Willing Chance!

Have you ever wondered what’s it’s come down to? 

Expecting from others to behave in a certain manner, contingent to our own limited liking, 

Be it: 

Colleagues, 

Relatives, 

Friends, 

Kids, 

Servants, 

Or 

Any Passerby, 

And what purpose does it serve apart from making us more:

Angry,

Emotional, 

Depressed,

Hateful, 

Primarily unstable, 

Possibly making us a member of a tribe which is lost but never to be found. 

Eventually ending up all lonely,

for:

None would want to be in our company, 

None would aspire to keep arguing till eternity, 

And 

More importantly, all would expect the unexpected

Choice is ours to be a party to the much-much group or be a worthy member of the much expected tribe: 

One who puts himself/herself in other’s shoes before judging or criticizing,

And 

One who provides that all important ear to listen and not comment when it matters the most,

 

At such challenging times , why not bring a little change in the way we:

Observe,

Perceive,

Comment

and

Behave

Only question being: 

Are we ready to give this transformation a willing chance? 

Source for the Image: https://www.business2community.com/strategy/change-to-have-a-chance-02283260, https://www.earth.com/news/right-ear-listening-ability/

haha-Wrong!

How many times we would have made fun of someone blabbering something we considered wrong

In numerous I guess! 

And each time we might have derived pleasure and might have felt how knowledgeable and accomplished we are! 

Not to mention that the same Mr./miss know it all that we think we are, fall in the above category similar to any other person. 

Erring every now and then, 

Forgetting lets say birthdays of who’s who of our lives, 

Breaking rules, traffic or otherwise at times, 

And in such times, seldom accepting our faults and conveying the much required apology. 

Going to an extent of defending ourselves to our last breath so to say, 

Which might have resulted in a quarrel or worst a fist fight, 

Anybody’s guess on what the consequences of such would have been! 

What do you think would have happen if: 

We would have just apologised the moment that apology was supposed to be rendered,

Probably would have cooled down things to begin with,

Possibly wouldn’t have turned into an angry blame game

And 

More often than not, would have resulted in haha and hihi for the parties involved on reflection of the situation at hand. 

Heard a wise man saying once:

My dear friend and perceived foe, life is too short for a quarrel or an argument.

Guess its time we listened to him for a change and became a bit wiser!

Source for the Image: https://www.wikihow.com/Make-Fun-of-Others, https://www.tekportal.net/quarrel/

I-Good-U

Wondering what this funny looking ridiculous title might be? 

Not a proposal for sure, 

Not related to any pun intended or unintended what so ever, 

Just a simple representation of what many of us choose not to live by, intentionally or unintentionally. 

Let me ask you a very simple question to bring to context what this is all about. 

When was the last time we complimented someone? 

And since its becoming a bit difficult to remember, let me also give you few options: 

Spouse/gf/bf for how beautiful/handsome they might be looking on the day, 

Employees for having achieved that all important little feat which causes one’s company to grow that delta bit, 

Or 

Let’s say house helps for serving us in such a wonderful manner. 

Ya, understandable that we all have our own things to deal with, 

Totally comprehensible we are not always in a good mood so to say, 

Yet, don’t you think we have become too critically oriented to be ignoring the enormous good that surrounds us on a daily basis? 

Be it that simple meal which we are served on a daily basis, 

to 

The very breath that we take for granted every moment of our lives, especially in these times that we are living in, 

It’s high time we realise that: 

Being grateful is not a virtue but a fact of life which must be recognized and appreciated.

And

Before it gets too late, on this wonderful day where we celebrate Yoga,

How about being a part of a journey where one begins to start seeing good in U (the other) and doing good to U—> I-Good-U!

Source for the Image: https://www.grammarly.com/blog/compliments-for-any-person/, https://fcw.com/Blogs/Lectern/2013/08/smiley-ratings.aspx

HRs!

Well, let me put a disclaimer right away, it’s not a take on human resources departments around the world, 

For those who don’t believe me, wouldn’t take that chance ever, for my dear wife is herself an HR, dangerous territory to tread upon.

Jokes apart, 

Simply put its the Horse Sense that am referring to, going by the famous folklore that seems to have inspired generations

Paraphrasing what it is: 

Few centuries back, there was this horse who had this sense, 

Come on, it cannot be as lame as this! 

So, the master wanted to take the horse to the field, 

Though the horse which loved to graze, wasn’t up for the same, even after being pulled from all sides.

