Legacy

There are many legacies that we keep hearing about,

Be it the kingdoms and the associated kings,

Be it the political dynasties,

or

Be it the sportspersons and their sons or daughters,

But one legacy that was given to us Indians,

which, as a generation, we would love to forget about,

is this constant state of lethargy,

where,

Until and unless something goes wrong big time,

we don’t react or respond,

hoping that this hibernation will solve it all,

But time and again,

We have been looted inside out,

Be it the invaders who attacked our kingdoms in the past,

or

Be it the nature of corruption or bureaucracy that we tend to hold on to, courtesy British raj,

We tend to suffer hoping that some God will take care, no matter what,

It’s high time,

We start putting in efforts before we leave it all to our destinies!

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Being Gutsy!

Some of us do have this tendency of attributing everything to destiny,

and

Few attribute it to an external cause not under our control,

then there are,

Few who claim to have tried everything,

and then there are,

Few who don’t want to do anything about it,

and last but not least are,

Those who don’t even accept that there is something wrong,

No matter which category we are part of,

The worst possible is not to accept the existence of a problem,

For nothing can be done if there is no issue,

As a result, we start leading a miserable life,

Not taking any steps what so ever to find a relevant solution to the same,

Yes,

It requires a lot of courage to identify and do something about it,

Question being,

Are we prepared to be gutsy enough to make the first move?

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Crying Kid!

At times, when you are not doing something so called meaningful, meaningful things happen. 

Just noticed, that a kid has kept on crying for more than 10 minutes in a nearby apartment. 

Don’t really know the reason, but makes me wonder whether that’s how future is going to be for most of the kids with the kind of education system we have in place. 

An education system which kills all curiosity and an ability to question would surely lead our kids and thereby society in that direction. 

Not just kids, we adults are often found to be crying over one thing or the other,

Be it the boss screwing us up today with shit load of work,

Spouse quarrels, 

Traffic jams, 

Physical discomfort, 

What not!

Simply being unable to handle different challenging situations at different points of time in our lives, 

Which takes us back to the crying kid, 

What if:

The crying kid was catered to in a manner so that he/she would be able to manage his/her state of mind, 

Adult stakeholders (parents, relatives, teachers, siblings etc), 

Providing him/her the tools to be able to do so,

Giving him/her enough time and attention which was needed to just hear them out, 

Being that eternal friend, philosopher and guide that he/she might be craving for, 

And 

Most importantly, not imposing our own grown up expectations on the kid, 

Would the crying kid grow up to become the crying adult? 

Well, chances are less, though one can always argue on the pretext of one’s destiny. 

But wasn’t destiny about taking control of our own lives, I wonder!

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The Inevitable!

What do you do when you don’t get to do what you wanna do?

Well, most of us might have encountered such situations or are continuing to face on a daily basis, be it in person or profession. 

So there are things we know we are good at, based on the kind of training or experience we have had. 

And there are things that we might not be so good at but we would want to give it a shot. 

Things which inspire us to act differently,

Things which might want us to get out of our comfort zone,

Things which seem super exciting to delve into,

And 

Things which tend to bring us out of the boredom associated with accomplishment of daily feats. 

Few may ask, who’s stopping you from taking a deep dive?

Well, 

Call it insecurity,

Call it fear of the unknown,

Label it as the responsibility that comes along being born in a family or married to someone,

Or 

Just lack of courage,

Most of us end up doing something we don’t like most of our lives, 

Only to repent after what if we would have done otherwise.

The only thing to think possibly is,

Whether we would want to be a part of the inevitable group, who accepts it as their destiny to keep doing what they are supposedly good at, 

Or

Choose to break free from the same to explore the boundless nature of the possibilities at hand. 

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Life in Shorts!

Life, an interesting journey, where you get up everyday, do some chores, work to make some money and sleep at the end of the day to again get up the next day repeating the same.

And then there is this concept of life of how it should be or we would want it to be like.

Which has ingredients of partying, having some fun, going on tours etc etc.

Concept which gets its derivation from maybe looking at others and wishing for it.

What follows is whether one make efforts towards it or not depending on one’s beliefs in the attain ability of the desired scenario.

Even after making appropriate efforts, it maybe that one doesn’t end up getting the desired results because of let’s say destiny or it wasn’t meant to be.

If we get what we want we feel accomplished and get all the adulations from the society.

If we don’t get what we want we feel dejected, the expected respect from society doesn’t boost our egos.

