Moving Out!

More often than not we humans, worry more about getting in rather than moving out, whether it be a job that one has been desperately searching for, or a movie hall when the movie is about to begin, be it a shared taxi to get the finest possible seat, or be it the shared toilet in a hostel where every one is gearing to do what they are of course supposed to do.

Yes, there are always exceptions to the rule with the likes of us, Indians who have got so habitual to breaking cues when it comes to, lets say, getting out of an airplane immediately after it comes to a halt or be it the ticket counter for various utilities, thanks to the insecurity that is so deeply imbibed in all of us having been brought up in an era with stiff competition and lack of resources.

Somehow, moving out in some cases, at the right time, is as important, if not more, than moving in, be it an emergency evacuation or a failed relationship. Today, I am going to talk about an aspect of our lives which tends to consume at least 60-70% of our productive life, if not more. Yes, I am referring to none other than the professional set up towards which we tend to devote more than half our lives.

How often have you thought of calling it a quit, yet staying for the lack of courage or contemplating the uncertainty of the future? How often have you forced yourself to go to the office every single day of your life trying to motivate yourself for something/someone which you don’t like doing and if it were not for the society around you, you would never do so?

How often have you neglected your true callings, your inner voice to continue to do something which brings you lot of bitcoins and perceived social success but not enough happiness? How often have you craved for spending that extra hour with your loved ones but have not been able to do so for the challenges and complexities of living a “conventional” investment banking kind of a profile?

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I believe many of us would have been into the situations where we would have no answers to the above. Many would wonder that in order to live the kind of life that one or one’s loved ones want to live comes with sacrifices. Many would want to call the people who follow their heart as losers and might be inspired by the likes of “chatur” of “3 Idiots” fame, still there are these few who follow their heart and tend to become the “chanchads” of their batch.

If you ask the latter, what they achieve by doing so, they would give you all kinds of philosophies supporting their lifestyle, which you might really not agree with, still the kind of peace and calm that is so evident on their faces, even after not being able to convince you, would make you feel jealous of the fact, and would leave you wondering, “kaash main bhi aisa kar paata/paati“.

If you think they are doing something drastically out of this world, you are mistaken, for they are only doing the thing they like doing. They are doing what they think they were supposed to do, having born on this planet earth. They believe that if if they were not doing the same, they wouldn’t be doing anything, possibly not living at all.

Yes, they are normal human beings. They too have insecurities regarding not being able to accomplish the love of their life. Yes, they fear being not able to make it big and meet others’ expectations.

But the difference is that they are able to move out of this thinking which holds them back, in a flash. They are able to overcome the fears arising out of the above. They are able to convince one and all about the happiness that would come in, if they were doing what they think they were meant to do.

They take failures and success in the same stride. They learn to become moderately happy when they strike gold and moderately sad when they don’t. For them the path or the journey becomes more important than the goal.

They master the art of moving out of the normal. After all, don’t you think the ultimate goal for all of us remain more or less the same, yet paths will differ significantly.

Now, it’s up to you to decide which path to tread, for it’s only you who knows where your true calling lies. Time to MOVE OUT?

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Dil-Dimaag ETC!

May be it was me! May be it was my parents! May be the time was such! May be we didn’t take it so seriously! May be it was destiny!

Whatever it was, it was great. Our parents would say that their times were the best. We might say that our times were the best and today’s generation might go on to say that their time is the best.

Of course there will be perspectives and of course they all will be very different. If you are wondering that I have gone crazy, then you are not that far in discovering one aspect, just one aspect of this modern world that seemed to have caught up with all college going youngsters.

They are all very focused. They all seem to know what they are going to do in their lives. They all think a lot about what if they don’t achieve what they want to. They all wonder what if?

It’s good to know what one wants in his or her life and Shiv Khera, the famous motivational speaker of our era, would agree to making plans and implementing the same through out your life.

Somehow, most guys in my generation weren’t aware what they wanted to do. Even if they were aware of the subconscious, not many would come out in the open saying the obvious.

May be we were scared to express ourselves to the point of being judged good or bad, may be we were not so sure about things, may be it was so subconscious that it struggled to come out no matter how hard we tried, may be the world was not ready to listen to our aspirations, may be we had lived in an age of secrecy, may be we believed that “kisi ki nazar lag jayegee“, may be it was a phenomenon that could be associated with the small towns and cities in India.

But today’s generation is expressive to the core. What they want, they are ready to speak out about it with no hesitation what so ever. The other day I had the fortune of meeting this wonderful youngster who is so focused that he has forgotten everything around himself.

His aim and his college room in which he spends nearly half of his time has become his life. I could never imagine myself not venturing out during our cultural festival in college and being confined inside the four walls thinking about how could I reach my goal.

Sometimes I wonder whether not having a concrete goal in my life worked for me, because I could see myself not moving in one particular direction and was open to trying new things in life.head heart

Yes, everything has its pros and cons. On one hand, where I listened to what my heart had to say, on the other hand, those who listened to what their heads were telling them to do, are much better off in terms of materialistic possessions in life than may be what I am.

But does that matter? In the end what will matter are the experiences that you might take along with you, may be even that won’t matter, because you never know what lies on the other side of scheme of things.

Instead of thinking about what matters and what doesn’t, wouldn’t it be wonderful to live life as you want it to be, not what say your parents aspire for you, or elders in your family want you to do.

So that when you are 70 and when you sit on a chair watching the sun set, you don’t have any regrets in your life “ki kaash us samein main aisa kar leta“.

I have always believed very strongly that you should always go by your gut feeling because your gut receives direct inputs from your heart and your heart will never deprive you of what you are meant to be.

On the other hand, if you choose to listen to your grey matter, then it will surely find a means to convince you to abide by the manipulated version that it has in store for you to follow.

So, make your choice between heart and head because what goes by, never comes back and what is today will not be tomorrow.

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