खुद पे गुमान

ये बात सही है कि गुमान को घमंड में तब्दील होने में बहुत देर नहीं लगती.

मगर क्या ये इस देश में पैदा हो रहे और पल रहे हर बच्चे के जीवन का आधार नहीं होना चाहिए?

इसपे विचार करने की आवश्यकता है.

क्या कभी आपने सोचा है कि एक हिन्दुस्तानी आदमी जब विदेश जाता है, तो उसे उस तरह से इज़्ज़त नहीं मिलती जैसे किसी और देश जैसे कि जापान या यूरोप के वासी को मिलती है.

इतनी प्राचीन संस्कृति के बाद भी क्यों एक हिन्दुस्तानी को एक तरीके से नापा और तोला जाता है.

कुछ लोगों का मानना है कि हर इंसान को बिना किसी भेद भाव के देखा जाना चाहिए.

जैसी उसकी हरकते हो वैसे उसके साथ पेश आना चाहिए.

लेकिन एक आसान तरीका ये है कि उसको किसी ग्रुप में डाल, उसके बारे में राय कायम करी जाये, भले ही वो राय सही हो या ना हो.

लेकिन किसके पास इतना समय है, कि वो इसपे विचार करने का कष्ट करे.

परिणाम स्वरुप ये ऐसे होते हैं, वो ऐसे होते हैं, की प्रवलित राय बनने में देर नहीं लगती.

ये हमारे देश के अंदर भी बहुत होता है,


एक नार्थ इंडियन और साउथ इंडियन को अलग तरह से मापा जाता है.


क्या ये एक प्रकार से सूचना और ज्ञान में अभाव नहीं है?

और ऐसा अगर है तो क्यों है?

हमारा इतिहास क्या बिना किसी भेद भाव के रचा गया है?

क्या पुरातत्व शास्त्र (archaeology) का उपयोग बिना किसी पक्षपात के किया गया है?

अगर नहीं, तो क्या ये गवर्नमेंट या हर नागरिक की ज़िम्मेदारी नहीं बनती कि वो इसको बदले?

इसको एक छोटी सी बात मान लेना क्या हमारे आने वाले जेनेरशन के लिए अच्छी बात होगी?

जहाँ आपको विदेश में एक प्रकार का ट्रीटमेंट मिलेगा.

अगर नहीं तो हर किसी को एक भारतीय नैरेटिव के बारे में बात करनी होगी जो सच है और उसके आविष्कारों और उपयोगिताओं का व्याख्यान करे.

अगर हम इन बातों को अपने बच्चों तक नहीं पहुचायेंगे और हमेशा हमारे बच्चे किसी विदेशी के आविष्कारों के बारे में सिर्फ पढ़ेंगे,

तो उनमें गुमान कहाँ से पैदा होगा.

परिणाम ये होगा कि हमेशा वो खुद पे गुमान करने के बजाये खुद को कम आकेंगे


आने वाले दिनों में ये पूरे समाज की मानसिकता बन जाएगी.

क्या आप ऐसी मानसिकता से अपने बच्चों को नहीं बचाना चाहेंगे?

कहते है वक़्त रहते अगर काम हो जाये, तभी उसकी एहमियत होती है,

ये हम सबको खुद से पूछना है, क्या हमारे पास वक़्त बहुत ज्यादा है?

और अगर नहीं,

तो इस वक़्त में हम ऐसा क्या करके जाना चाहेंगे जो हमारे बच्चों के लिए आने वाले समय में मददगार सिद्ध होगा.

Source for the Image: https://happyrealization.com/differences-between-ego-and-self-respect/

Does being Apped means losing Humanity?

Evolution is inevitable, but have you ever wondered that we would evolve so much so as to have our entire lives and generation apped.

Ya, that’s the buzz word. Possibly anything that you can think of at the moment has been put as a service/product which can be accessed through an app. It was only yesterday that I came to know, that an app exists for funeral services as well for those who are not able to make it in time for the last riots of their loved ones.

Can you believe it? An app for a funeral service? Ironically, on one hand, where it is extraordinarily funny because of our socialization process, the way we all have been brought up in India, on the other, being apped means lot of convenience.

It means the time that earlier you might have so called wasted, can now be utilized for more productive work, though I still believe the entire concept can be questioned.

We are spending more than 70% of our time, either on our laptops or our mobile phones. Our real life conversations have gone down.


If I were to picture a typical ITied family, you would see the husband and wife doing something on their respective IT platforms and the kid, who might have just been introduced to the likes, would be trying to add friends on Whatsapp or Fb.

What we earlier referred to as the family time has now got transformed into IT time. Father doesn’t seem to have time to spend with his kids, wife or parents. The wife, especially if she is a house-wife seemed to have found some abode in the arms of the virtual. The kids love the alley of the technology that they seem to be racing into.

The only ones who are left out in this entire ITionization or Appionization or whatever you might want to refer to as are the parents of the grownups or the generation that gave birth to the so called successful techies.

I know, some of us, would want to argue, that IT has helped us remain connected with our parents. At least we have an option to either do a skype or video calling sitting somewhere in US.

