Shopping Wopping!

I would want to believe that majority of guys don’t like shopping when it comes to your wives and girlfriends dragging you to the market place especially after a plethora of emotional dialogues and blackmail, and leaving you with no other choice but to comply to their sweet will.

Some of you might toe in line and pretend to like the very idea thinking that since you are already there, you might as well enjoy the entire experience. The rest, on the other hand, would crib and act as if they are going through the torture of their lives, making it sure that the girlfriend or the wife comes to know about the same and hoping that they wouldn’t be dragged from next time around, but little do they realize they would not only become a punching bag for their better halves on reaching home but would also have to go through a hell lot of serious torture while trying to provide a proof of your love towards your better half.shopping

Intelligent are those who tend to pretend liking the entire shopping experience as they are then treated by their better halves in the most wonderful and sensual of mannerism which any guy could die for.

Does it mean that every guy should try to alter the very core of their personalities and start liking shopping? Well, not really but surely you should at least give it a thought and try to fall in the former category in case you want your love life to remain peaceful at all times.

But won’t it mean compromising too much? Wasn’t it meant to be a give and take relationship? Wasn’t it meant to be a mutually desirable and pleasurable experience?

If you guys out there are wondering about all the above questions, then you are true to the core persona, but little do you realize that when you tend to enter into a relationship, it is 90% of the time that women have a knack of making you do what you might least want to do, considering the kind of manipulation power and in turn intelligence that they seem to be born with.

I wonder why women have a stereotypical view of being called stupid and are labelled such by our society. If anyone in this world has a doubt regarding whether they are or not, might want to think about it again after giving recognition to the wonderful knack that they have developed in pursuing a guy to toe to their will.

Well, this is just one perspective and it would be unfair on my part, if I fail to present the views of the fairer sex on the same.shopping wopping

For a girl, shopping is equivalent to a lifeline that they get in return for what all they go through during their life. It is similar to a guy’s lifeline of say watching IPL or any sports or pursuing any particular hobby that is so near and dear to him.

It surely makes them happy. A guy would wonder why and how spending nearly half the guy’s income can make anybody happy, but the truth is, that it does for majority of the girls. After all, it is about maintaining a certain level of happiness quotient in life, which they do so by indulging in shopping. Not to mention that there are indeed mature souls on this planet who take a different view altogether and who spend only when there is enough to spend and do not dive into a careless spree of buying anything and everything that comes to their mind.

Recently, I happened to be talking to one such mature lady, a relative (R) of mine (M), with whom I happened to have a wonderful conversation regarding shopping.

You know, it feels really nice when my husband asks me to go out with him to the market place. It does not necessarily mean that I would spend money but just the idea of my husband taking care of my feelings and giving what I want a consideration makes me happy.”—–R

Yes, I can understand. It feels that the other person cares for you.”—-M

Ya, absolutely! Also, I like seeing new things. I like witnessing the kind of fashion that is prevalent now a days. I like to do window shopping more than actually going out there and buying every possible item I can think of. It is also about spending some quality time with your husband which you normally don’t get a chance because you are so engrossed in your daily routine and don’t find time for such activities. It is very much a break for all ladies.”—-R

True. And everyone desires a change from the monotony that ensues courtesy the kind of Indian society we all happen to live in, where the woman in the house, at least from your generation is expected to get up everyday in the morning and is expected to take care of all the needs of not only the husband and children but also the entire family, ranging from grandfather to brother-in-laws, especially in a joint family.”—-M

Ya, and see how wonderfully we do this job, without any complaints and with full devotion. It looks pretty easy but can be really taxing and tiring. No man can take on such a responsibility because they are not made that way by God. I guess he had special plans when it came to taking care of the family needs and every woman of my generation should take great pride in the things we do.”—-R

True, and hats off to all the ladies and my mother for having done so for so long.”—-M

