Casteing!

Was having a discussion with a good friend just two days back,

In his village,

There is a temple,

On the day of the puja,

The seating arrangement is pretty well defined,

The Brahmins sit right next to the deity,

Upper castes on the right,

Lower castes on the left

and

Untouchables right at the entrance of the temple,

Not that we, as Indians, aren’t aware of the social hierarchy,

Yet,

What’s surprising is to see it being practiced in such elaborate details,

Even in a so called modern India,

Few might argue,

That it has always been a part and parcel of our lives,

Don’t you think,

It’s time we break these barriers,

To move, so to say, forward in this game of life.

Source for the Image: https://www.holidify.com/collections/temples-in-bangalore

My Life-Your Life

Invariably we keep drawing these comparisons,

Be it the boy or girl next door,

or

Be it that successful colleague in our offices,

Be it the black sheep in the family,

or

Be it that wonderful cousin who has had it all in life,

Whatever be the reason for your kind of life,

Destiny

or

your own making,

We need to understand,

It has got to do nothing with any one else’,

One may want to get inspired,

One may want to draw a clue or two from others’,

But have your ever wondered,

What benefit it’s bringing to you?

Which brings back the memory of a song which became quite popular during it’s time,

It’s my life...and is unique in every sense of the word,

Why not just try and stick to that!

Source for the Image: https://soundcloud.com/gasparcg/bon-jovi-its-my-life-matias-trommel

Doddajiva

Wondering what this could mean?

It refers to “big life” in Kannada.

Whether a person has had the chance to live life king/queen size.

Though here the king/queen is not gauged by what one has accumulated in life,

But by the very nature of the experiences one has had in their lifetime,

How exhaustive and expansive they have been,

and

How wonderfully lived each moment has been,

And if you are still wondering how this can be done,

Well,

It’s time to take a step back,

Revisit the very consciousness that is a part of each and everyone of us,

To,

Become cognizant of the way we conduct our lives,

Things we tend to prioritize and give importance to,

And give our life an opportunity to experience it all,

The only question being,

Are you ready to take a seat on this wonderful roller coaster of life?

Source for the Image: https://finance.yahoo.com/news/elephant-kills-70-old-woman-141600287.html

Prepared?

Preparation can be of various kinds,

preparing for

Exams,

Marriage,

Interviews etc. etc.

But one preparation that most of us choose to ignore,

or

Are ignorant of,

Is the preparation for death,

As pessimistic as it might sound,

When the time comes,

most of us go in a state of shock,

knowing all through that the day would arrive,

when we will choose to take a leap of faith in a new arena altogether,

If we were just to remind ourselves

and

be cognizant of the only truth there is,

Guess life would become much more enjoyable and appreciable,

than what it is today!

The only question being,

Are we preparing ourselves for the eventuality?

Source for the Image: https://www.healthline.com/health/leading-causes-of-death

L-Style

The other day I happened to visit a Lifestyle store.

What such kind of stores promise is a life altering shopping experience,

Clothes and accessories,

which can make you look good,

which can change the very manner in which you are perceived by this world,

which can bring a transformation in your lifestyle,

But have you ever wondered,

What kind of effect it has on the very nature of life that we are supposed to live?

Well,

In order to buy such products,

One toils day-in-day-out,

Not just to fulfill their own desires,

But also the desires of their near and dear ones,

And in that very quest tend to drift away from the very essence of life,

Choice is of course ours to focus either on,

Life or lifestyle!

Source for the Image: https://www.thephotoargus.com/examples-of-lifestyle-photography/

EV

Oh, what a polite and obedient girl, she is!

Oh, what a responsible man he has become!

Oh, what personality!

And it goes on and on,

These very adjectives are what we crave for day in day out,

An external validation (EV) of sorts from the who’s who of our society,

No matter what,

We want to look good in front of these very eyes that matter to us,

All our thoughts and actions get influenced,

And we end up becoming a conditioned being,

Anything wrong with that, you may ask?

Well,

Nothing wrong I would say,

Just that every thought and every act based on this thought has a consequence,

Considering, more often than not, we are under tremendous pressure seeking this EV,

We tend to get caught up in this web of social seeking, so much so,

That

We tend to drift far away from the very essence of what life might be,

Of course the choice is yours to let it happen to you or not!

Source for the Image: https://sterilebarrier.org/manufactures/validation-process/

Love 2022!

One of the most talked about emotions possibly is love,

The moment I utter the word,

What comes to mind,

is

The love that one might have for his gf/bf/spouse,

The love that a mother/father might have for their kids,

or

The love that one might have for friends,

But the kind of love that is most relevant and most important is love for self,

Which we practice day-in-day-out,

For every act of love that we demonstrate is intended to bring about a pleasantness in oneself,

Though,

We claim to be doing it for others,

Yet,

The sole purpose is to have that feel good factor which makes our day,

Which,

Inspires us to invest our time and effort,

Which

Gives this very life a purpose,

2022 is no different in that sense,

If we were to focus on this very essential of love,

There won’t be any question about what’s right or wrong,

For what makes our life feel good in the true sense will in itself make others happy!