A maid in the household who happened to be watching this, came up to the horse, put her maternal finger in its mouth and slowly took it to the place where the master wanted it to be, 

As always, moral of the story: if you want someone to do something you got to make that someone want to do that something! 

Coming back to the human resource departments around the world, they say the biggest challenge is to keep the employees engaged and bring out the best in them.

Why, what and how, guess you are smart enough to figure out how to arouse that eager want and motivation to accomplish that very something!

Source for the Image: https://thehorse.com/112472/too-much-pasture-can-lead-to-laminitis/, https://www.lucidchart.com/blog/what-does-hr-do

The Talking Horse!

Let’s hear it straight from the horse’s mouth, they say, 

Or 

The lore would start with something like, “once upon a time…blah blah blah”

How about just listening to what the horse has to offer with regards to the learnings of the societal jungle it happened to reside in: 

“You know, of course you don’t know what am about to say, 

Might be aware of the content of it all, 

Yet  

Choose not to practice accordingly, 

But I, me and myself know a man who did it throughout his life,

Wondering who he was? 

Not batman

Not Spiderman

But 

An ordinary man who chose to be a student all his life,

One who listened to the wisdom that every other person offered in the act of interacting or communicating with him,

One who realised how less he knew of the very world he lived in, 

One who was humble enough to admit that there was so much to know and learn from others, 

And 

One who would spend hours with people hoping that one day he would know at least something about this wonderful creation, 

Wondering whether it was a sheer waste of time? 

Or 

Feel like labelling him as total failure? 

Well, let me tell you what he earned at the end of so many days in his life: 

Respect for the perceived kind-heart he had,

Adulation for the perceived helpful nature of his, 

Opportunities, as everyone wanted to keep him close for his virtues, 

And 

Knowledge and learnings he took along this journey of life. 

Not to mention, lots of wealth, using which he bought me once upon a time. 

Not only was he my master, but truly the master of all hearts and minds around him.

Moral of the story they ask all the time: do I even need to mention, I wonder!

Source for the Image: https://www.amazon.com/Popular-Ringtones-Studio-Talking-Horse/dp/B01EX822WI, https://www.dccomics.com/characters/batman

Being Alex–Great?

Nearly everyone might have heard of Alexander-the Great.

Seem to be drawing great inspiration from the man, most of us have chosen a certain kind of a roller coaster life ride for ourselves and our loved ones.

I wonder what inspired us to do so?

Primarily social conditioning, which includes demands from society, parents etc. which in turn shapes our own thoughts about goals and purpose in life.

How about drawing ourselves out of this so called wonderful journey, taking a moment to ponder whether its worth it all?

Is becoming powerful (Alexander) in our respective spheres is what we need in life?

What has this tendency brought us all to?

Not to mention the fact that all of us as a society are struggling big time to deal with this tiny little Covid-19 virus!

There must be something that we are not doing that great!

If we don’t realize this now, then when?

For there is a price to pay,

Consequences to deal with,

For nothing comes free in life,

And nature has its own cruel way of taking things back to where it belongs.

Possibly, a wake up call it is, for all!

A realization,

To think and act responsibly,

To go beyond what seems to be the perceived truth,

To be what one is supposed to be as a human being,

To explore the very dimensions of life

and

More importantly, change our role models,

For emulating Alexander, is not working out to be great at all!

Source for the Image: https://www.zogam.com/articles/articles-i/general-articles/3437-alexander-the-great-tangthu.html, https://www.paho.org/en/news/10-11-2020-rapid-antigen-tests-arriving-countries-assist-covid-19-response-americas

The Complete Homo Sapien!

Yes, somewhat inspired from the Raymond tagline,

Inclusive, no gender bias here, because homo sapiens are being spoken about as a whole, 

But who are these who tend to belong to this category? 

Beings who know themselves, 

Why they are doing something, the very intentions behind the same, 

Who seem to be able to handle any situation that comes their way cheerfully, 

Who act upon things that seem to be important not only to them but at least the significant others, ideally the entire society, 

People who more often than not seem to be standing on the right side of the fence, 

Where are they found? 

Here and there, 

Everywhere, 

Demonstrating at least few traits if not all, 

Something good must be happening with the education system, one wonders, 

For the world is certainly progressing, 

Nothing can be 100 percent correct after all, one might argue, considering the current state of affairs, 

But does one even know what being complete really means? 

Is there a benchmark of sorts in the current times we happen to be living in? 

Is there a way, a process, of becoming one? 

Would it require another human revolution of sorts on the lines of industrial revolution? 

Why do we need such, one may ask. 