Whatever the outcome or the result of the efforts, we tend to ponder a lot over things which might have no relation to us being feeling elated or not in the moment.

Life, of course is not black and white, yet its simple enough to be not made complicated.

A good start could be, before going to sleep, to look back at the moments which made one elated and happy during the course of the day.

And reflect upon why those moments were so precious to us.

Was it because of the accomplishments?

Was it the ego boosters derived from the respect you got from the society?

Was it because you were having some good meal in some nice restaurant?

Was it because you were spending some quality time with your friends or family?

Was it because of the work you did and felt happy cracking the Eureka code in your life?

Whatever it was, reflect and why not write about it every night!

Next morning, just a small reference you can make to decide for yourself the proportion of your time you would want to spend on what activity in life on a daily basis.

For time is limited for all of us. Why not use it to the fullest. What say!

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To do or not to?

Nike came up with this catchy tagline, “just do it!

Sounds great, no?

Well, it is, the only catch with this catchy tagline is,

First, one should know what one should do or loves to do,

Also, once you have had the clue about what you love, you must have the capability to be able to do so.

Most of us fall in either of the 2 categories mentioned above,

Be it not able to find our so called path or one’s dharma, 

or

Not having enough skill sets, both mental and physical to travel the path.

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Any or both lead to utter dissatisfaction, which draws one to thoughts like,

To be or not to be!

or

To do or not to do!

The above questions may arise once you are not able to do something that you want to or feel being inadequate,

Though what needs to be the focus is to build the foundations in a manner which acts as an enabler to accomplish things in society that one wishes for, based on doing good for the society,

Also, due to externalities, if one is not able to accomplish the same, one should be OK with it,

For ultimately,

It won’t matter!

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Ironical Success!

A sage once asked a man, “Do you want to be successful or secure?

The man replied, “But how are they different?

The sage replied, “Well, for most of the people, the success happens by chance, which makes them more fearful of what if and what if not!”

What the man chose thereafter, let us leave that to history, but what’s more important is to mull over the above a tad bit.

To see whether it’s really happening around us. Are we really becoming that insecure, as we tend to accumulate more and more assets in our lives.

Are we scared of losing things to so called destiny?

Are we looking for some kind of insurance, leave alone the other ones which, in any case, we are choosing to have day-in-day-out, instead of focusing on what to do and what not to do, especially when it comes to our health?

To a certain extent, yes!

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Be it any time of our day, tend to haunt us with questions,

What if the maid doesn’t come today?

What if I were late for a so called important meeting?

What if the investments that I have made are hit by a financial crisis?

What if the real state scenario doesn’t become better?

What if I am not able to travel in business class?

Our minds and thoughts putting us in an unstable mode, where in consequences of situations which hasn’t even happened start to trouble us the very moment we are awake.

No wonder, so much importance is being given to sleeping 8-9 hours a day ;).

What if, the very act of waking up came along with the pleasant thoughts, which instead of making you fearful and insecure brought in fresh air and fragrance of life!

Wouldn’t that be a fantastic way to lead life?

And would it even matter bothering about answering the question which the sage asked, once upon a time 🙂

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The Dreaded Review!

It’s again the same time of the year when the ever so dreaded at the same time looked forward to term, review, will take place or has already taken place for the majority who work in order to make a living.

More often than not, many would think that the boss has not been fair in evaluating all aspects of the work that you might have done in the year gone by.

Many might perceive that due credit has not been given to for what you accomplished and somewhere the credit has been bagged by a colleague whom you believe might have performed at a level which might be far less than what you perceive to have performed at.

Have you ever wondered, what this review consist of? No matter how much you want to rationalize and make the entire process logical and fair, that’s what the HR department all over the world aim at and claim to be doing, the thing that matters the most is how well you are able to cope up with relationships in your ecosystem.

Be it your home or in office, what matters the most is your ability to get along well with people with different opinions and mindset and to be able to build a genuine healthy relationship with all.

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And that in no way is suggesting that one should fool around and be political about the entire aspect, but have a fairly high level of compassion and integrity when it comes to be able to slip into others’ shoes and see the world from their perspective.

Harder done than said, one who is able to accomplish this feat, never seems to have a bad review, be it the wife at home, or be it the boss in the office, be it the parents waiting to get a call from their loved ones or be it the sons and daughters waiting for their mom or dad to come back and spend quality time with them.

I would admit that there have been people who have crossed my path on several occasions who have been an inspiration in the true sense of the word. They have taught me how to handle situations or more importantly how to perceive the situation in the first instance.

