The Maalish Waala!

What can a maalish waala possibly teach you in life? If you are thinking just the same and if you are wondering what he could indeed have taught me this very morning, then you cannot afford to miss upon what I am just going to narrate below, taking the liberty of citing the man at times and taking cues from the conversation that I had with him.how-olive-oil-works-3

कहते हैं कि लोग किसी के पास बिना किसी वजह के नहीं जाते. यहाँ तो साहब मंत्री से लेके उनके चपरासी तक सभी आते हैं. मैं ये अपना सौभाग्य समझता हूँ कि मुझे इनकी सेवा करने का अवसर प्राप्त होता है. ज़रूर मैंने पिछले जन्म में कोई अच्छे कर्म ही किये होंगे जो आज मुझे इतने लोगों की तकलीफ दूर करने का एक मौका मिल रहा है.

ऐसा नहीं है कि मैं हमेशा एक सामान सोचता था. मेरे पिताजी जब शुरू में ये काम करते थे और उनके पास अनेक लोग आते थे, तब मैं अक्सर उन लोगों का रवैया देख काफी परेशान हो जाया करता था. मुझे लगता था कि इन लोगो को हमारी तकलीफ क्यों नहीं नज़र आती. बदले में क्या वो हमारे लिए ऐसे काम जो उनके स्थर पे काफी छोटे ही माने जायेंगे, नहीं करा सकते. और अगर नहीं करा सकते तो हम उनकी तकलीफ क्यों दूर करें.

ऐसे ही एक दिन इसी उधेर बुन में अपने पिताजी से मैंने पूछा कि वो क्यों करते हैं ये सब. तो उन्होंने मुझसे कहा, हर चीज़ पैसों या आपकी ज़रूरतों से नहीं तौली जा सकती. हर किसी को किसी से कोई न कोई फायदा ही हो, ये ज़रूरी नहीं. भगवान् कि दुआ है कि उन्होंने तुम्हारे पिता को इस हुनर से नवाज़ा. कहते हैं डॉक्टर भगवान् का ही रूप होते हैं. हाँ मैं मानता हूँ कि मेरे पास वो सारी डिग्री नहीं हैं जो एक डॉक्टर के पास होती है लेकिन भगवान् ने मुझे सबसे बड़ी डिग्री दी है और वो है दूसरों को ठीक कर पाने कि क्षमता. इसी इश्वर द्वारा दिए हुनर का सद्पूर्वक प्रयोग कर पाना ही मेरा सबसे बड़ा धर्म और कर्त्तव्य भी है.

उस दिन के बाद ना मैंने कभी उनसे कुछ पूछा नाही कभी किसी और के हमारे लिए कुछ ना करने पे टिपण्णी की. अपने पिता से ये हुनर सीखने के पश्चात मैं भी इसी में उनकी मदद करने लगा. मेरे पिता का ये मानना था की क्योंकि ये भगवान् की हमारे ऊपर कृपा थी, इसलिए हमें इसका कदापि दुर्रुप्योग नहीं करना चाहिए. वो हमेशा से यही चाहते थे की हम गरीबो का इलाज मुफ्त में ही करें. जो दे सकता था उससे ले लेते थे, और जो देने में सक्षम नहीं था उसका इलाज हम ऐसे ही कर देते थे.

लेकिन कभी कभी लोग हमारे इस बर्ताव का गलत इस्तमाल करने लगते हैं और पैसा होते हुए भी हमें नहीं देना चाहते हैं. बहुत सारे बड़े अधिकारी आते हैं जो हमसे ये उम्मीद रखते हैं कि हम उनका इलाज मुफ्त में ही कर दें. कभी कभी डर के तो कभी ये सोच के कि हमें पैसे के बारे में ज्यादा नहीं सोचना चाहिए हम इन बातों को अनदेखा कर देते हैं.

औरों को देख के कभी कबार बस यही लगता है, कि जब हम इस तरह से अपना जीवन संतोषपूर्वक व्यतीत कर सकते हैं तो और लोग क्यों नहीं. कभी कभी ये मन में ख्याल आता है कि लोगों को कितना पैसा चाहिए. हर कोई एक दुसरे को पीछे छोड़ देने कि होड़ में लगा हुआ है. जितना ही जो ज्यादा पैसा कमा रहा है उसकी और कमाने कि चाह बढती जा रही है. भले ही वो एक बड़ा सा डॉक्टर या बड़े से बड़ा अधिकारी क्यों ना हो.