Agree?

Source for the Image: https://www.scripps.org/news_items/4743-how-love-affects-your-heart

G for!

For those who are reading this: 

Most of us might have felt at some point of time in our lives that we could have been or could be doing much more

Might have felt that the true potential has not been realized. 

Might have had been haunted by thoughts and questions: what if I would have taken some other course

But 

A thing that we don’t realize is: 

After all, whatever we have achieved is nothing short of a feat. 

What we have in our possession is not that everyone has a privilege of claiming. 

Be it the:

Job,

Family,

Friends, 

Or

Other material possessions, 

Why then:

This feeling of disappointment,

This frustration, 

This temperament, 

This constant need to prove to the world

And

This inability of being able to appreciate and praise others for so called small things in life. 

Does it even register: 

Just few words of genuine praise can change or even save someone’s life

Just few words of courtesy can make someone’s day, 

Jadoo ki jhappi (an affectionate hug) of Munna Bhai does work, 

Considering we are maintaining social distancing in these times, 

And 

Considering people are getting depressed for so many reasons, 

What’s stopping us from offering something that doesn’t take a lot of effort and could indeed impact lives in the real sense! 

So, my dear friends, please don’t stop yourself from offering this genuine praise, 

to 

Whosoever comes in contact with you in these challenging times

Might even act as a life saving fresh breath of air to the affected and the depressed. 

Wondering what this G is for?

Grateful for:

To begin with alive in these times,

Getting those all important meals,

The health of our loved ones, family and friends,

There is still hope,

Enabling us to take a break from mindless and senseless lives,

and

Being able to connect and communicate, courtesy social medial platforms and calling apps,

If these are not enough for one to be grateful,

I wonder what will be!

Source for the Image: https://leadx.org/articles/we-know-we-ought-to-be-grateful-but/, https://steemit.com/writing/@doitvoluntarily/the-pursuit-of-wanting-more, https://www.amazon.in/initial-Alphabet-Monograme-Notebook-monogramend/dp/B083XVYVY3

This Type that Kinds!

Have you ever wondered why there is this constant tendency in us to categorise people?

Oh , he is this kind!

Oh she is that kind! 

Possible reason and explanation could be:

Who has time to ponder over such things, why not label and make things easier for our brains to comprehend and respond to. 

One may ask what’s wrong in the above?

After all, life is about making things easy for the mental and physical self. 

True to a certain extent as it might look, one needs to ponder whether it is truly making life easier? 

The more we tend to label the more we keep falling in the prejudice trap, 

Unable to look at situations as they are,

Unable to give benefit of doubt,

In short

Unable to act and be humans.

For that’s what we supposedly all are, 

As believed emerging from the same source yet different in our own ways, 

Who would once again merge with the source when the time comes. 

So, be it this kind or that type, 

The thing to think is whether we are willing to give ourselves a chance, 

To take risks and not pass judgements,

To learn all through in this beautiful journey of life,

And most importantly 

Finding the being what we are supposed to be. 

Source for the Image: https://www.ted.com/playlists/9/all_kinds_of_minds, https://resources.workable.com/category-manager-job-description

Talking to the Source!

I don’t know, it’s just that my parents wanna get me through to IITs, so be it!“,

When such is the reply coming from a very bright 17 year old girl on being asked casually as to what she would want to do in her life, then surely there is a cause for concern.

As a society, when you see kids committing suicide, reason being not getting good marks or not being able to qualify a particular exam, we need to delve into it at a much deeper level on an immediate basis.

Just imagine the stress and anxiety that kid might have gone through before taking such a drastic step.

What is it that we are trying to inculcate in our kids as parents?

Many parents argue that it’s for their kid’s good that they are pushing them to be successful in life.

Really?

images

Is being sad a part of that very success story?

Is feeling anxious about not being able to fulfil their parents’ dream a part of the process?

Is taking to drugs a reasonable part of their response to the kind of expectations parents have from them?

And,

As parents, are we reinforcing all the above, by pushing them towards the most undesirable thing in their lives at a point in time?

Why, the very source of creation, becomes an enabler for the impending disaster?

Why, the very nurturer becomes the destroyer?

Why, the very so called good intentions, become malign?

For parents, you are the ones who would enable the creation of a sensible or a nonsensical society!

Choice is yours, so why not be sensible about it,

Some food for thought for parents of our generation!

Source for the Image: https://www.ypad4change.org/suggested-dance-parent-etiquette/