Blissful Ignorance!

They say, ignorance is bliss! 

Why don’t you just ignore him? Her best friend advised.

Why do you care? He was instructed by his colleague. 

Does it help? 

How do you feel when someone ignores you blatantly in a social gathering?

How can it be a bliss? 

After having spent so much time together, the last thing you would expect is to be ignored.

Wasn’t giving your presence an eye and an ear the basis of any society or civilisation?

What some refer to as:

Bond 

Love

Relationship

Friendship

Or 

Just being 

For the lack of vocabulary. 

Choosing to be ignored or ignoring,

One ends up in an emotional mess, 

Not finding a way out what so ever,

Not knowing how to react or respond,

Not finding a purpose so to say.

Wasn’t getting educated supposed to mean that we are able to handle situations in a mature manner?

Wasn’t being mature also means one is able to manage one’s emotions in a sensible manner?

Be it your ex,

Be it the boss you hate,

Be it your so called enemy, 

Or 

Just someone you don’t like for whatever reason,

Wouldn’t having the art to deal with such situations be a bliss instead? 

Still choosing to ignore or be ignored? 

Do it at your own risk, for that’s surely not going to bring you any happiness, if I may say so!

For avoidance or ignorance is certainly not the bliss one craves for. 

The Creators’ Creation!

One fine day, God must have thought, “enough is enough “

How long can I go on like this?

Creating, nurturing etc etc

I need to have my agents down there on planet Earth willing to,

Take up the role that I am so adept at,

He must have thought about all the qualities that those agents should have,

One:
emotional for without emotions there wouldn’t be any care,

Two:
strong, for without strength there wouldn’t be equilibrium,

Three:
forgiving, for men would act stupid at times,

Four:
nurturing, for that could only keep homo sapiens alive,

And the list would have gone on and on,

Till He must have realised that it would possibly be the most important creation that He would have ever done in His lifetime, if I may take the liberty of referring it as such,

So, to all hard working and wonderful beings whom we all refer to as women,

Here is wishing you a very happy women’s day!

May you grow in strength,

May you achieve your dreams,

And

May you keep making this planet the most beautiful dream human kind can ever wish about residing in.

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Happiness Overrated?

I wanna be happy! He uttered. 

What’s stopping you, she said. 

And then there was silence.

Well, happiness is so overrated, don’t you think so? 

Why do you say so? She exclaimed.

What is happiness for that matter? 

Nothing but a state of mind. 

He continued:

What if my mind has no bandwidth to think about this aspect of life?

What if I deep dive into something that doesn’t give me time to think about happiness altogether?

What if the very concept doesn’t occur to me?

What if there exist no such endeavour?

For you can choose to be or not depending on your mind’s willingness to do so.

And what is mind after all, a monkey sitting on your shoulders whom you are trying to take control of, all your lives.

After all it’s us the middle class who keep pondering over how to be happy.

The successful have no time neither energy to bother about such things. 

They are too involved and engaged doing something.

And 

As each day goes by, they progress and move towards their well thought out goals.

Only to be appreciated and recognised for their achievements.

A day comes when they depart leaving their legacy behind. 

So, what about happiness? 

She got her turn:

Yes, working day and night does keep you engaged,

Yes, engaging and rewarding as it might seem, 

Do they take a pause to admire the beautiful colours of the flora and fauna around?

Do they find a moment to breathe the fresh morning dew?

Do they smile for no reason, just feeling alive?

Do they cherish the life for no other reason?

And 

Yes, they do leave a legacy but what for and for whom, for they are already gone. 

He listened attentively, 

With

A drop of tear in his eyes, 

A thought haunting enough to make him sad. 

Maybe repenting,

Maybe contemplating what if? 

Was it too late? He wondered.

Time to be happy I guess! She smiled as she had the last word looking straight into his eyes. 

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The need to Speak Up?

Imagine you are in a gathering full of people,

All kinds, 

Few you know,

Few acquaintances,

Few wanna be’s,

And then there is you, the quintessential introvert,

Who speak up when spoken to,

Who doesn’t brag about anything and everything in this world, 

Who don’t feel the constant need to be at the center of everything,

Yet

You are expected to, 

Participate,

People come to you every time they see you,

Asking:

Are you alright?

Are you enjoying yourself?

Why don’t you join us?

And then you start questioning the very persona that you are?

Begin to have doubts if something is seriously wrong with you, 

Feeling pressured into speaking something for the heck of it,

To feel accepted,

To demonstrate your existence,

And 

Then you choose to just leave, 

Wondering

Why can’t you be accepted as it is? 

