Life in Shorts!

Life, an interesting journey, where you get up everyday, do some chores, work to make some money and sleep at the end of the day to again get up the next day repeating the same.

And then there is this concept of life of how it should be or we would want it to be like.

Which has ingredients of partying, having some fun, going on tours etc etc.

Concept which gets its derivation from maybe looking at others and wishing for it.

What follows is whether one make efforts towards it or not depending on one’s beliefs in the attain ability of the desired scenario.

Even after making appropriate efforts, it maybe that one doesn’t end up getting the desired results because of let’s say destiny or it wasn’t meant to be.

If we get what we want we feel accomplished and get all the adulations from the society.

If we don’t get what we want we feel dejected, the expected respect from society doesn’t boost our egos.

Whatever the outcome or the result of the efforts, we tend to ponder a lot over things which might have no relation to us being feeling elated or not in the moment.

Life, of course is not black and white, yet its simple enough to be not made complicated.

A good start could be, before going to sleep, to look back at the moments which made one elated and happy during the course of the day.

And reflect upon why those moments were so precious to us.

Was it because of the accomplishments?

Was it the ego boosters derived from the respect you got from the society?

Was it because you were having some good meal in some nice restaurant?

Was it because you were spending some quality time with your friends or family?

Was it because of the work you did and felt happy cracking the Eureka code in your life?

Whatever it was, reflect and why not write about it every night!

Next morning, just a small reference you can make to decide for yourself the proportion of your time you would want to spend on what activity in life on a daily basis.

For time is limited for all of us. Why not use it to the fullest. What say!

Source for the Image: https://time.com/14047/what-10-things-should-you-do-every-day-to-improve-your-life/, https://fortune.com/2016/05/05/why-smart-successful-people-dont-value-happiness-enough/

2020 KFP

If you are wondering what this KFP could mean, it’s nothing but Ki Farak Painda (it’s like what’s the big deal or hardly matters)

Yes an year gone by,

Yes, not much happened for many of us professionally,

Yes, travel was at a minimal,

Yes, spouses fought,

Yes, EMIs got delayed,

Yes, all kinds of issues were there,

Yet, those who are reading this survived to see another beautiful sunrise!

A reality check for sure,

The way we were living our lives consumed by the lure of materialism,

Not bad, haan!

At least we got to know certain useless aspects of our lives,

Such as filling our cupboards with overpriced brands,

Spending meaninglessly on unhealthy items,

Instead of some quality time with folks who matter,

Of course the economy will bounce back in due course of time,

Of course we will all forget these times and move on,

Though what will remain is this beautiful realization:

Life is too short to not realize that nothing is serious enough to get serious

As long as we are alive that is! 🙂

Source for the image: https://www.redbubble.com/i/photographic-print/Funny-KI-FARAK-PAINDA-by-eufouria/45763555.6Q0TX, https://www.alustforlife.com/tools/mental-health/16-ways-to-feel-insanely-energetic-happy-and-carefree/

Use and Throw!

A monologue from a learned philosopher and a professor by profession, just remembered:

People come into your life for a reason.

Nothing comes free or with a label of being unconditional.

Be it the person who comes to me for a PhD,

Be it the people who want to collaborate with me on a project,

or

Be it the love of my life whom I treat as a part of my extended self,

Few might comment that its all about using and throwing,

Well, that’s one perspective but surely has different ways of looking at it,

It could be perceived as give and take,

May be represented as a symbiotic existential relationship,

or

Spiritually speaking, just a payback of one’s own Karmas,

It’s how you judge or form an opinion about the interaction determines whether it makes you happy or not.

Whether you are annoyed and feel cheated,

or

Whether you take it in your stride as part of what’s meant to be.

After all, even Corona is trying to do use the human body for its existence,

Sooner or later, it’s bound to realize that living and letting live is a sustainable solution for both, though it’s still learning.

When the tiniest of entities may endeavor to learn this fundamental aspect of life,

Why can’t we as beings?”

Source for the image: https://www.webmd.com/lung/coronavirus, https://theconversation.com/3-philosophers-set-up-a-booth-on-a-street-corner-heres-what-people-asked-110866

Am-In?

They say one’s life is a direct consequence of the choices one makes.

L=f (choices) is what one would say as a mathematician.

More often than not one answers in the affirmative to the title of this post.

Be it joining a cool group as a teenager,

Be it replicating the Virat Kohli’s beard look or the Ronaldo’s hair cut,

Be it starting to smoke or drink with friends,

or

Be it buying products from the who’s who of brands be it Zara, Louis Vuitton etc.

virat kohli

Have you ever wondered what would life be if you were NOT IN?

