The Chemistry Boy!

Did you hear the recent news of this Chemistry boy who committed suicide?

No?

Don’t tell me,

For there are hundreds and thousands waiting in the cue,

Oh, you didn’t know that?

Surprising enough,

For they exist in every nook and corner of our classrooms,

Kids,

Who are made to sit in every possible class they don’t enjoy,

Who are ridiculed for every answer they are not able to provide to their teachers,

Who is made to feel humiliated just because a kid sitting next to them has read that encyclopedia and let’s say has better memory,

And

Why would we even be concerned about this?

Isn’t every kid suppose to top that academic exam?

No matter

Whether they like studying or not!

Whether they have other interests in life!

Whether they would be much better off doing something else rather than mugging up a friend’s notes!

Are we as a society open enough to understand this?

That kids are not rats after all,

And

Hence there is no rat race here,

Can we let them be just kids?

Who are meant to spread joy through their vibrant persona,

Who are meant to fill our lives with laughter and enthusiasm,

Who are meant to be supported at every point in their lives,

As a generation,

If we let that chemistry hating boy to commit suicide every now and then,

We are indeed a waste of life,

The only question being,

Do we want to be one?

Source for the Image: https://www.twenty20.com/photos/f964b230-3021-4924-9fb3-59985ca1feda

Doggies!

For those who happen to live in apartments,

Many a times,

Whom you find as company in an elevator,

Is the owner along with their dogs,

Today, I happened to be in company with not one but two of these,

One Nimbus and the other named Coco,

Now Nimbus was excited to be in the same elevator as Coco,

Much to the discomfort of fellow travellers who happened not to be dog lovers,

Of course, not for owners and the other dog lovers,

For Nimbus’ love for Coco at first sight,

Made him jump around in the not so big an elevator,

Owners, a girl and the other a boy,

Smiling at the sight of their dogs’ budding love,

Seemed to be falling for each other as well,

Can bet they would have shared their numbers before getting out,

If not for themselves,

Surely for Nimbus and Coco,

Can understand that our world is full of different creatures,

Who believe in the act of peaceful coexistence,

And surely the love for few of them is much appreciated,

Yet,

Untrained dogs and over excited owners may cause discomfort for the creatures whom we refer to as Homo Sapiens,

So,

Why be partial to just spreading the concept of peaceful coexistence to dogs,

Why not become more inclusive to our own species, the other Sapiens!

Source for the Image: https://unsplash.com/s/photos/doggies

Real Freedom!

Every year it comes and goes,

Flag is hoisted,

National anthem is played,

We all get goose-bumps,

And life moves on,

Without realizing what freedom could mean in the truest sense,

After all,

Society is nothing but a conglomeration of its residents,

And

If the residents themselves are not free,

What could freedom intend mean!

Free from one’s biases,

Free from one’s judgments,

and

Free from forming quick opinions,

Question being,

Are we ready to take that first step towards freedom?

Source for the Image: https://zinginstruments.com/songs-about-freedom/

At-Ti-Tu-Dine!

A disclaimer right away for this post:

Might have an inherent bias!

If you are wondering what am referring to,

Let me throw few names at you:

Ajeet Singh Kushwaha, Shweta Dasgupta, Saurabh Saxena, Anirudh Syal, Tushar Garg, Vivek Joshi, Jitendra Singh;

What do you think they have in common?

Successful in life, Yes!

Founders, VPs, Directors etc. Yes!

Worked hard at one point of time to become IITians, Yes!

Let me also throw few other names at you:

Ritu Ashar, Atul Satija, Sarita Raichura, Sangeeta Beri, Buta Singh, Parvati Matkate, Zaheer Adenwala, Rahul Varma,

Successful in life, Yes!

Founders, VPs, Directors etc. Yes!