Ok, you tell me. Men call it a give and take relationship. So, for what we do, don’t we deserve an evening out with the man in our lives, where we can get to enjoy buying new things, which by the way, most of the times are related to the needs of the family and the household. So it is not that we are always buying something for ourselves. We buy keeping in mind everything that might be required by the family. In a way, we are still on duty keeping every little thing in our mind at all times and ensuring that everyone remains happy in our house. After hearing all this, you tell me, whether it is too much a demand that our husbands always seem to crib about?”—-R

Well, I had no answer to the last question that she asked and I seemed a totally transformed person after the entire conversation. Indeed the woman of our lives does take care of all the things that we can possibly think of. In different roles whether it be of a daughter, or a wife or a mother, she tends to fulfill every little expectation that the society has from her. Doesn’t she deserve a better treatment from all the guys?shopping boy

Come on, guys! It is not much that is being asked of you. And I am sure that all of us are capable of doing much better in life :).

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एक कहानी एक टपोरी की ज़बानी Part-1!

Now, this one is a very special one, as it comes straight from the streets of the dream city, Mumbai. It is a true story of a person whom I know very closely and who is still struggling to get in terms with reality. Without going into details, on second thoughts, it won’t be a bad idea to narrate what the person had to tell me when I last visited Mumbai.

“कहते हैं, जब भगवान् छप्पड़ फाड़ के देते हैं, तो बस दे ही देते हैं, और जब वो लेने पे आ जाये, तो फिर तो कोई भी बचा नहीं सकता, बॉस बोले तो वाट लगनी ही बनती है.

समझ नहीं आता कहाँ से शुरू करूं. कुछ साल पहले की बात है, अपुन मस्त बिंदास हुआ करता था. पता नहीं कहाँ से बीड़ू लोगों ने इंटरनेट का चस्खा लगा दिया. फिर क्या था, बोले तो अपुन को इशक़ हो गया. इशक़ तक ही बात रुक जाती, तब तो मामला रफा दफा हो जाता, पर अपनी तो ऊपर वाले ने सोच के लिखी थी, बस अपुन को तो उसी समुन्दर के तेज़ बहाव में बहते रहना बनता था.

एक दिन रोज़ की तरह, अपुन याहू पे चटिया रहा था. तभी अपुन की नज़र एक लड़की की ऑय डी पे पड़ी. बोले तो नाम को पढ़ के अपनी खोपड़ी सन्नाटे में आ गयी. ये तो नहीं पता कि ये उसका सच्चा नाम था या नहीं, पर दिल में एक बार ज़रूर घंटी बजी. सोचा क्या जाता है, एक पार पिंग करके देखना तो बनता है. और बिना कुछ सोचे समझे, दिल की धकड़ने बढ़ाते हुए, अपुन ने मेसेज मार ही दिया.

५ मिनट के बाद भी जब कोई रिप्लाई नहीं आया, तो अपुन ने सोचा, कि अब चलना चाहिए. कि तभी कंप्यूटर की विंडो में डिंग डोंग हुआ. ये उसी लड़की का मेसेज था जिसके नाम ने अपुन के दिल की घंटी बजा रक्खी थी. सोचा क्या यार, अब क्या उखाड़ लेगा, और जाने का टाइम भी हो रहा था, पर कुछ तो बात थी उसके उस डिंग डोंग में, जिसने मुझे उससे चटियाने पे मजबूर कर दिया.

पूरी रात अपुन उसकी हौबीस के बारे में पूछता रहा और वो हर पांच मिनट में अपनी हौबीस के बारे में मुझे बताती रही. टाइम कैसे बीत गया, जब तक इसका अंदाजा होता, तब तक अम्मी दरवाज़े के बहार से उठा रही थी, कि बेटा सुबह हो गयी. अम्मी को क्या पता था कि मेरी रातों की नींद अब उड़ने वाली थी.

बिना सोये अपुन अगले दिन काम पे चला गया. काम में मन तो लगना नहीं था. बस पूरे दिन उसी की  हौबीस के बारे में सोचता रहा, साथ में इंटरनेट पे रिसर्च भी मारी, जिससे रात में जाके उसको इम्प्रेस कर सकूं.

