Par-Dharma!

Where is this all heading?

Well being or a disaster?

Many psychological scientific studies tell us that kids learn what they observe.

No matter how much one preaches, they learn by observing what’s happening around them.

The question is are they being exposed to the right kind of environment that they should be?

Considering,

The tv shows, and movies depicting all kinds of violence,

The fights that happen in the family,

The never ending effort of trying to fulfill the pleasures of life becoming a benchmark from such a young age,

As a parent, does that mean keeping one’s kids in a protective environment,

Making them go to schools, which demonstrate the right set of values,

Yes and no!

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For they would surely be exposed to the practicalities of this society, the existing situations,

Which they would need to face and make a choice for themselves,

Does it mean giving them the right tools to be able to make that all important choice?

That’s where charitra nirmaan (building one’s character) becomes the key to their well being and in turn that of the society.

One may ask how can this be done?

Well, to each their own, few may say,

The fundamentals of it though, for parents remain the same,

Be it treating your kids as adults and spending with them as much time that one can, discussing the intricacies of why the kids consider something as right or wrong,

Be it leading by example, and becoming role models for your kids to emulate,

Be it inculcating a critical feeling of inclusiveness in them, for their well being lies in the well being of others and the society,

No matter whether your parents did it with you!

No matter whether you had to learn it the hard way!

No matter there was no friend, philosopher or guide holding your hands at every step!

May be the time has come for all parents/elders to do all that what their dharma of being in the capacity tells them to.

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F.A.T. Syndrome!

For some it could mean a distorted Body Mass Index (BMI), for some it might mean a big fat wedding, but for the gentleman whom I happened to meet yesterday simply out of no where and who seemed to have mastered the Art of Living (not the one founded by Mr. Ravi Shankar) but the one which we seemed to live in as a society on a day-to-day basis, wants to define it as, F.A.T.=For All Time, and seems to suggest that we as a society have got affected by the ever so pervading For All Time sake Syndrome.

Wondering what it could mean, well, to start with, it means a fancy intuition about everything’s gonna last for ever and ever, and living your life according to the same belief.

Which might translate into:

Filling up our bank accounts like never before for your generations to follow,

Accumulating loads of assets which gives you so called materialistic happiness,

Loading up your bellies with more than required calories, which in a way also is suggestive of the fact that you are creating an imbalance between what your body demands and what you and your heart supplies to the same, leading to different kind of complications when it comes to your health and well being, 

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Working 20 hours a day for someone or something that you wouldn’t otherwise care about, if it was not offering you the kind of remuneration it does and as a consequence creating a whiff of negativity and chaos wherever you go to, just because you are kind of not happy with the life that you might be leading, 

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On the contrary, one could have a not so negative connotation of F.A.T. as well. It could mean for all time sake:

Taking a cue from the ancient past and looking at what we as a society used to value at some point of time in our histories, 

Looking at the role models of the previous as well as our own era, who have lived their lives with values and ethics which one would want to emulate, 

Getting inspired by those who are dedicating their lives to making this planet a better place to live in, 

Emulating the sustainable manner of living, which not only brings happiness and prosperity to our planet but would also allow our future generations to derive benefits from the same. 

After all, for all time sake, isn’t it a good idea to leave this place a much better one than what you were given by your prior generation?

Source for the Image: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jF7TqzPP38A

Doc! Is it time?

An extremely moving conversation that I had with one of the most renowned doctors in the country and a part of which I would definitely want to share with all (for I believe it’s one of the most important food for thoughts you might want to delve deep into) about what happens when a patient is courageous enough to ask whether it’s time.

You see, the word doctor in itself is derived from something which means ‘to teach’. Often people think, it’s very convenient for a doctor to witness someone dying in front of their eyes.”

Trust me, it’s the most difficult and the most moving of things, no matter how habitual we become of the same, feeling utterly disgusted with the lack of capabilities we docs seem to possess coupled with the plethora of agony and emotions that we get to witness on a daily basis

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And when a patient is courageous enough to ask, whether it’s time, it leaves us no scope and puts us under a situation which is dreaded by every doc worldwide, no matter how logical and practical it might sound to be.”

On the basis of the little knowledge that we docs seem to have, we do have a probable guess about the chances, yet who are we to deny that miracles don’t happen.”

On one hand, by letting the patient and the family know about the probables, gives them time to spend the same in the most meaningful of manners in which they can; on the other hand, what if we are wrong about the probables, what if miracle was supposed to happen but didn’t, what if the patient wanted to undergo the treatment, yet we deprived him/her of the same, and many such questions tend to haunt us day-in-day-out

At the end of the day, it comes down to a very basic question, what are docs there for?Are they there for relieving one of their suffering, do they exist because one day, they might be able to become capable of creating miracles? Or there existence in turn enables them ‘to teach’ one how to die in the most joyful manner and to facilitate the same.”

After all, the only certainty in our lives is death itself. For patients, ‘letting go’ might be the toughest of tasks they have ever done, but for doctors, may be they were meant to become a friend, philosopher and guide in the last stages of the bliss, very fondly referred to as life, bestowed upon every individual by the creator himself/herself.”

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