IITians or not,

IIMians or not,

ISBians or not,

Harvardians or not,

Stanfordians or not,

or

Whatever IANS or not,

If you want to emulate the journey and derive inspiration,

or

Somewhat be like the folks similar to the ones mentioned above,

What matters in life is to have the right kind of ATTITUDE towards:

The very concept of success to begin with,

The near and dear ones in life,

A cause that draws you to put all in and work hard,

That routine that you follow day-in-day out to accomplish that very thing,

and

That dire need and responsibility to make a contribution in and give back to the society,

Which, by the way, has contributed immensely in making us who we are today!

Source for the image: https://forbesbooks.com/can-one-bad-attitude-destroy-your-team/, https://www.purewow.com/wellness/positive-mental-attitude

Being D!

The world is a market and companies and professionals are here to serve the much sought after consumer. Really?

Well majority might say so, but what about the few who don’t really agree to this line of thought?

They are the ones who score least in courses they take in their MBA batch. 

They are the ones who don’t get the coveted jobs after graduating.

They are the ones who are labelled philosophers or outliers.

They are the ones who don’t get the limelight.

Yet, they are the ones who work towards becoming the best version of them. 

They are the ones who slowly but surely crawl towards greatness.

They are the ones who find innovative and novel ways to attract the so called consumers (pulling them towards their offerings rather than pushing and forcing their offerings on them)

They are the ones who would be found in the much sought after Forbes 30 under 30 or 40 under 40.

The choice is yours.

Whether you want to grow up into becoming agreeable beings meeting the norms and benchmarks of the society. 

Or

You want to think and act different not for the sake of it, but because you see value in being different. 

Source for the Image: https://www.pexels.com/search/different/, https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/different-from-or-different-than

गाँधी और बंदर

बंदरों का हम सबकी ज़िन्दगी में बहुत अहम् रोल रहा है.

चाहे वो हमारा एवोल्यूशन ही क्यों ना हो

या फिर

बुराई को ना देखने का, ना सुनने का और ना बोलने की हिदायत ही क्यों ना हो.

कहते हैं अच्छी चीज़ों पे फोकस करो तो ज़िन्दगी हसीन लगने लगती है,

हर इंसान के अच्छे पहलू पे फोकस करने को डेल कार्नेगी भी लिख गए है.

पर जैसे ही इन किताबों का हैंगओवर पूरा होता है,

और

गांधीजी कहीं किसी कहानी में खो जाते हैं,

फिर वही हम और हमारी क्रिटिकल शक्की नजरिया,

ये ऐसा है,

ये वैसा है,

इसने मुझे ये कैसे कहा,

उसने मुझे ऐसा कह दिया,

मुझे इसने इज़्ज़त नहीं नवाज़ी,

उसने मुझे गरिया दिया,

शिकायती टट्टू बनने में हमें बिलकुल देर नहीं लगती,

आज सुबह जब मैं कैब में आ रहा था,

तब ट्रैफिक में चलते हुए लोगों की आपा धापी देख के मैं घबरा गया,

पहले गुस्सा आया दुनिया के इस रवैये पे,

फिर दूसरे पल मैंने एक चिंता का मखौटा पहन लिया,

चिंता के बाद कुछ ना कर पाने की हताशे में मैं डूबने ही वाला था,

तभी

गांधीजी के तीन बंदरों की छवि मेरे समक्ष आ गयी और मैं हस पड़ा,

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इससे मैं टेंशन मुक्त तो हो गया