You wouldn’t be too concerned about spending loads to match up to the fashion trends,

You wouldn’t get too affected by being an outlier from the smoking/drinking groups,

You wouldn’t be spending too much time and money trying to find where happiness lies,

Rather

Would start deriving happiness and satisfaction from the so called little things in life.

The only thing you need to figure out is whether you choose to be IN or NOT!

Source for the Image: https://www.searchenginejournal.com/trends-seo-content-marketing/309997/, https://in.pinterest.com/pin/583638432936401588/

TG-OIL!

Can’t believe it’s already been nearly 5 months since the lock down was imposed!

Has been great for few, in terms of:

retaining their jobs to begin with, 

spending quality time with family, 

working out on one’s health, 

giving importance to the much neglected hobbies and things one wished one had invested time in, 

At the same time not so good for some,

who have lost their jobs, 

who are having hard time living with their spouses, 

who think their idea of fun has been taken away from them,

Yet, if one is reading this, one needs to thank God that one is alive (TG-OIL),

to witness another beautiful sunrise, 

to be able to spending that one more moment with one’s loved ones, 

to hope that things would certainly improve in the near future, 

to be able to write one more blog 😉

Well, they say, all’s well that ends well,

A little change that I would want to bring in the above perspective is,

All’s well if one treads the path well! 

If one gets to live another day as if it was their last,

If one is able to bring that wonderful smile on one more person’s face,

If one aspires to light up this world with one’s acts of kindness and humble behavior,

For if one chooses not to or is unable to do the above, there is nothing to thank God in the first place, if not for the one, then surely for the others.

Source for the Image: https://torontodiamonddental.com/how-important-is-your-smile/

This and That!

He asked, what is it that you want?

I answered, this and that!

Then he asked, why is it that you want this and that?

I answered, just wanna feel good and happy about myself!

He couldn’t help asking, with the things that I gave, are you happy?

I answered, not really, but I guess, this one would certainly make me feel happy!

He smiled and didn’t say a word after.

I wondered!

And so is the wonder that we keep wondering,

We keep aspiring,

We keep making aims,

We keep having ambitions,

And

We continue to perspire for this and that!

hand-towards-rising-sun

Then comes a reality check, when we all take a pause to ponder,

Over the things we all have so called achieved in life,

Over the assets that we all have accumulated over a period of time,

Over the relations that we all have forged during our lifetimes,

Yet

We don’t get that thing that we all look for,

What is it that we all look for?

And then we all come across a thought which resonates with something like this:

ख्वाइशों का आलम ऐसा था जनाब,
कि हम खुद को ही भुला बैठे!

What ensues is a trail of:

Not finding answers,

Not finding a purpose,

Not being able to come to terms with one’s current state of affairs and mind,

And

Getting lost in the ख्वाइश of this चमक and that धमक of this material world.

Without realizing what this and that did and continues to do with all of us.

Source for the image: https://www.calmdownmind.com/when-your-desire-feels-ordinary-its-on-the-verge-of-manifestation/

Shukran!

Taking a cue from a very dear friend who has this wonderful habit of saying shukran (Arabic word meaning thank you) every now and then,

And why not,

Especially in these precarious times,

Where one never knows how long one is going to live,

Not just because of Corona but the very manner in which our generation has been consuming pretty much everything on this planet,

Its never enough no matter how many times one says shukran to the people one comes across in one’s life time,

thank you

Be it the parents to start with, who brought us here, nurtured us to become who we are today,

Be it our spouses/siblings/cousins/friends who made this life worth living,

Be it the teachers who acted as friends, philosophers and guides in this journey of acquiring knowledge,

or

Be it the mentors and seniors who pretty much laid the path for us to grow professionally,

We often take it for granted what people have done for us,

We often are drawn into the illusion of having achieved everything unilaterally,

and

We often ignore all the contributions/sacrifices our near and dear ones make for us,

Just to see us happy achieving our dreams and fulfilling our aspirations,

Now,

With no more excuses of being busy or not having enough time,

Why not just say it loud,

Give some form and shape to the gratitude that we all feel,

And take that first step to bringing one’s near-dear ones even closer,

Up for it, are you?

