

Use and Throw!

A monologue from a learned philosopher and a professor by profession, just remembered:

People come into your life for a reason.

Nothing comes free or with a label of being unconditional.

Be it the person who comes to me for a PhD,

Be it the people who want to collaborate with me on a project,

or

Be it the love of my life whom I treat as a part of my extended self,

Few might comment that its all about using and throwing,

Well, that’s one perspective but surely has different ways of looking at it,

It could be perceived as give and take,

May be represented as a symbiotic existential relationship,

or

Spiritually speaking, just a payback of one’s own Karmas,

It’s how you judge or form an opinion about the interaction determines whether it makes you happy or not.

Whether you are annoyed and feel cheated,

or

Whether you take it in your stride as part of what’s meant to be.

After all, even Corona is trying to do use the human body for its existence,

Sooner or later, it’s bound to realize that living and letting live is a sustainable solution for both, though it’s still learning.

When the tiniest of entities may endeavor to learn this fundamental aspect of life,

Why can’t we as beings?”

Source for the image: https://www.webmd.com/lung/coronavirus, https://theconversation.com/3-philosophers-set-up-a-booth-on-a-street-corner-heres-what-people-asked-110866

Am-In?

They say one’s life is a direct consequence of the choices one makes.

L=f (choices) is what one would say as a mathematician.

More often than not one answers in the affirmative to the title of this post.

Be it joining a cool group as a teenager,

Be it replicating the Virat Kohli’s beard look or the Ronaldo’s hair cut,

Be it starting to smoke or drink with friends,

or

Be it buying products from the who’s who of brands be it Zara, Louis Vuitton etc.

virat kohli

Have you ever wondered what would life be if you were NOT IN?

You wouldn’t be too concerned about spending loads to match up to the fashion trends,

You wouldn’t get too affected by being an outlier from the smoking/drinking groups,

You wouldn’t be spending too much time and money trying to find where happiness lies,

Rather

Would start deriving happiness and satisfaction from the so called little things in life.

The only thing you need to figure out is whether you choose to be IN or NOT!

Source for the Image: https://www.searchenginejournal.com/trends-seo-content-marketing/309997/, https://in.pinterest.com/pin/583638432936401588/

TG-OIL!

Can’t believe it’s already been nearly 5 months since the lock down was imposed!

Has been great for few, in terms of:

retaining their jobs to begin with, 

spending quality time with family, 

working out on one’s health, 

giving importance to the much neglected hobbies and things one wished one had invested time in, 

At the same time not so good for some,

who have lost their jobs, 

who are having hard time living with their spouses, 

who think their idea of fun has been taken away from them,

Yet, if one is reading this, one needs to thank God that one is alive (TG-OIL),

to witness another beautiful sunrise, 

to be able to spending that one more moment with one’s loved ones, 

to hope that things would certainly improve in the near future, 

to be able to write one more blog 😉

Well, they say, all’s well that ends well,

A little change that I would want to bring in the above perspective is,

All’s well if one treads the path well! 

If one gets to live another day as if it was their last,

If one is able to bring that wonderful smile on one more person’s face,

If one aspires to light up this world with one’s acts of kindness and humble behavior,

For if one chooses not to or is unable to do the above, there is nothing to thank God in the first place, if not for the one, then surely for the others.

Source for the Image: https://torontodiamonddental.com/how-important-is-your-smile/

This and That!

He asked, what is it that you want?

I answered, this and that!

Then he asked, why is it that you want this and that?

I answered, just wanna feel good and happy about myself!

He couldn’t help asking, with the things that I gave, are you happy?

I answered, not really, but I guess, this one would certainly make me feel happy!

He smiled and didn’t say a word after.

I wondered!

And so is the wonder that we keep wondering,

We keep aspiring,

We keep making aims,

We keep having ambitions,

And

We continue to perspire for this and that!

hand-towards-rising-sun

Then comes a reality check, when we all take a pause to ponder,

Over the things we all have so called achieved in life,

Over the assets that we all have accumulated over a period of time,

Over the relations that we all have forged during our lifetimes,

Yet

We don’t get that thing that we all look for,

What is it that we all look for?

And then we all come across a thought which resonates with something like this:

ख्वाइशों का आलम ऐसा था जनाब,
कि हम खुद को ही भुला बैठे!

What ensues is a trail of:

Not finding answers,

Not finding a purpose,

Not being able to come to terms with one’s current state of affairs and mind,

And

Getting lost in the ख्वाइश of this चमक and that धमक of this material world.

Without realizing what this and that did and continues to do with all of us.

Source for the image: https://www.calmdownmind.com/when-your-desire-feels-ordinary-its-on-the-verge-of-manifestation/