Why the world expects you to behave in a certain manner?

For such, let me tell you, it’s alright to just be,

For the need to speak shouldn’t be the guiding force in your life, 

For acceptance is more beautiful than complying to some random norm, 

For being different is what makes life so beautiful and worth living. 

So be who you are,

For the world will come to cherish your being sooner or later. 

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This Type that Kinds!

Have you ever wondered why there is this constant tendency in us to categorise people?

Oh , he is this kind!

Oh she is that kind! 

Possible reason and explanation could be:

Who has time to ponder over such things, why not label and make things easier for our brains to comprehend and respond to. 

One may ask what’s wrong in the above?

After all, life is about making things easy for the mental and physical self. 

True to a certain extent as it might look, one needs to ponder whether it is truly making life easier? 

The more we tend to label the more we keep falling in the prejudice trap, 

Unable to look at situations as they are,

Unable to give benefit of doubt,

In short

Unable to act and be humans.

For that’s what we supposedly all are, 

As believed emerging from the same source yet different in our own ways, 

Who would once again merge with the source when the time comes. 

So, be it this kind or that type, 

The thing to think is whether we are willing to give ourselves a chance, 

To take risks and not pass judgements,

To learn all through in this beautiful journey of life,

And most importantly 

Finding the being what we are supposed to be. 

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The Kinds!

In modern societies we are taught to be vocal, out there, expressing our opinions.

For this, more often than not, determines whether you will be perceived as smart or not by the who’s who of the society. 

But have you ever wondered why the knowledgeable choose to remain silent most of times?

Few possibilities: 

They think they are are not knowledgeable enough,

They think the world wouldn’t understand not being on the same platform as they are,

They think it be a futile process to influence others,

Or

They are just too busy in their own world.

Whatever might be the reason behind their silence, 

Few might vouch for a fact that we need such men in the society to share their wisdom,

For world today is in dire need of people who could suggest sustainable plans for the well being of the society. 

While others who are focused on building some kind of a persona suiting their needs, might prefer to shut the kind described above.

Oh, and there is a 3rd kind who chooses to remain indifferent just because they think it’s not going to effect them in any manner what so ever. 

As a society and as human beings, which side you choose to behave like depends on the kind of vision you have for the society which by the way, in turn determines your well being as well. 

Food for thought!

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Par-Dharma!

Where is this all heading?

Well being or a disaster?

Many psychological scientific studies tell us that kids learn what they observe.

No matter how much one preaches, they learn by observing what’s happening around them.

The question is are they being exposed to the right kind of environment that they should be?

Considering,

The tv shows, and movies depicting all kinds of violence,

The fights that happen in the family,

The never ending effort of trying to fulfill the pleasures of life becoming a benchmark from such a young age,

As a parent, does that mean keeping one’s kids in a protective environment,

Making them go to schools, which demonstrate the right set of values,

Yes and no!

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For they would surely be exposed to the practicalities of this society, the existing situations,

Which they would need to face and make a choice for themselves,

Does it mean giving them the right tools to be able to make that all important choice?

That’s where charitra nirmaan (building one’s character) becomes the key to their well being and in turn that of the society.

One may ask how can this be done?

Well, to each their own, few may say,

The fundamentals of it though, for parents remain the same,

Be it treating your kids as adults and spending with them as much time that one can, discussing the intricacies of why the kids consider something as right or wrong,

Be it leading by example, and becoming role models for your kids to emulate,

Be it inculcating a critical feeling of inclusiveness in them, for their well being lies in the well being of others and the society,

No matter whether your parents did it with you!

No matter whether you had to learn it the hard way!

No matter there was no friend, philosopher or guide holding your hands at every step!

May be the time has come for all parents/elders to do all that what their dharma of being in the capacity tells them to.

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India at Crossroads

The world suggests that India is all set to take on a leadership role. Our leaders take great pride in the thought process.

Yet, India seems to be located at a very interesting crossroads which will surely decide the fate of not only India but the entire world in times to come.

If we look at the way development has and is taking place all over, is primarily on the basis of a constant quest of:

Making our lives more comfortable,

Aimed at satisfying our materialistic needs,

Justified in the name of creating a positive impact on the society.

How long it can go like this is one question, I ponder upon?

How long can we keep acting ignorant of the destruction that we are bringing in the name of development?

How long can we let our youth get depressed and commit suicide in the name of wanting to be successful based on the benchmarks referred to by the society?