I just wonder, when we were young, and when we needed our parents’ attention the most, be it being fed when we were hungry or be it when we craved for their attention when we were hurt, if our parents were to come and tell us that they were appified, I bet we wouldn’t have liked it.

It’s our time, it’s our physical presence, it’s us providing the much wanted emotional support and attention, that our parents need the most, when they become old.

Where on one hand, it’s good to learn new things, keep oneself updated with what’s happening, on the other hand, we should try not to become so ITied or apped, where we tend to lose the very essence and foundation of humanity and love.

Source for Image: https://twitter.com/appstore

Men in Uniform!

I don’t know how many times you have had the pleasure of meeting men in uniform who guard our borders day-in-day-out. But when you happen to do so, it becomes one of the most cherished moments of your life.

Few days back, I happened to meet a senior rank officer in the army. A very fit individual that he was, in spite of having served in the Army for more than 2 decades, he came across as a very well spoken and simple individual.

The simplicity was very much visible in the manner he befriended and the manner in which he went about describing various facets of his life. Though there was this one particular story he shared about how to overcome one’s fears in life is what I would like to share with you all.

Taking the liberty to quote him:

It was summers and everyone was asked as to who would want to venture out for the paratrooper training. Not everyone had the courage, those who had were supposed to give a simple test.

I was the fortunate or the unfortunate one, whatever you might want to refer to as, in that group of 20 who had showed interest for the training. We were all brought to a swimming pool and were asked to jump from a 3 m board. 

Though I was not that scared of jumping from a 3 m board, I was dead scared to drown for I was still an amateur who had mastered the art of floating in a swimming pool, that too in the not so deep side of the same. 

So, I went up to the trainer and asked him whether there would be someone to save me in case I started to drown. The trainer got infuriated and told me to bug off. Not knowing what to expect, I took a deep breath and jumped when my turn came.images 

As expected, no one came to my rescue when I was struggling to fight my way out from the swimming pool. Thinking that I wouldn’t be selected, I stood there in despair cursing myself why I hadn’t learnt swimming. 

The final list of the selected lot was announced immediately after the 20th guy had completed his jump. To my utter surprise I was selected. I felt like sitting on top of cloud nine, though I had no clue about what was to follow.

The selected lot of 16 wanna-be troopers were asked to report 5 am in the morning next day. By that time, we had all got into a habit of getting up early and were not perturbed anymore about the timelines that were provided to us. 

Perhaps, the mind and body can be tuned to become more and more disciplined and trust me there are no limits when it comes to going beyond what might be expected from you. I guess that’s why people in the army or in forces in general are able to achieve feats that a normal guy wouldn’t even imagine accomplishing. 

The manner in which we were taught to become paratroopers was immensely scientific and was made simple to the core. We were not taken directly to the skies for a jump, instead we were made what I would describe as robots who were trained to perform a routine driven set of actions which included our arms and legs and once we resorted to those actions we had no option but to be in the air trying to follow instructions for our survival. 

It’s not that we didn’t go through the fear. It’s not that those in army or forces don’t have emotions. Just that we are trained in such a wonderful manner that before going through those emotions we tend to do what is taught to us. The little mechanical steps that we take don’t give us that luxury or the option of going through our emotions, as we have no time but to react in the moment and survive. 

What a “faugee” learns is the art of survival which incorporates instant decision making (be it right or wrong), thinking on the feet and reacting to the situation at hand. Yes, planning, strategy goes hand in hand but it might be what you plan doesn’t happen and you are left with no other choice but to overcome your fears and do something which might be perceived as belonging to the category referred to as “out of the box” or “out of the world””.

We went on discussing his life before Army, during Army and what would follow after. Somehow, he had that aura and a power which could convince even myself for opting into paratrooper training, though good sense prevailed and I preferred not to venture out, though he almost had me convinced about the ultimate thing in life which everyone should at least try once in life ;).

By the time, our meeting finished, I had just two words doing rounds in my head, “RESPECT + INSPIRATION”.

Source for the Image: http://www.slideshare.net/doodla/indian-army-16316589


Being a badminton player myself and having gone through the ups and downs associated with competing in any sports, I strongly believe that athletes and players who dedicate their lives to their motivation and to the nation at the end of the day, deserve much more than what they get, especially in our country.

Was immensely disappointed seeing the state of affairs on an airport where I happen to land recently having taken a late night flight. Saw the likes of our very own badminton stars P.V. Sindhu and Srikanth Kidambi queuing up to get clearance from customs.

Imagine the kind of stress and effort that these players go through while competing in the international events. What you want the least after having gone through the gruelling is to wait for an hour or so to come out of the airport.images

Imagine if it were a Sachin Tendulkar or a Mahendra Singh Dhoni! Would our authorities ask them to queue up in the same line as other commoners? Then why this discrimination when it comes to Badminton players or any other sports for that matter.

Shouldn’t these players not be given the facilitation of not having to queue up in the same manner as any cricket player?

Though, it was wonderful having got an opportunity to get a glimpse of these players, which otherwise is a rarity, considering the celebrity status attached to each one of them, yet I believe that it’s high time we rethink about our discriminatory ways and bring all sports to the same platform of respect and honour.