कहते हैं जब किसी चीज़ को पूरी शिद्दत से चाहो तो पूरी कायनात तुम्हे उससे मिलाने में लग जाती है. तो फिर उस रात उसको दोबारा आना ही था. अब बात दिल की घंटी से आगे बढ़ने को बेकरार थी. सोचा मिलने को बोल ही देता हूँ, आखिर अपनी सारी फ़ोटो तो मैं उसको भेज ही चूका था, अब अच्छा लगता हूँ तो मिलेगी ही, ये सोच कर मैंने उससे शाम को मिलने को पूछ ही लिया.tapori

इस बार भी ५ मिनट तक कोई जवाब नहीं आया, और छटे मिनट, उसने लॉग आउट कर दिया. मेरा तो मानो बॉस जैसे दिल ही टूट गया. अपुन ने खुद को खूब कोसा, कि इतना शाना बन्ने की क्या ज़रुरत थी. इसी गम में उस रात भी मैं सो ना सका.

अगले दिन काम पे सोता रहा. बॉस ने भी खूब फटकार लगाई. पर क्या करता, कुछ अच्छा ही नहीं लग रहा था. बस एक और रात का इंतज़ार था, और ये आशा थी कि एक गलती तो माफ़ करना बनता ही था, आखिर मैं उसका चैट फ्रेंड जो था.

और उस रात वो फिर से आयी. अपुन ने ५-६ सॉरी मेसेज उसके चिपका डाले ये सोच कि शायद वो मुझे एक और चांस देगी. फिर ५ मिनट तक कोई रिप्लाई नहीं आया तो मैंने सोचा अब तो बैंड बज गया. इसी सोच में मैं लॉग आउट करने ही वाला था कि तभी उसका मेसेज आया: “सॉरी मैं कल लॉग आउट हो गयी थी, वो कभी कभी लाइट चली जाती है ना, तो बताओ कहाँ मिलना है.

अपुन को तो विश्वास ही नहीं हो रेलिया था, कि अपुन के साथ ऐसा भी हो सकता है. अपुन ने जल्दी से मीटिंग सेट की और अगले दिन काम से छुट्टी ले ली. शाम को अपुन का मिलने का प्रोग्राम सेट था. अम्मी ने जो पिछले जन्मदिन पे शर्ट लायी थी, वही पहन के बिंदास अपुन मिलने को पंहुचा.

वो हरे रंग के सलवार सूट में मेरे सामने खड़ी थी. उसकी ज़ुल्फ़े उसके राईट कान को छूते हुए उसके कंधे पे आ रही थी. मुझे तो बॉस उसको देखते ही प्यार हो गया. सोचा आज ही अपनी अम्मी से निकाह की बात कर लूं. पहले आप पहले आप में गाडी ना निकल जाये, मैंने उसको रेस्टोरेंट में बैठने को बोला. वो शर्मा के अपनी पलके झुकाई मेरे सामने वाली सीट पे बैठ गयी.

आगे क्या होगा ये मुझे भी नहीं पता था, पर जो भी होना था वो लिखा जा चुका था……(to be continued)

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एक आखरी मुलाक़ात !

Carrying on with my love affair of trying to get into some other person’s shoes or sandals as the case may be 😉 , here I am, again making an attempt at trying to understand the feelings and emotions that a person might be going through, thinking what if he is unable to meet the love of his life for the last and final time. I would like to title it as एक आखरी मुलाक़ात !

कभी कभी किसी से दूर चले जाने का एहसास इतना दर्द नहीं देता जितना कि ये सोच कि हम उस किसी ख़ास से आंखरी बार नहीं मिल पाए तो. उस दिन मेरे साथ भी ऐसा ही कुछ हो रहा था. जहाँ एक ओर उस किसी ख़ास से एक आंखरी बार मिलने के लिए दिल बेकरार था, वहीँ दूसरी ओर इस बात का डर भी था कि उसने मिलने से मना कर दिया तो.