जब भी अपने बच्चे को देखता हूँ साहब तो मन में एक अजीब सा डर बैठ जाता है कि आने वाले दिनों में किस प्रकार कि स्थिति उत्पन हो जायेगी. पता नहीं मेरा बीटा इन सब के बीच में कैसे रह पायेगा. पता नहीं वो अपना रह गुज़र कैसे कर पायेगा. मगर एक बात तो तय है साहब, मैं अपने बेटे को भी वही सारी शिक्षा देना चाहूँगा जो मेरे पिताजी ने मुझे दी. इसीलिए शायद आज तक मैं अपना सर उठा के संतोष से जीवन व्यतीत कर पा रहा हूँ.Embedding_Ethics_in_Engineering_Education-hero

After having had that conversation with the man, I had no words left in my system. This whole conversation was more than enough to send me down my memory lane. On one hand, where I could remember all the words that my father had spoken to me once, as a child, on the other hand, I was amazed at the kind of ethics and morality that the man had demonstrated, considering the fact that a man in his position might not think in the same manner as he does and might not be so calm about the fact that he is barely able to earn a day’s living and even then, he sees his profession as a mere reflection of what the God has bestowed upon him.

Truly an inspiration and hats off to the guy for being the person that he is!

Source for Image: http://recipes.howstuffworks.com/how-olive-oil-works3.htm, http://www.asme.org/kb/news—articles/articles/engineering-ethics/embedding-ethics-in-engineering-education

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The Words of Wisdom!

Yesterday, I had the fortune of meeting a person whom I have admired throughout my life and has been a source of inspiration whenever I found myself down and out. It was probably the last time that I was meeting him.

The man is in his late nineties and is on a ventilator. It is an irony that a man who has been instrumental in breathing life in so many, is now himself struggling to get that one gasp of air and is surviving, courtesy the ventilator that has come to his rescue.

On entering his room in the hospital, the sight of him lying on a bed with the ventilator on, brought tears in my eyes and I could barely speak. As had always been the case, and true to his nature, he took the initiative of breaking the silence that had ensued there in the room.wisdom

Kush, how have you been, son?” Even in the state that he happens to find himself in, the sight of seeing someone he knows, springs him back into the positivity that I have always found associated with him.

Son, I was wondering whether I will be able to meet you before I bid adieu to this world.” He carried on as I sat next to his bed on a chair.

You know, Kush, I have had a great life and have no regrets what so ever. But sometimes, I feel bemused by the kind of importance we tend to give to certain things at certain point of time in our lives. How insignificant they are, we only realize when, say, we are on our death bed. May be, that is because our priorities and the maturity level associated with the same are bound to change with time and I guess it is a natural progression for one to be moving through all the ashrams that are so well described in our Hindu religious texts.

It is only now, that I realize what a great man my father was. What great thinking he possessed. With the kind of simplicity that he led his life, he was sure to derive immense pleasure and satisfaction. He always used to tell me about the virtues associated with simple living and high thinking. But how naive I was at that time, to have not taken him seriously. I guess that’s because of the generation gap that we had amongst us and no matter how hard he tried explaining the same to me, I wouldn’t listen believing that what I thought was right.

Now, when I tell my children the same things, they don’t take me seriously. I am sure they will only realize when their time would come. This makes me wonder about how well this cycle of life is inscribed on our slate of destiny. At the end of the day, all the materialistic pleasures and things like ego, self-esteem don’t really matter. What you leave behind is your deeds and emotions and reactions associated with those deeds. It is your choice, after all as to how you would want to be remembered once you are gone.

As he spoke, the doctor walked in, “Mr. Sharma, how are you feeling you? You are not supposed to talk this much. So take some rest.”

Doctor, these are possibly going to be my last words. And here you are telling me to withhold even these.” He smiled back at the doctor, who signalled at me, that it was time for the check up and that I needed to leave.

I got up from the chair and took his blessings. As I walked out of the room, I wondered whether I will be able to see him again and the words of wisdom that he had spoken resonated inside me: “What you leave behind is your deeds and emotions and reactions associated with those deeds. It is your choice, after all as to how you would want to be remembered once you are gone.

On second thoughts, does it really matter how one remembers us? Does it have any kind of bearing on what we are going to do when we are gone from here? And for that matter, should we really care about the manner in which this world might want to look at us?Doing-Good_web

Well, to be frank, the answer to all the above lies in, “it won’t really matter once we are gone.” But somehow, whether we like it or not, we do leave a legacy behind us in the form of our children and grandchildren. So, even if we are being really selfish and are concerned about ourselves and even if doing good in this kalyug might not be the aim of our lives, we cannot just ignore our near and dear ones, as they are the ones who might have to bear the brunt of all what we did in our lives.

In that case, the best option is to chose a path where one is able to do good for others and to others. I agree that it might not be the easiest of paths to tread, but one thing that I can assure you is that it is indeed one of the most satisfying of paths that you will ever tread in your life.

