EV

Oh, what a polite and obedient girl, she is!

Oh, what a responsible man he has become!

Oh, what personality!

And it goes on and on,

These very adjectives are what we crave for day in day out,

An external validation (EV) of sorts from the who’s who of our society,

No matter what,

We want to look good in front of these very eyes that matter to us,

All our thoughts and actions get influenced,

And we end up becoming a conditioned being,

Anything wrong with that, you may ask?

Well,

Nothing wrong I would say,

Just that every thought and every act based on this thought has a consequence,

Considering, more often than not, we are under tremendous pressure seeking this EV,

We tend to get caught up in this web of social seeking, so much so,

That

We tend to drift far away from the very essence of what life might be,

Of course the choice is yours to let it happen to you or not!

Source for the Image: https://sterilebarrier.org/manufactures/validation-process/

Stand up!

There are few who tend to inspire the entire world around them,

These few bring with them a certain kind of positive energy,

which completely changes the complexion of the ambience around them,

and

They can be found in every nook and corner of our country,

One whom I found is a gentleman in his late 50s,

Hails from God’s own country in India,

Is super enthusiastic,

in every stride that he takes,

in every conversation that he makes,

in every shot in badminton that he plays,

and

to top it all,

has a sensational comic timing,

which can give a run to pretty much all the young comics,

But there is a hitch in him,

to stand up,

to go out there and be expressive,

to let himself free,

from the judgments and perceptions of the world around him,

Will he able to get out of his comfort zone?

He should for it’s worth a shot,

What do you think?

Source for the Image: https://amtshows.com/classic-comedians/

Doggies!

For those who happen to live in apartments,

Many a times,

Whom you find as company in an elevator,

Is the owner along with their dogs,

Today, I happened to be in company with not one but two of these,

One Nimbus and the other named Coco,

Now Nimbus was excited to be in the same elevator as Coco,

Much to the discomfort of fellow travellers who happened not to be dog lovers,

Of course, not for owners and the other dog lovers,

For Nimbus’ love for Coco at first sight,

Made him jump around in the not so big an elevator,

Owners, a girl and the other a boy,

Smiling at the sight of their dogs’ budding love,

Seemed to be falling for each other as well,

Can bet they would have shared their numbers before getting out,

If not for themselves,

Surely for Nimbus and Coco,

Can understand that our world is full of different creatures,

Who believe in the act of peaceful coexistence,

And surely the love for few of them is much appreciated,

Yet,

Untrained dogs and over excited owners may cause discomfort for the creatures whom we refer to as Homo Sapiens,

So,

Why be partial to just spreading the concept of peaceful coexistence to dogs,

Why not become more inclusive to our own species, the other Sapiens!

Source for the Image: https://unsplash.com/s/photos/doggies

Real Freedom!

Every year it comes and goes,

Flag is hoisted,

National anthem is played,

We all get goose-bumps,

And life moves on,

Without realizing what freedom could mean in the truest sense,

After all,

Society is nothing but a conglomeration of its residents,

And

If the residents themselves are not free,

What could freedom intend mean!

Free from one’s biases,

Free from one’s judgments,

and

Free from forming quick opinions,

Question being,

Are we ready to take that first step towards freedom?

Source for the Image: https://zinginstruments.com/songs-about-freedom/

ताका झांकी (Taaka Jhaaki)!

No matter the diversity,

Caste

Class

Religion

Race

Country

One thing that unites us all,

We are interested in what’s happening next door,

Be it Sharma ji’s daughter whom he is trying to get married at any cost,

Be it Tandon aunty’s maid woes,

Be it the modern Sweety ji, whom the uncles seem to drool over,

or

Be it Mr. Paul’s long due promotion party,

We want to know it all,

And

Participate in every possible ritual,

After all, what it is to live in a community, if it were not this,

Yes, it comes with it’s own pros and cons,

Yet

Fun part,

A true community,

Lives

Loves

Hates

Fights

and

Celebrates TOGETHER.

Though this very establishment seems to have gone for a toss in this modern era,

Neighbors not having a clue who’s living next door,

Meeting with a frown rather than a smile if they happen to be in the same lift,

That’s what individualism has come down to,

Wonder whether the long gone ताका झांकी has lost its relevance!

Guess, it’s time to move on?

Source for the image: https://www.pngall.com/community-png/download/24460

Group Sensitivity!

Not that they have not existed since ages,

and

Not that we all are not social beings,

The way we communicate has certainly changed in this digital and especially Covid era,

Be it the video calls on apps like Zoom, Skype etc.

or

Be it the chat apps such as Whatsapp, Snapchat etc.

But the very reason am writing this post is because of an unfortunate occurrence on one of the whatsapp groups that I happen to be a part of,

Don’t know what the need was,

Cannot decipher why it was mentioned,

yet

What came out from a certain representation was sheer hatred for a particular community,

Which made me wonder,

Have we truly lost the essence of being human?

Have we given up on sensitivities of not hurting people around us?

Have we become ruthless letting our opinionated and judgmental mind to rule our persona?

If not,

Then why think and act in such a questionable manner?

Guess, we have all forgotten,

Some kind of restraint always helps and personal attacks never,

for

An eye for an eye will only make the entire world go blind!