इसी उधेर बुन में मैंने उसे एक आंखरी बार फ़ोन करने का निश्चय किया. बहुत देर तक फ़ोन की घंटी बजती रही पर किसी ने फ़ोन नहीं उठाया. हताश हो कर, मैं जैसे ही एअरपोर्ट के लिए निकलने ही वाला था, तभी मेरा फ़ोन बज उठा. अपने मोबाइल पर प्रकट होते हुए नंबर को देख के मेरी ख़ुशी का ठिकाना नहीं रहा. मैं विश्वास नहीं कर पा रहा था कि फ़ोन उसी का था.girl fighting boy

कभी कभी आप को खुद नहीं पता होता कि आप ज़िन्दगी से क्या चाहते हैं. बस सभी की तरह आप भी ज़िन्दगी के उस बहाव में अपने आप को छोड़ देते हैं, इस आशा से कि ये ज़िन्दगी आपके साथ अच्छा व्यहवार करेगी. मुझे भी इस बात का ज़रा सा भी अंदेशा नहीं था कि जो मैं करने जा रहा था वो मेरी ज़िन्दगी के लिए सही सिद्ध होगा या नहीं. हाँ पर एक विश्वास ज़रूर था कि जो भी होता है अच्छे के लिए ही होता है.

मैंने जल्दी से फ़ोन को उठाया. मानो मेरी सारी परेशानी दुनिया की सबसे हसीन आवाज़ को सुनकर एक पल के लिए गायब हो गयी. हाँ वो कोई और नहीं, मेरी ज़िन्दगी का वो प्यार थी जिसके लिए बिना कुछ सोचे समझे उसके चेहरे पे एक हसी लाने के लिए मैं कुछ भी करने को तैयार हो जाया करता था. जिसकी एक झलख मेरे पूरे दिन की थकान को मिटा देती थी. जिसकी एक अदा पे मैं मरने को भी तैयार हो जाता था. जिसका शर्माना मुझे किसी और ही दुनिया में भेज देता था. जिसके कान के वो झुमके मुझे अपनी ओर आकर्षित करते थे. जिसके घुंगराले बालों में मैं अपने को खो देना चाहता था. हाँ वो कोई और नहीं वही लड़की थी जिसके साथ मैंने अपनी ज़िन्दगी बिताने के सपने देखे थे.

“क्या तुम मुझसे मिल सकती हो?” मुझे इस बात की काफी कम उम्मीद थी की वो मुझसे मिलने को तैयार हो जायेगी.
“हाँ, पर केवल थोड़ी देर के लिए.” मुझे विश्वास ही नहीं हो रहा था की इतना सब हो जाने के बाद भी वो मुझसे मिलने को तैयार हो गयी थी.
मुझे खुद नहीं पता था कि मैं उससे मिल के क्या कहूँगा. हमारे बीच वैसे भी सब कुछ ख़तम ही हो गया था. क्या मुझे इस बात की उम्मीद थी कि वो मेरे पास फिर से एक बार लौट आयेगी? क्या मैं एक बार फिर से उस बीतें हुई ज़िन्दगी को वापस लाना चाहता था? क्या मेरा उसके प्रति प्यार मुझे जाने कि इजाज़त नहीं दे रहा था? क्या मैं चाहता था कि हम दोनों फिर से एक बार साथ हो जाए? क्या उसे अपने से दूर जाता हुआ देख मैं अपने आप को संभाल नहीं पा रहा था? इन सवालों का मेरे पास कोई जवाब नहीं था या शायद मैं इन जवाबों को जान कर भी स्वीकार नहीं करना चाहता था.