Source for Image: http://www.placeofblissacademy.com/Wisdom-Sanctuary.html, http://www.unitedmethodistreporter.com/2012/07/qa-doing-good-being-holy/

 

The Chulli Effect!

What a night it is turning out to be! I haven’t slept. It’s already 5:15 a.m. in the morning. Good food, great friends and some awesome bulla (talks), what more does one need in life? 😉

It is quite amazing and entertaining at the same time, that we don’t get tired of talking about our college days and the events ensued in there again and again with similar passion that we possessed when we talked about the same for the first time.

And today, we happened to be talking about a phenomenon which I would like to call the chulli effect. When you enter college, you don’t tend to have a maturity level which would allow you to understand various aspects of life, which can be easily comprehended, say 2-3 years down the line, after having graduated from the same.

To my surprise, this phenomenon was not only known to everyone in college but was also used strategically at times. Now, let me first define the phenomenon for you. Only then you will be able to appreciate whatever I am talking.

Suppose, someone tells you a well kept secret of his/her life and requests you not to tell it to anyone else. You agree to the same, but there is this uneasiness and restlessness both inside you and the person who told you the secret, which forces you to tell it to anyone and everyone whom you possibly can and forces the person who told you the secret to tell it to you. Such kind of arousal inside a person is what I call the chulli effect.urge

There are two stakeholders to this contract. The one who tells a secret, who cannot help himself/herself from revealing the truth as it is too much for him/her to handle and keep it inside him/her. The second stakeholder is the person who promises that he/she won’t tell it to anyone.

Strange as it might sound, a secret remains a secret only when it is known to you. The moment you tell a second person about the same, rest assured that it will be known to every significant and insignificant person in your life. So, think twice before you tell a secret to anyone in the World.

How many times have we heard what I have just mentioned in the previous couple of lines? I guess, innumerous number of times and yet we are unable to prevent this urge from surfacing in our life.

Without going into the psychology as to why we are not successful at keeping this urge (chulli) in check, I would like to tell you about this effect which was used strategically by some in college in such a subtle manner that you would only realize it when it has happened to you twice or thrice.

There used to be some real smart guys and girls in our college. Before telling you about such guys, let me ask you this simple question. If you have to tell something to others and you want to make it a propaganda of sorts, then what would you normally do?

I guess, you would go to the persons you want them to know about this and tell them straightaway. But what these witty and smart guys used to do was that they would go to one person with the strongest urge on planet Earth and would reveal their well kept secret to this guy/girl. Before leaving they would request this guy/girl not to tell it to anyone.

The moment that information was received by the guy/girl with the most amount of chulli, it used to spread like a virus in the entire campus, thereby spreading the word around and ensuring that these witty guys achieved what they wanted at the end of the day, and which was to spread the word around about a well kept secret. (sometimes I wonder whether the term viral marketing has had its origins in this chulli effect concept)

As a result, these witty guys would use this chulli concept in order to create a buzz in the campus. What their intentions might be behind doing the same is a different issue altogether and can be talked about separately 😉 .

But the crux of the matter lies in utilization of this phenomenon to one’s advantage. I guess these witty guys are the ones, who have tasted success the most, particularly in the private sector.

Why they have been so successful is quite obvious, considering that they have been real street smart throughout their entire lives. They have understood the concept better than most of the others and have been able to put it into practice, thereby reaping the benefits of their sowed comprehension.

So, the question that comes to mind after reading all the above is, have these street smart and witty people been able to overcome their chulli in life? Well, if they had they wouldn’t be telling their well kept secret to anyone for that matter. But they do tell and ensure that they use this phenomenon to the best of their capability at the same time ensuring that it works in their favour.

These people have conquered the art of using this urge (chulli) so perfectly that it has become very much a part of their lives. No doubt, they have turned out to be successful, but what about the credibility of the same person, in case the others come to know about the strategy that he/she might have been using all through in his/her life in order to meet his/her ends.

On second thoughts, some might be tempted to suggest that the chulli effect can be used in a positive manner as well. It all depends on what your aim is and what you intend to achieve by using this phenomenon.repentance

Very true, indeed! There are always two aspects of the same thing. One aspect motivates and enables you to chose the so called right/moral path. The other one, which is often easier than the first, tells you about what all you can achieve by behaving in a notorious manner and in turn makes you lose control of yourself.

As a result, one ends up indulging in things which one might repent for, sometime later in life. So, before you try to use this phenomenon, think twice about the intentions and aim behind using the same and the consequences that might follow such an action.

At the end of the day, it is you, who will be sole decision maker when it comes to making the right choices in your life and you better be upto it, for you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with a lot of repentance.

Source for Image: http://www.blogussion.com/community/urge-community-response/, http://www.gaychristian101.com/Repentance.html