पर

क्या यही एक रास्ता है इन सब से पीछा छुड़ाने का,

ये विचार करने लगा,

आपको क्या लगता है,

इस बदलते समय में जिस तरफ हमारा देश और दुनिया अग्रसर है,

चाहे वो हो रहे रेप या हत्याएं हो,

चाहे वो सड़क पे बढ़ता हुआ गुस्सा और अग्रेशन हो,

चाहे वो पैसे के पीछे भागने की होड़ हो,

चाहे वो वैल्यू सिस्टम का समाप्त होना हो,

चाहे वो माँ बाप की सेवा करने से हाथ धो लेना हो,

चाहे वो इस वातावरण को तहस नहस कर देने का हमारा व्यवहार हो,

या

चाहे सिर्फ अपने बारे में सोचने की आदत हो,

क्या सिर्फ अच्छे पहलू को देखना ही इसका एक मात्र उत्तर है,

और अगर नहीं,

तो क्या हम सबको अपने अपने लेवल पे एफर्ट करने की ज़रुरत नहीं है,

इस ज़िम्मेदारी को हम सबको समझने की बहुत ज़रुरत है,

जिससे एक अच्छे सोसाइटी का निर्माण किया जा सके,

इसके लिए हमें गांधीजी के उन तीन बंदरों को इगनोर करना ही क्यों ना पड़े,

सवाल बस इतना सा है दोस्तों,

क्या हम खुद से ऊपर उठ कर

इस दुनिया में जी रहे और लोगों जीव जंतुओं के बारे में सोच कर

एक सही सिस्टम के निर्माण का निर्णय लेने को तैयार है या नहीं?

Source for the Image: https://navbharattimes.indiatimes.com/other/sunday-nbt/future-stars/three-monkeys-of-gandhi/articleshow/29820353.cms

Work Ethics

Possibly the most discussed aspect in any sector or office,

A concept which has given sleepless nights to the senior leadership team and in turn HR.

Let us delve into a certain perspective which the term has to offer to the world.

Going by the definitions:

Work, simply put, is the effort one takes to accomplish a task,

Ethics, on the other hand, is the principles that may guide an individual’s actions.

Two combined, it has a powerful connotation where one is evaluated on the basis of the:

core values that one has

and

the commitment that one is ready to put to achieve a certain goal, which is

Created by an entity, which in an ideal situation, one should have bought in before joining a certain company.

More often than not, people have their own compulsions or reasons for taking up a certain role,

Be it at a personal level, where one feels compelled to do certain things for their and their family’s survival,

Be it the act of exploration where one is not sure what one needs to do or is capable of doing,

Be it the time pass they would want to do, simply because they prefer not to sit at home,

or

Be it the interest and motivation to work in a certain field, one has;

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Whatever that all important reason be for an individual for accepting the offer letter,

Bottom line: Once one commits, one should meet that commitment. 

In today’s world, words have become just a loose way of expressing things,

Yesterday, one could say something and today one may come up with a totally opposite version of the same,

Such loose conversations and commitments has somewhat become a way of life for:

millennials  in general

and

GenZ s in particular,

Reflective of the kind of value system and lack of trust that persists in our society,

Be it the reinforcement from parents,

or

Be it the reinforcement from teachers, peers and the schools,

The end product, in the form of grown-ups seem to be a cohort which is:

Insecure, about their own competence, finding excuses,

Imbalanced, when it comes to handling personal and professional situations,

and

Reactive, at times because of being born with a golden spoon,

Having said the above, all is not lost. The challenge for us as a society being:

How we channel the enthusiasm and energy in a direction which ultimately leads to satisfaction at a personal and professional front!

Which requires a systemic change.

The only question is:

Are we all willing to do so as a society for everyone’s well being?

Source for the Image: https://www.proschoolonline.com/blog/work-ethics-avoid-conflicts-at-workplace

Willingly!

One of the most used words I feel is willingness, or want or liking or the intention of what one might want to do in life.

Though, the understanding behind that willingness to set goals seem to be a little misunderstood when it comes to their alignment with the very aspect of what living is all about.

Willingness to accumulate,

Willingness to be successful, though we can have a much larger debate on the very definition of it,

Willingness to be doing a certain no. of trips in Europe or some other so called exotic locations on this planet,

Willingness to be treated significant,

Willingness to be at the top of your game, whatever it might be and whatever one might consider it suited to his/her wants,

I can go on and on with the prevalent willingness in the society.

But hold on, let us delve into it a bit more.

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What is needed in this country is the willingness to restore the status of its economy as it might have existed at one point of time in the ancient history and wisdom of this nation.