शायद मुझे इसी पल का इंतज़ार था. शायद इतने दिनों से मैं इसी मौके की तलाश में था. शायद यही वो मेरी ज़िन्दगी का निर्णायक पल होने वाला था. शायद यही वो आंखरी मौका था जब मैं उसे एक बार फिर से इस बात के लिए राज़ी कर सकता था कि हम फिर से एक साथ हो जाये. और इस बार मैं अपनी कोशिश में कोई कमी नहीं करना चाहता था. मुझे पता था कि गलती मुझसे ही हुई थी पर इसका मतलब ये तो नहीं था कि हम अलग हो जाये. आखिर गलती हर इंसान से होती है. बड़प्पन तो इसी में होता है कि हम उन गलतियों को अनदेखा कर अपनी ज़िन्दगी को और हसीन बनाने की कोशिश करें.

उसे सामने देख जहाँ एक ओर मैं बेहद खुश था वहीँ दूसरी ओर मुझे बिलकुल भी समझ नहीं आ रहा था कि मैं उसको कैसे राज़ी करूंगा. बात बहुत आगे बढ़ चुकी थी.
“तुम्हे पता है कि मैंने ज़िन्दगी में सबसे ज्यादा प्यार आज तक किसे किया है? वो कोई और नहीं तुम हो. हाँ मैं मानता हूँ मुझसे गलती हुई है. मुझे तुम्हे पहले ही सब कुछ बता देना चाहिए था, पर इसके लिए क्या तुम मुझे इतनी बड़ी सज़ा दोगी. क्या मुझे अपनी गलती सुधारने का एक मौका भी नहीं मिलेगा? मैं तुमसे वादा करता हूँ कि मैं सब कुछ ठीक कर दूंगा. फिर से हम उन्ही पुराने दिनों में वापस लौट जायेंगे. क्या तुम मेरे साथ अपनी ज़िन्दगी नहीं बिताना चाहती?….” कहते कहते मैं चुप हो गया. उसकी दोनों आँखों से आंसुओ की लड़ी बह रही थी. बिना कुछ बोले मैंने उसको अपनी बाहों में ले लिया.

“मैं इतने दिनों तक यहीं सोचती रही कि तुमने मुझसे बात करने की कोशिश क्यों नहीं करी. और फिर एक दिन मुझे तुम्हारे ही एक दोस्त से पता चला की तुमने ये देश छोड़ कर जाने का निश्चय कर लिया है. इसी उम्मीद में कि तुम मुझे एक फ़ोन तो करोगे, मैं तुम्हारा इंतज़ार करती रही, पर तुम्हारा फ़ोन नहीं आया. तुम्हे पता है अगर आज तुम्हारा फ़ोन नहीं आता तो मैं पूरी तरह से टूट जाती. क्या तुम्हे हमारे रिश्ते पे इतना सा भी भरोसा नहीं था? क्या तुम्हे मुझपे भरोसा नहीं था? मैंने तुम्हारा हर स्थिति में साथ देने का वादा किया था, तो फिर मैं अपने वादे से पीछे कैसे हट सकती थी? क्या तुम इतनी आसानी से मुझे छोड़ के चले जाते?” मैंने गलती तो की ही थी, पर उससे बड़ी गलती ये थी कि मैंने उसे सुधारने का भी कोई प्रयत्न नहीं किया था.girl meeting boy

मुझे पता था कि मुझे इश्वर ने अपनी गलती सुधारने का एक मौका और दे दिया था. मुझे पता था कि एक बार फिर से वो मेरी ज़िन्दगी में खुशियाँ भरने को तैयार हो गयी थी. आप चाहे जो भी कहें, लड़कियां हम लड़कों से ज्यादा समझदार और भावनात्मक रूप में हम लड़कों से कहीं ज्यादा शक्तिशाली होती हैं. साथ ही साथ उनमें क्षमा भाव भी हम लडको से सामान्य रूप में ज्यादा ही होता है.

कहते हैं अंत भला तो सब भला, पर कभी कभी इस बात को मैं सोच के डर जाता हूँ कि अगर उस दिन मुझे वो आंखरी मुलाकात करने का अवसर नहीं प्राप्त हुआ होता तो क्या होता. इसलिए मेरी आप सभी से गुजारिश है कि अपने साथी से कुछ ना छुपाये. विश्वास एक ऐसी बुनियाद है जिसपे हर रिश्ता अपना अस्तित्व निर्धारित कर ज़िन्दगी में आगे बढ़ता है. इसलिए इस विश्वास की नीव को कभी भी कमज़ोर ना होने दे.