Well, the modern and the medieval history that we all read about India in the school books is about:

They came. They conquered. They exploited. We fought and finally got freedom. Now, we roam aimlessly waiting again to be supported or conquered by some external force or entity. 

When would we get over with a defeatist mentality?

The same Indians when we go abroad seem to strike gold more often than not.

Ever wondered why?

Is it the opportunities?

Is it the conducive environment bereft of the crab mentality which seems to pervade in the country, be it the political quarters or the regional forces?

Could be none and all inclusive.

Crossroads

What keeps us going is possibly an inherent nature, which is:

Resilient,

Confident,

Intelligent,

and

over and above,

Spiritual, which guides us in the very manner we go about leading our lives.

Be it the influence of Yoga and the very manner in which we breathe,

Be it the influence of the Gods who occupy every nook and corner of this country,

Be it the care and respect we have for our elders,

or

Be it the Karma and Dharma, concepts which we seem to fall back upon every now and then whenever in doubt,

With such basic ingredients,

Don’t you think it’s high time for us Indians to start acting as the torch bearer to the entire World?

Bereft of any rigidity,

or

Bereft of any hateful tendency,

and

Inclusive of sensitivity,

Inclusive of sensible actions,

or

Inclusive of the very ingredients which make us all human,

The only question being,

Can we become open to the very possibility and start discussing things in the open without any fear or insecurity?

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Generation F-Up!

We have heard various generations, be it X, Y, Z, ABCD or whatever.

But have we realized that we are a generation of constant follow-ups (F-Ups)?

Be it getting that piece of furniture that you might have ordered from the likes of Hometown etc. assembled,

or

The internet connection when you move to a new house installed,

or

Any other thing that you tend to live upon on a daily basis.

There is a constant need to follow up with the service providers,

Be it the government

or

the private sector.

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Makes me wonder, when as a society, we would become professional enough to meet what we say or promise.

Words have become such a loose commodity.

Whether it be reporting or reaching on time, as promised,

or

Meeting the T&C of a contract,

No matter be it on a legal piece of paper or not,

We tend to violate the trust code,

Without realising that it’s the basis of any association or communication in the society we choose to live in.

And when people start taking this code lightly, credibility is bound to go down.

Be it at a personal level, let’s say when you commit to someone for marriage,

or

As a country, where the intention is to attract investments from different quarters, which gets reflected in the indicators such as ease of doing business in a country.

The gap also represents an opportunity, in a society like ours, where doing what’s promised, becomes a key differentiator of sorts.

Wonder, when all of us will do as we say we would! 🙂

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Trusting the Trust!

Trust, somehow, has always been and will continue to remain the basis on which every transaction or interaction takes place in our society.

Be it the coming together of two individuals in the form of a marriage,

Be it a patient going to a doctor for treatment,

Be it buying something online,

Be it the very communication between individuals where the parties accept what the other party has to offer in terms of advice, suggestions etc.,

Be it the evidence that is presented in the court of law,

or

Be it the advice that parents give to their kids which they follow,

I can go on and on with the examples of the very application of this 5 letter word Trust, which has had its etymology which mean protection, comfort, solace etc.

When we talk of protection, comfort or solace, on most occasions, we are referring to a 2nd or a 3rd party who is there to look after the very aspect, and possibly the need for an outside intervention not concerning the parties involved.

Which makes me somehow wonder, that trusting the trust in itself has become an act which is let’s say, has become more difficult than trusting an outsider/3rd party unknown to the very parties, assuming that the 3rd party will have all the sense to derive comprehensive conclusions, on the basis of presentation of few facts and evidence.

The very basis of justice has gone into the hands of the 3rd parties, who, at times, are completely oblivious of the situation at hand, yet have to depend on a drama that somehow unfolds in front of their eyes in a court of law. shutterstock_250176199

As a consequence, we are seeing, increase in the number of cases being filed, decrease in the level of patience and adjustment that also seems to reflect one stabilizing factor in every society and most important of all, leading to mental instability and deterioration of mental health coefficient of a society as a whole.

Be it the greed,

Be it the jealousy,

Be it the hatred,

or

Be it the fear,

All the above lead to reduction in our ability to trust and leads to disintegration of the fundamental reason why we all exist together.

Don’t you think, it’s high time, we start to trust again, if not for the very act of it, than surely for maintaining the much required stability of our societies?

For, if trusting the trust becomes an act beyond our reach, then we are headed in just one direction, which we all refer to as destruction, first of self and of course of the society.

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