Source for the Image: https://theconversation.com/how-whatsapp-group-admin-became-one-of-the-most-powerful-jobs-in-politics-126041

Behrupiya!

They say nothing comes free in life,

On most occasions I guess,

But one thing that’s certainly under our control and don’t have to depend on others is,

The face or the Venetian mask we choose to portrait to the world,

Depending on different situations and circumstances,

and

Various roles we play,

Be it a son/daughter,

A parent/grandparent,

A spouse,

A worker,

or

A boss,

Question being,

Does it fall under the category of a behrupiya or an impressionist?

And if it does,

Does it serve better to be one than not to be?

Who is a behrupiya after all?

One who possesses the intellect to know what’s required in a situation,

One who is a master at performing the way one is supposed to,

One who understands the person in front of him/her,

and

One who is empathetic enough not to hurt the other.

Looks like it’s fantastic thing to be a behrupiya,

What matters though is the intention behind being one!

Source for the Image: https://www.amazon.com/Hophen-Masquerade-Venetian-Jester-Decoration/dp/B07WFL3F8B

Blissful Ignorance!

They say, ignorance is bliss! 

Why don’t you just ignore him? Her best friend advised.

Why do you care? He was instructed by his colleague. 

Does it help? 

How do you feel when someone ignores you blatantly in a social gathering?

How can it be a bliss? 

After having spent so much time together, the last thing you would expect is to be ignored.

Wasn’t giving your presence an eye and an ear the basis of any society or civilisation?

What some refer to as:

Bond 

Love

Relationship

Friendship

Or 

Just being 

For the lack of vocabulary. 

Choosing to be ignored or ignoring,

One ends up in an emotional mess, 

Not finding a way out what so ever,

Not knowing how to react or respond,

Not finding a purpose so to say.

Wasn’t getting educated supposed to mean that we are able to handle situations in a mature manner?

Wasn’t being mature also means one is able to manage one’s emotions in a sensible manner?

Be it your ex,

Be it the boss you hate,

Be it your so called enemy, 

Or 

Just someone you don’t like for whatever reason,

Wouldn’t having the art to deal with such situations be a bliss instead? 

Still choosing to ignore or be ignored? 

Do it at your own risk, for that’s surely not going to bring you any happiness, if I may say so!

For avoidance or ignorance is certainly not the bliss one craves for. 

The Creators’ Creation!

One fine day, God must have thought, “enough is enough “

How long can I go on like this?

Creating, nurturing etc etc

I need to have my agents down there on planet Earth willing to,

Take up the role that I am so adept at,

He must have thought about all the qualities that those agents should have,

One:
emotional for without emotions there wouldn’t be any care,

Two:
strong, for without strength there wouldn’t be equilibrium,

Three:
forgiving, for men would act stupid at times,

Four:
nurturing, for that could only keep homo sapiens alive,

And the list would have gone on and on,

Till He must have realised that it would possibly be the most important creation that He would have ever done in His lifetime, if I may take the liberty of referring it as such,

So, to all hard working and wonderful beings whom we all refer to as women,

Here is wishing you a very happy women’s day!

May you grow in strength,

May you achieve your dreams,

And

May you keep making this planet the most beautiful dream human kind can ever wish about residing in.

Source for the Image: https://www.atheistalliance.org/thinking-out-loud/how-to-prove-creationism-is-true/, https://www.heartbeatservices.org/images/women.jpg

Happiness Overrated?

I wanna be happy! He uttered. 

What’s stopping you, she said. 

And then there was silence.

Well, happiness is so overrated, don’t you think so? 

Why do you say so? She exclaimed.

What is happiness for that matter? 

Nothing but a state of mind. 

He continued:

What if my mind has no bandwidth to think about this aspect of life?

What if I deep dive into something that doesn’t give me time to think about happiness altogether?

What if the very concept doesn’t occur to me?

What if there exist no such endeavour?

For you can choose to be or not depending on your mind’s willingness to do so.

And what is mind after all, a monkey sitting on your shoulders whom you are trying to take control of, all your lives.

After all it’s us the middle class who keep pondering over how to be happy.

The successful have no time neither energy to bother about such things. 

They are too involved and engaged doing something.

And 

As each day goes by, they progress and move towards their well thought out goals.

Only to be appreciated and recognised for their achievements.

A day comes when they depart leaving their legacy behind. 

So, what about happiness? 

She got her turn:

Yes, working day and night does keep you engaged,

Yes, engaging and rewarding as it might seem, 

Do they take a pause to admire the beautiful colours of the flora and fauna around?

Do they find a moment to breathe the fresh morning dew?

Do they smile for no reason, just feeling alive?

Do they cherish the life for no other reason?

And 

Yes, they do leave a legacy but what for and for whom, for they are already gone. 

He listened attentively, 

With

A drop of tear in his eyes, 

A thought haunting enough to make him sad. 

Maybe repenting,

Maybe contemplating what if? 

Was it too late? He wondered.

Time to be happy I guess! She smiled as she had the last word looking straight into his eyes. 

Source for the Image: https://uxdesign.cc/designing-happiness-ac9c56359df, https://www.dreamstime.com/photos-images/happiness.html