Does it mean increasing the interest rates by RBI?

Well, may be not, as it leads to reduced purchasing power, leading to shutting down of many SMEs.

Does it mean creating a culture of entrepreneurship in our country, aimed at solving issues in community?

May be yes,

May be it needs some kind of a support from the society in order to enable people to come forward and take up issues in their surroundings, be it the banks or in turn the government at the policy level of it,

Does it require reducing the cost of capital?

May be yes, but more so, building an ecosystem and structure in this country, which enable the very fundamentals of the same.

Don’t you think, it’s an excellent opportunity for the budding brains of this country to take up this and become relevant when it comes to the very fundamentals of life?

Well, if the willingness is there, the means can surely be figured out!

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Comparison Kills?

A series of incidents:

A guy born and brought up in an effluent family in India, goes to Canada to pursue his higher studies and commits suicide for the want of not being able to meet his own expectations, based on the comparison he draws with his classmate.

A guy makes it to a premier institute in India and commits suicide while in his final year, because he gets an F (fail) in one of the courses.

Makes one ponder what kind of society one is living in and the kind of upbringing it has to offer to the next generation.

Conditioned from the childhood itself to draw comparisons,

Conditioned to compete and be a part of the rat race,

Conditioned to jump to conclusions for the want of immediate gratification and not having a long-term perspective in mind,

Conditioned to think in a manner which might make no sense at all to the very fundamentals of life,

Is this what we desire for our kids and the next generation?

Is this what’s the purpose was to bring a new life in this world?

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Well, it’s high time, one delves into the above questions and begin to change the way we all have got habituated to living our lives in a senseless manner.

For, if we don’t respond, the day is not far, when such inclinations might become the only guiding force in life, needless to say, leading to a much worse situation that what it is right now.

The question though is, do we have the mindset and willingness to bring about this change?

Source for the Image: http://www.differencebetween.info/difference-between-comparison-and-difference

Trusting the Trust!

Trust, somehow, has always been and will continue to remain the basis on which every transaction or interaction takes place in our society.

Be it the coming together of two individuals in the form of a marriage,

Be it a patient going to a doctor for treatment,

Be it buying something online,

Be it the very communication between individuals where the parties accept what the other party has to offer in terms of advice, suggestions etc.,

Be it the evidence that is presented in the court of law,

or

Be it the advice that parents give to their kids which they follow,

I can go on and on with the examples of the very application of this 5 letter word Trust, which has had its etymology which mean protection, comfort, solace etc.

When we talk of protection, comfort or solace, on most occasions, we are referring to a 2nd or a 3rd party who is there to look after the very aspect, and possibly the need for an outside intervention not concerning the parties involved.

Which makes me somehow wonder, that trusting the trust in itself has become an act which is let’s say, has become more difficult than trusting an outsider/3rd party unknown to the very parties, assuming that the 3rd party will have all the sense to derive comprehensive conclusions, on the basis of presentation of few facts and evidence.

The very basis of justice has gone into the hands of the 3rd parties, who, at times, are completely oblivious of the situation at hand, yet have to depend on a drama that somehow unfolds in front of their eyes in a court of law. shutterstock_250176199

As a consequence, we are seeing, increase in the number of cases being filed, decrease in the level of patience and adjustment that also seems to reflect one stabilizing factor in every society and most important of all, leading to mental instability and deterioration of mental health coefficient of a society as a whole.

Be it the greed,

Be it the jealousy,

Be it the hatred,

or

Be it the fear,

All the above lead to reduction in our ability to trust and leads to disintegration of the fundamental reason why we all exist together.

Don’t you think, it’s high time, we start to trust again, if not for the very act of it, than surely for maintaining the much required stability of our societies?

For, if trusting the trust becomes an act beyond our reach, then we are headed in just one direction, which we all refer to as destruction, first of self and of course of the society.

Source for the Image: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/trust-business-relationship-marketing-space-michael-cherry