SHUKRAN 🙂

Source for the Image: https://www.multibhashi.com/gratitude-meaning-in-tamil/

Zoomiyana

Quite a world,

Quite a life,

Quite a scenario,

Quite a tribe,

Yes, these are the times, when everything goes for a toss,

And it doesn’t matter whether it’s a heads or a tails,

As long as one is surviving,

fun

The one and only key to all happiness that each one of us is bound to get in the future.

Well, things are opening up, for good, supposedly,

And if we look back at how it panned out, this lockdown that is,

Zoomiyana, or the art of finding happiness in something, the way i choose to define it as, became a norm,

With people dating on Zoom Ishq, 

Proposing online in the hope of getting married on Zoom Shaadi, 

Performing rituals via Zoom Puja, 

And pretty much Zooming In on anything and everything concerning humanity,

Now that we have had enough time to break the habit and do some good (#Sutta4G)

and

The new normal in the state of being adapted,

Another opportunity to live it all over again,

But

With certain sense of responsibility,

With certain consideration for others,

With going beyond just thinking about self,

and

With adhering to all guidelines,

So,

ज़ूमियाये (zoomiyaye) मगर ज़िम्मेदारी से !

Source for the image: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fun

Adios!

“Uncertainty is the only certainty”, he observed.

I suppose in the end the whole of life becomes an act of letting go. But what always hurts the most…is not taking a moment to say goodbye”—Hope he did.

I was travelling on a speedy train ride, had dreams, plans, goals, was fully engaged in them. And suddenly someone taps on my shoulder. It’s the TC. Your destination is about to come. Please get down.” —Finally he surrendered,

Few lines dedicated to the one and only Irrfan Khan

The man who brought so much joy to the lives of people through his art par excellence.

Irffan Khan

क्यों रोती है ये धरती
क्यों रोता है ये आसमान
क्यों रोते हैं ये लोग
क्यों रोता है ये जहाँ

फिर मिलेंगे कभी कहीं किसी रोज़
कुछ पल हसने खेलने के लिए
फिर एक बार तेरा हाँथ थाम
मुस्कराने, ऐ ज़िन्दगी!

After All!

Considering the kind of busy lives we have got habituated into spending,

Not often does one get a chance to move out in the wilderness,

And once one does, the kind of activities we get to do, any guesses?

Trekking,

Rafting,

Mountaineering,

Wildlife Safari,

Para-sailing etc etc

Have you ever wondered, how many times have you ended up doing nothing?

Just being there,

Relaxing,

Seizing the moment,

Whatever comes to your mind in that moment, you do,

Letting go of any thought that comes to your mind,

Freeing yourself from all worries that tend to haunt you on a daily basis,

Bereft of what the boss tells you,

Not caring about how many questions your parents would keep asking you,

Without giving a consideration to your spouses’ expectations at home,

And then if you get into knowing such a beautiful description of what life means to a few over a bonfire, you might as well write about it 🙂

life

To me, if i were to tell you, 

Life is nothing more than getting up in the morning, 

Asking myself a question, in what mood would i want to be today, 

And say, well…not many reasons to get upset about, 

So many wonderful things happening to me, 

as well choose to smile rather than frown, 

not a bad beginning, eh!

regular chores happen, 

my boyfriend calls right after i come out of the shower and take my first bite, 

well, can get too much at times, but how many would actually do so, 

by the time am about to finish getting ready and he getting into a cab for office, 

we get on a call again, saying good morning again,

the cab guy, i have stopped quarrel with, 

after all everyone is frustrated because of something or the other, 

so why argue!

having a flirtatious conversation with my boyfriend just brightens up my day, 

then comes office, 

bosses will always be bosses, they are also learning

so why not give them a benefit of doubt?

sorted, haan!

lunch is always of my choice, not too heavy yet good and light, 

meantime, he keeps texting, sending sweet messages, i feel loved, 

comes the evening and he is right there waiting to pick me up, 

after we go for a long drive, 

do random chats, 

sit in a coffee shop, 

or 

just be there in the moment, 

sometimes we kiss as well, make love, good for hormones you see, 

he drops me back, in the comfort of my house, 

late evening is mine, 

where i would read some book, watch some movie, 

Ya, spend time with parents, after all they brought me into this world,

night..back to hormones, be it a movie, books or him again,

on second thoughts, he really loves me 😉

one might wonder, what’s the future plans?

well, who knows there is a future, what if there is none, 

and i went in my sleep!

at least it would be worth it, 

see, it’s not also about the bf, 

even if he wasn’t there to share my time, i would seize the moment, 

What is after all life but a collection of beautiful moments!

Source for the Image: https://unsplash.com/images/people/life