Source for Image: http://www.phoenixtrowbridge.club/

Thank you माँ !

कहते हैं कि एक माँ ही अपने बच्चे को खुद से ज्यादा प्यार कर पाती है और दुनिया में ऐसा कोई और रिश्ता नहीं जो ऐसा प्यार कर सके भले ही वो एक प्रेमी का अपनी प्रेमिका के लिए हो या फिर एक पिता का अपने बच्चों के लिए.

जब हम छोटे होते हैं तो माँ ही हमारे पीछे भाग भाग कर हमें खाना खिलाती है. हमारी सारी उलटी सीधी फर्मायेशों को पूरा करने का हर प्रयास करती है. हमें चोट लगती है तो सबसे ज्यादा दर्द माँ को ही होता है. हमारी तबियत खराब होती है तो माँ ही रात रात भर जाग कर हमारे पास बैठी रहती है.

माँ ही बिना कुछ कहे हमारे मन की सारी बातें एक पल में समझ जाती है. पूरी निष्ठां और पूरे समर्पण से माँ हमारे लिए वो सब कर जाती है जो एक आम मनुष्य करने की सोच भी नहीं सकता और अगर सोच भी ले तो उसको पूरा नहीं कर सकता.

बहुत से मनोवैज्ञानिक कहते हैं कि ये सब करना हमारे समाज में सम्मान पाने का माओं के लिए एक साधन है. अगर वो ऐसा ना करें तो उन्हें इस समाज में प्रतिष्ठा और इज्जत नहीं मिलेगी जितना उन्हें ये सब कर के मिलती है.

पहले तो मैं ऐसे तर्क से इत्तेफाक नहीं रखता और एक पल को मान भी लें कि ये मनोवैज्ञानिक सच कह रहे हैं तो भी ऐसा कर पाना इतना कठिन है कि इसके पीछे कोई भी कारण हो वो सम्मानजनक और पूजनीय ही हो सकता है.

इसलिए जब भी हमारे मन में अपनी माँ के प्रति ऐसा कोई भाव आये या हमें ऐसा लगे कि हम आत्मनिर्भर हैं तो हमें यही सोच लेना चाहिए कि आज जो कुछ भी हम हैं वो सिर्फ और सिर्फ अपनी माँ की वजह से ही हैं.

कहते हैं जो वास्तु हमें बहुत आसानी से प्राप्त हो जाती है उसकी हमें क़द्र नहीं होती. माँ हमारे जीवन में एक ऐसी महत्त्वपूर्ण इंसान हैं, जिनके बिना हमारा कुछ कर पाना तो दूर की बात, अगर वो नहीं होती तो हम सांस भी नहीं ले पा रहे होते.

हाँ ये बात अलग है कि एक माँ कभी भी अपने बच्चों पे एहसान या हक़ नहीं जमाती ये कह के कि मैंने तुम्हारे लिए कितना किया. इसीलिए शायद कभी कभी हमारे अंदर का इंसान अपनी इंसानियत भूल जाता है.

और हम उसी माँ के बुढ़ापे का सहारा बन्ने के बजाये उसे ऐसे मौके पे अकेला छोड़ के अपने निजी सपनो को पूरा करने में लग जाते हैं. हम ये भूल जाते हैं कि हमारे उन्ही सपनो का निर्माण हमारी माँ ने ही किया था. और अगर वो ऐसा नहीं करती तो न हम होते और न हमारे ये सपने.

मुझे नहीं पता कि भगवान् हैं या नहीं. मुझे नहीं पता कि हम इस ज़िन्दगी को जीने के पश्चात किस रूप में कहाँ और क्या कर रहे होंगे. मुझे नहीं पता कि हम फिर से मनुष्य योनी में जन्म लेंगे या नहीं. मुझे नहीं पता कि इस संसार में आने का क्या लक्ष्य है.mother-child

पर मुझे ये ज़रूर पता है कि हमें अपने माता पिता का पूरी श्रधा और पूरे सम्मान और आदर के साथ ख्याल रखना चाहिए, केवल इसलिए नहीं कि उन्होंने हमारे लिए ये सब किया पर इसलिए भी क्योंकि उन्ही से हमारा अस्तित्व है और उन्ही से हमारी सफलता या असफलता.

After reading what I have just written some would be compelled to believe that today is the mother’s day. But even if it is not, I believe there is not a single day that goes by when you
cannot but thank your mother for whatever she has done for you and continues to do so without any expectation what so ever.

Such great and high is her stature that nothing else in the World can match up to the dedication and sincerity that a mother has for her kid. Even a father cannot replicate the same kind of love and affection that a mother has for her child.

That’s why it is said, एक माँ का स्थान इश्वर से भी ऊचा होता है. Today, through thishumble post of mine, I want to give a tribute to all the mothers out there who toil in selflessly day-in-day-out just to make sure that their kids and family get all the happiness in this

Source for Image: http://acelebrationofwomen.org/2013/05/on-mothers-day-its-you-and-me-against-the-world-may-12/