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I have a Plan B!

Well! I am not talking about a discussion being held in the posch enclaves of a MNC discussion room. I am referring to what youngsters today are constantly harping on.

I am in fact speaking about a love story that is for strange reasons going through situations and circumstances unheard of and unconceived of before this.

If you are wondering what that might be, you indeed need to go through a dynamics that I am about to mention.

Somehow, with the innumerable plans that the telecom companies have got so used to offering lately, this is a classic example of a guy and a girl ending up taking different plans from the same telecom company.

It is quite remarkable how the girls love to write loads of messages expressing themselves to the fullest and leaving no stone unturned to convey their feelings to their boyfriends.

So, what she does in order to fulfill the dream of her life which is to express herself, she ends up opting for a plan which allows her to write lots and lots of messages for just a few bucks.

Happily enough, she ends up messaging her boyfriend at least 100 times in a day and expects her boyfriend to do the same, which of course doesn’t happen, sheerly because of the very nature of a guy.

He ends up taking an economic plan as he thinks it would suffice his needs, ignoring the very recent need of messaging his girlfriend that has of late begun to knock at his door.

What results is anybody’s guess. They end up quarrelling as the girl perceives the guy to have lost interest in her and for ignoring all the stuff that the girl wants to share with her guy.

The guy, in order to avoid all the bickering taking place, decides to opt for the same plan as the girl. He tries to send as many messages as possible from his end, but is never able to compensate the girl for her expression of her feelings.

If this was not enough a cause for the quarrell to even grow worse, they end up fighting for the guy’s inability to call her in the same manner as he used to do before taking up the girl’s plan.

Sometimes, it is so difficult to explain the obvious. The guy tries every thing in the World to come up with an explanation citing that since he has changed his plan, he is unable to make the same number of calls as he used to do before.

But as if the words are falling on a deaf person’s ear, he is unable to get any respite for his explanation. Instead the girl thinks that the guy has started to blame her for everything and of course for no fault of hers.

Seeing the situation go out of control, the guy decides that he won’t be a miser any more and this time around he opts for the most inclusive of plans which allows him not only to send messages to his girlfriend but also gives him enough freedom to make as many calls as he wishes to make on a number which belongs to the same telecom company.

Feeling quite joyful about his act, he decides to call up his girlfriend. With the luxury of time no more being a constraint, he calls her up. But to his utter dismay, he is unable to connect to the same and is met with a voice telling him that the number has been temporarily drawn out of service.

Feeling quite strange about what he just heard, he is left with no other option but to wait for his girlfriend’s call.

After a long wait, he does receive a call from none other than his girlfriend, who is all set to surprise her boyfriend with a breaking news: “Hey, Guess what! I have changed my number. I thought, I was being too possessive. So, I decided that I would take up a number which would give me an opportunity to interact with my family and friends more often at the same time, I would not be pestering you with my calls and messages every now and then. Moreover, the connection that I have taken this time gives much better reception than my previous one. See, I am the best girlfriend that you could have ever dreamt of. Hai na! 🙂 “

The breaking news proved to be a heartbreak for the guy. More than a heartbreak, it leaves him disappointed.Thinking it wiser not to tell his girlfriend about what he had just done for her, he decides to keep the dymanics of the plans to himself: “You are very sweet, baby and very understanding too. That’s why, I am your biggest fan on this planet, Earth. 😉 “

This is how, the whole dynamics of the plans came to an end at least in this case. But I am sure there are many more such stories that are going around in India and deserve a mention.

Having said, all the above, happys endings always give me immense satisfaction and happiness.

Lekin kya karoon, picture abhi baaki hai mere dost 😉

Source for Image: http://www.jadnici.info/page/4, http://www.getbackexgirlfriendadvice.com/, http://www.myniceprofile.com/miss-you-6671.html

What a Guy calls Torture !

