Par-Dharma!

Where is this all heading?

Well being or a disaster?

Many psychological scientific studies tell us that kids learn what they observe.

No matter how much one preaches, they learn by observing what’s happening around them.

The question is are they being exposed to the right kind of environment that they should be?

Considering,

The tv shows, and movies depicting all kinds of violence,

The fights that happen in the family,

The never ending effort of trying to fulfill the pleasures of life becoming a benchmark from such a young age,

As a parent, does that mean keeping one’s kids in a protective environment,

Making them go to schools, which demonstrate the right set of values,

Yes and no!

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For they would surely be exposed to the practicalities of this society, the existing situations,

Which they would need to face and make a choice for themselves,

Does it mean giving them the right tools to be able to make that all important choice?

That’s where charitra nirmaan (building one’s character) becomes the key to their well being and in turn that of the society.

One may ask how can this be done?

Well, to each their own, few may say,

The fundamentals of it though, for parents remain the same,

Be it treating your kids as adults and spending with them as much time that one can, discussing the intricacies of why the kids consider something as right or wrong,

Be it leading by example, and becoming role models for your kids to emulate,

Be it inculcating a critical feeling of inclusiveness in them, for their well being lies in the well being of others and the society,

No matter whether your parents did it with you!

No matter whether you had to learn it the hard way!

No matter there was no friend, philosopher or guide holding your hands at every step!

May be the time has come for all parents/elders to do all that what their dharma of being in the capacity tells them to.

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India at Crossroads

The world suggests that India is all set to take on a leadership role. Our leaders take great pride in the thought process.

Yet, India seems to be located at a very interesting crossroads which will surely decide the fate of not only India but the entire world in times to come.

If we look at the way development has and is taking place all over, is primarily on the basis of a constant quest of:

Making our lives more comfortable,

Aimed at satisfying our materialistic needs,

Justified in the name of creating a positive impact on the society.

How long it can go like this is one question, I ponder upon?

How long can we keep acting ignorant of the destruction that we are bringing in the name of development?

How long can we let our youth get depressed and commit suicide in the name of wanting to be successful based on the benchmarks referred to by the society?

Well, the modern and the medieval history that we all read about India in the school books is about:

They came. They conquered. They exploited. We fought and finally got freedom. Now, we roam aimlessly waiting again to be supported or conquered by some external force or entity. 

When would we get over with a defeatist mentality?

The same Indians when we go abroad seem to strike gold more often than not.

Ever wondered why?

Is it the opportunities?

Is it the conducive environment bereft of the crab mentality which seems to pervade in the country, be it the political quarters or the regional forces?

Could be none and all inclusive.

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What keeps us going is possibly an inherent nature, which is:

Resilient,

Confident,

Intelligent,

and

over and above,

Spiritual, which guides us in the very manner we go about leading our lives.

Be it the influence of Yoga and the very manner in which we breathe,

Be it the influence of the Gods who occupy every nook and corner of this country,

Be it the care and respect we have for our elders,

or

Be it the Karma and Dharma, concepts which we seem to fall back upon every now and then whenever in doubt,

With such basic ingredients,

Don’t you think it’s high time for us Indians to start acting as the torch bearer to the entire World?

Bereft of any rigidity,

or

Bereft of any hateful tendency,

and

Inclusive of sensitivity,

Inclusive of sensible actions,

or

Inclusive of the very ingredients which make us all human,

The only question being,

Can we become open to the very possibility and start discussing things in the open without any fear or insecurity?

Source for the image: https://www.careerattraction.com/how-to-take-advantage-of-a-career-crossroads/

To do or not to?

Nike came up with this catchy tagline, “just do it!

Sounds great, no?

Well, it is, the only catch with this catchy tagline is,

First, one should know what one should do or loves to do,

Also, once you have had the clue about what you love, you must have the capability to be able to do so.

Most of us fall in either of the 2 categories mentioned above,

Be it not able to find our so called path or one’s dharma, 

or

Not having enough skill sets, both mental and physical to travel the path.

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Any or both lead to utter dissatisfaction, which draws one to thoughts like,

To be or not to be!

or

To do or not to do!

The above questions may arise once you are not able to do something that you want to or feel being inadequate,

Though what needs to be the focus is to build the foundations in a manner which acts as an enabler to accomplish things in society that one wishes for, based on doing good for the society,

Also, due to externalities, if one is not able to accomplish the same, one should be OK with it,

For ultimately,

It won’t matter!

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