Such men/women are exemplary in everything they do. They tend to have a positive bent of mind and look at things very differently from the rest of us. These people take success and failure (which comes very seldom) in the same stride.

These are the men/women, who wouldn’t want to focus on the past, having drawn their learning, and would instead focus on the present. They would be more interested in what didn’t work rather than why it didn’t work.

Such are the people that one should try to associate with, learn from them, get inspired and even emulate the aspects which make them so wonderful and different. After all, it’s better to have people with a positive attitude surrounding you compared to people who are always whining or complaining about one thing or the other.

Friends, reviews will come and go, sometimes they will be good at times bad, but what will matter the most is your ability to motivate yourself to become a better individual each minute, each hour and each day of your lives.

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What is it?

I used to wonder at times as to how robotic our lives have become. One gets up in the morning knowing that at such a such time, one needs to be in office, knowing that at such a such time one needs to have one’s lunch, knowing that at such a such time one would go back home, knowing that while going home one would be caught up in the ever increasing traffic on the streets, knowing that after coming back home one would be tired enough not to venture out for familial entertainment and if the better half happens to be working then there wouldn’t be any discussion about the same, knowing that one would watch Big Boss starting from today before hitting the bed the very night.

And on the weekends, one would get up late as one wishes to get over the tiredness one accrues during the week, do the weekend chores of getting the groceries etc and end up watching a movie or spending one’s time in a mall finding means to spend the hard earned money and to get rid of so called boredom in ones’ lives.

For most of us the life would look something like what I have tried to describe above. Have you ever given it a thought as to what is it that’s making us do the same? What is it that guides our day-to-day lives? What is it that is not giving us time to ponder over what kind of life we would ideally want to lead? What is it that is stopping you from pursuing what you like doing? What is it that is proving to be a hindrance when it comes to you venturing out for hobbies which you like the most? What is it that is making you think what if?

Have you ever realized how little a time we have in this world? Have you ever been able to figure out what is that one thing which you would want to accomplish in your life? What is that one thing that gives you more happiness and satisfaction than any other thing in this World? And if you have been able to figure out the same, then why is it that you are not doing that? Why is it that most of us are not able to find the courage to drop out of the rat race and do the abnormal? Why is that most of us end up following the tide and continue to do so till we attain an age where it is no more feasible to do that one thing?images

The destiny lies in your hand. The choice is yours. The answer lies with none other than you. No pundit, no sadhu baba, no jyotishi can help you find your answers but you yourself.

So, are you ready to take up the challenge and figure out that one thing which you would want to do all your life? Do you have the guts to swim against the tide? Do you have it in you to do the abnormal without worrying about the consequences?

As far as success is concerned, the very definition lies with you. It is you who defines what success means to you. It is you who, when you retire, would reminisce and put a stamp of sorts on the life you did live. It is you who can decide whether you want to make your life a success or repent, say 30-40 years down the line, saying, “kaash, main ye kar leta or leti”. 

If you are reading this today, then think about it my dear friend, because zindagi na milegi dobara and kal ho na ho. 

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The Mediocrity!

Why is it that some of us go on to carve a successful life for ourselves and some are left behind in this race? Is it because they are class apart or are more intelligent than the rest or is it because of their attitude towards hard work and dedication?

Some would want to argue that the luck is on their side, or they are more practical and opportunist. Some would say they happen to be at the right place at the right time. Some might even say that this is all written up there and it had to happen.

Without going into the nitty gritties of what’s written and what’s not, the crux is that those who go on to become successful are motivated individuals who are ready to devote their time and will to the one goal or mission that they chose for themselves.

It is their sheer conviction to get up each morning thinking about their goal and what all activities they should be doing in order to move closer to their self-nurtured goals. They don’t waste their precious time gossiping or loafing around.download

If you are wondering where this attitude which leads to the genesis of real success comes from, it’s within us. It is us and our attitudes that shape who we are going to become, say ten years down the line.

Often, in interviews, it’s asked of us, as to where we want to be in 5 or 10 years down the line. The rationale behind asking such questions is to make you ponder over your goals, inspire you from within, motivate you to do hard work.

At the end of the day, it’s not the interviewer who gains from all these questions, but the individual who takes cues from the questions asked and works towards carving a wonderful life for not only himself but also for his near and dear ones.

So, all those out there, who want to be successful, stop behaving like a mediocre and think about that one thing that you really care for, think about that one thing that you would want to do in life and get up each day dreaming about achievement of that one thing and working towards accomplishing the same, till you get it.

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