Baby, I love you na!”–Guy

“Jhoot, sab jhoot! You don’t care for me. You keep roaming with friends. You don’t have any time for me.”–Girl

Of course not baby! You know even when I am around with friends, I keep thinking about you.”–Guy

Very funny! Then why didn’t you give me a call?”–Girl

Oh wo to because I was driving na! And moreover my battery was so low that I couldn’t even send you a message.”–Guy

What rubbish! If you really wanted to talk to me, you could have called me up from your friend’s cell or a PCO.”–Girl

Hey, guess what! I gotta surprise for you.”–Guy (tries to change the topic of conversation)

“Is it? What? Now it better be good for you have lots n lots to make up to me.”–Girl

Well, these are not dialogues from some movie of the genre of DCH (I am sure you all remember the character played by Saif Ali Khan), but a real life talking example between a girl and a guy, who finally takes a sigh of relief having deviated the girl away from the topic that he so hates to discuss, but is forced to do so anyway, because of the very perseverance shown by the girl.

It’s not that the girl doesn’t understand that the guy is trying to take her away from the crux of the matter, but she believes in letting him go until the next time, as she thinks that she has thrown enough of tantrums for this time, and moreover she awaits thesurprisethat is supposed to be coming her way.

The guy, on the other hand, thinks that how intelligent he is, for managing to escape from the topic and for having restored normalcy in the relationship again. Though, he doesn’t have the slightest of notions about what is in store for him in times to come when this very example and many more would be cited in order to initiate a conversation (more so a fight), which would totally be guided by the mood of the girl.

In short, the guy doesn’t realize that he has become, nothing, but a slave of the wishes of his girlfriend. Soon after, what follows is as good as anyone’s guess. A series of quarrelling which soon turn into serious debates about relationships and what results in the end is a breakup.

On being asked to the guy as to what had resulted in him and his girlfriend resorting to such an action, his answer is pretty much reflective of his understanding and perception about a relation, which is nothing but immensely immature.

She made my life hell, you see. She didn’t give me any space. I felt so constrained that I couldn’t really breathe.”–Guy’s explanation

Somehow, I have heard and listened to such explanations so often, that there was a time when I seriously started doubting the intention of a girl. The ever reverberating question kept stimulating my mind: What does a girl really want? Is she always after the life of a guy?

On going a bit deeper into the complex nature of the relationship, I realized that it all starts withpep talkwherein a guy tries to do any and everything in order to woo the girl. He resorts to actions which might be totally incompatible with the basic personality of the guy, which in turn develops expectations on part of the girl, which the guy would never be able to fulfill in the future, sheerly because it doesn’t match the very basic nature of the guy.

As a result one can hear the girl saying:Tum to aise nahi the. Kitna badal gaye ho tum,which if we think from the girl’s perspective is so true.

Having said the above, what one really wants to know is whether there is a solution to the whole dynamics that I have described above.

I believe that for any realtionship to succeed, the most important ingredient is honesty. One needs to be honest to both oneself and his/her partner. It is extremely important to put your true self in front of a person whom you are thinking of spending your whole life with.

There is absolutely no requirement what so ever for faking or doing something which you are not capable of doing and which you certainly will not be doing in the future.

At the same time, the girl should understand that there is a general pattern or a curve that every relationship follows. With the relationship becoming more and more mature, things certainly are bound to change. The form of expression of love might change. The depth of conversations might become more mature and serious at times.

This, in no way, is reflective of the fact that the love quotient has gone down between the couple or the relationship has lost the charm that it once had. It is just indicative of a fact that the relationship has become more strong and solid.

In the end, what a guy calls torture is a result of his own activites at times and as a guy, one should try to abide by the principles of honesty.

The question that needs to be understood more than answering is: “Can you honestly love a dishonest thing?”

Source for Image: http://www.milliondollarmarriage.me/honesty-trust-respect-love, http://www.ortegaumc.org/pages/pastor_notes_8-15-10.html