In order: 

To survive in the best harmonic way we can, 

To realize the dream of welfare for all, 

To make this very life beautiful, rather than aspiring for a heaven, not having the slightest clue of what that might be or to begin with whether it exists, 

Simply put, to lead a life of fulfilment. 

To begin with, 

Do we already have systems in place? 

Or 

Is someone really thinking on these lines? I wonder! 

Source of the Image: https://www.britannica.com/story/just-how-old-is-homo-sapiens, https://in.pinterest.com/pin/346777240058194395/

Crying Kid!

At times, when you are not doing something so called meaningful, meaningful things happen. 

Just noticed, that a kid has kept on crying for more than 10 minutes in a nearby apartment. 

Don’t really know the reason, but makes me wonder whether that’s how future is going to be for most of the kids with the kind of education system we have in place. 

An education system which kills all curiosity and an ability to question would surely lead our kids and thereby society in that direction. 

Not just kids, we adults are often found to be crying over one thing or the other,

Be it the boss screwing us up today with shit load of work,

Spouse quarrels, 

Traffic jams, 

Physical discomfort, 

What not!

Simply being unable to handle different challenging situations at different points of time in our lives, 

Which takes us back to the crying kid, 

What if:

The crying kid was catered to in a manner so that he/she would be able to manage his/her state of mind, 

Adult stakeholders (parents, relatives, teachers, siblings etc), 

Providing him/her the tools to be able to do so,

Giving him/her enough time and attention which was needed to just hear them out, 

Being that eternal friend, philosopher and guide that he/she might be craving for, 

And 

Most importantly, not imposing our own grown up expectations on the kid, 

Would the crying kid grow up to become the crying adult? 

Well, chances are less, though one can always argue on the pretext of one’s destiny. 

But wasn’t destiny about taking control of our own lives, I wonder!

Source for the Image: https://www.pixtastock.com/illustration/57285109, https://www.vhv.rs/viewpic/hTxRRJm_kid-in-tears-clipart-boy-crying-clipart-png/

Blissful Ignorance!

They say, ignorance is bliss! 

Why don’t you just ignore him? Her best friend advised.

Why do you care? He was instructed by his colleague. 

Does it help? 

How do you feel when someone ignores you blatantly in a social gathering?

How can it be a bliss? 

After having spent so much time together, the last thing you would expect is to be ignored.

Wasn’t giving your presence an eye and an ear the basis of any society or civilisation?

What some refer to as:

Bond 

Love

Relationship

Friendship

Or 

Just being 

For the lack of vocabulary. 

Choosing to be ignored or ignoring,

One ends up in an emotional mess, 

Not finding a way out what so ever,

Not knowing how to react or respond,

Not finding a purpose so to say.

Wasn’t getting educated supposed to mean that we are able to handle situations in a mature manner?

Wasn’t being mature also means one is able to manage one’s emotions in a sensible manner?

Be it your ex,

Be it the boss you hate,

Be it your so called enemy, 

Or 

Just someone you don’t like for whatever reason,

Wouldn’t having the art to deal with such situations be a bliss instead? 

Still choosing to ignore or be ignored? 

Do it at your own risk, for that’s surely not going to bring you any happiness, if I may say so!

For avoidance or ignorance is certainly not the bliss one craves for. 

Opportunus!

We keep talking about this opportunity or that opportunity. 

Someone getting lucky because the roll of the dice was such.

Timing being right, right place at the right time. 

But have we ever wondered about this constant fascination and tendency of attributing everything to the RIGHT situations. 

Well, what are these opportunities and how they fall flat for some and not for others? 

Where do these come from?

What is the source?

Are they created or all laid down?

Are they destined to happen in a certain way for few individuals?

For the not so successful, it might be destiny 

And 

The ones who have made the cut might talk about the efforts they put in. 

Whatever be the version, there is nothing in the world that comes as a grant. 

It’s ultimately the result of the hard work one puts in.

Lets look at it this way:

Result is directly proportional to the effort one makes contingent upon the boundaries that one has created for themselves in their minds.

Is there a chance to expand those boundaries? 

Delta by delta, can we keep expanding our horizons?

No one learnt to walk the very day they were born,

Constant efforts along with some mentorship and support made it possible. 

Why not treat our life as a platform of opportunities to keep expanding each day!

The only opportunity one has by the way is to keep creating opportunities on a daily basis, be it personal or professional. 

The only question being, are we prepared to treat this life as an opportunity to accomplish things we would be remembered for. 

Source for the Image: http://ejmayers.blogspot.com/2014/03/the-origin-of-opportunity.html, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/opportunity